I was invited to a party tonight, and I've never been to one before. The person who invited me doesn't know me all that well, and I'm sure that I won't know anyone there. I'm getting really anxious here, guys, I only have a couple of hours to decide whether or not I go. What do I do? What should I expect?
OK, I'm assuming you're a guy and that this is a house party and not a sit down event.
Turn up about 30-45 minutes late. Bring some alcohol, whatever you would drink in about 4 hours + a little bit more. Your first job is to find the host, nod and say hi to anyone you meet along the way who makes eye contact. Especially if you know them.
Now, your first instinct is going to be to latch onto anyone you vaguely know and follow them around. Don't do this.
You need to make yourself a drink, walk slowly around and either strike up conversations with people on their own or join a group conversation. It's not like it is in a public place, everyone is there for a similar reason so there are less automatic rejections to conversation. Most of them will also know the host so you can talk about them.
With guys it easy, just make a comment about a hot girl. With girls it's also easy but they tend to hang out in groups. Make jokes ( not the knock knock variety, but about things around you. The decor, peoples clothes. There tends to be a game of some kind going on as well so make comments about that.)
And don't forget. In a party you don't look out of place as long as you're moving or in a group conversation. If you're anything like me, the second you are standing on your own your brain will be screaming at you to go home. So you need to avoid those moments.
>>16852275
Sound advice, thanks! Might make this easy to swallow
>>16852275
This guy knows.
He's right.
Go to it.
Show up a bit late.
Say hi.
Say you brought drinks.
Then go mingle.
Like, go find a smaller group than average.
And then just insert yourself into their conversation.
That's the great thing about parties.
If anyone ever gives you a weird look, just break off and find another group.