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24M Kissless virgin here,
Being in a relationship was never a big part of my life so far. Just focused on school and stuff. But as I turned 22, the thirst hit me like a truck. Tried and struck out for the past 2 years. I'm not fat, I am 5'6 though...
Approaching year 3 in a few weeks. Thinking I should I just hire an escort for a night or two to get this shit out of my system
Thoughts?
>>16618188
Socialise and be active like get into societies and shit. Everything else will make it's way if you go for it, friend and even maybe relationship but start by making friends and shit
Lost my vcard at 23. To a stalker type. (Friend rented a room at her house: friends w/ her brother). She wouldnt do much at first so I would come back every other month it seemed. Anyways I feel like garbage. Havent seen her since September.
Im 5'6 175 pounds. Grow some balls and a heart.
Ie; live your life
>>16618188
if you go out with the intent to get something specific you will often come back disappointed. all those ladies out there arent going 'oh i hope i find a bf tonight'. and as much as you will pretend you arent looking for a gf, you are.
they arent even looking to get laid. women go out and have whatever fun they want and actually socialize the way they are meant to (say, drinks and dancing) and if anything else happens its just gravy.
so do what they do. go out, have fun, and make your only goal to meet more people. dont go in flirting and hitting on them, they're used to that. its perfectly fine to go up to a woman, meet them, have a nice conversation, than say 'it was nice meeting you, maybe ill see you around'.
sometimes you will. often times you wont. its okay. cuz at the end of the day at the very least you are learning to treat people like people instead of means to an end.
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>>16618230
Actually hit the nail on the head there. After college, it's been very hard to meet new people. I've started attending a martial art class...a few people there but average about 10 years older than me. I'm mostly introverted and like to stay at home and watch movies. What other activities should I be doing??
>>16618328
think about your hobbies that are traditionally loner and indoor, and think about how they might be executed out door.
for instance, say you like movies, there are movie clubs around town that watch the movies, then they get together to discuss them. others you watch together and then give commentary, etc.
its eaiser if oyu hone on on specifics but go to meetup dot com and jusdt go through all the different sections that interest you and pick some events to go to. e ven if ur not super into it, just go. theres some remote interest and you get to meet people you can talk to about it.
theres even monthly meet ups for people to just meet and dicuss buffy the vampire slayer, which has been off the air for almost 15 years.
so yeah.
>Being in a relationship was never a big part of my life so far. Just focused on school and stuff. But as I turned 22, the thirst hit me like a truck.
Oh man this sounds exactly like me. I'm a bit of a workaholic and have focused all of my energy on school and work. Always just passively wanted sex, but didn't prioritize it because I didn't want to put in the work to get it. I just wanted to wait for it to naturally happen, which it never did.
Then when I was 21, this cute girl working at a fast food place was hitting on me super hard. Since that experience, the desire to get laid has consumed me. This was just a few months ago (recently turned 22). Haven't had a chance to get out yet and try though cause I've been taking care of some other bullshit problems in my life that I need to get sorted out first.
What exactly have you been trying OP? Cold approach, online dating? How close have you gotten?
