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*Psychological question* Is my way of dealing with romantic feelings unhealthy?
2016-03-12 23:57:36 Post No. 16908764
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*Psychological question* Is my way of dealing with romantic feelings unhealthy?
Anonymous
2016-03-12 23:57:36
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I'm 19, and my romantic life has been as follows
Fell in love with a woman I never dated in high school.
Dated a girl I was into at the time, but our differences drifted us apart. Only woman I've had sex with.
Was seeing another girl off and on for six months.
I've been "into" other girls before, but nothing like the three above. Sometimes there are strangers, like the other night a girl approached me at a concert, chatted me up, offered to buy me a drink, etc. Felt a connection with her. She wandered off without me noticing before I asked for her number. Those will usually stick around in my head for the next week and then I forget about them for the most part.
But with any woman that get's stuck in my head for an elongated period of time, I have a system for "losing any feelings for them" which is where instead of dwelling on any feelings I had for them, I just masturbate to them. When I just sexualize them as objects to dominate instead of people that I had strong feelings for, it makes me forget about any romantic feelings I had for them. In turn, it makes the process of getting over them extremely easy.
Is this a healthy way of processing my emotions? I still treat them with respect and as human beings when I see them in public, but it's the only way I know how to but a cap and diminish my feelings for them.