I'm 28, been in a serious relationship 5 years. All signs point to marriage etc, but I can't shake a hesitation to do it for some reason I can't identify. Fear, constriction of choices in life, independence etc. are all factors. I just dont feel compelled. How do I come to terms with this or know whether to shit or get off the pot?
>>16610195
The key word is, commitment. You have to commit yourself to a choice.
>>16610195
I'm in the same boat as you op. It is definitely something that most people don't think about enough! But of coyrse, it's not easy, you need to examine yourself, your other, and each other with a frigging magnifying lens.
What exactly have you thought about to help you figure this out? It's not easy to do unprepared. Some of the best questions I've recently found are:
Do you have compatible life goals?
Do you treat each other well?
Do you want to be around each other?
Really think about things, don't just bitch out. If you care about each other, you at least owe it to your other to seriously think about things, let alone yourself.
If it's a question of actually proposing or something, that's a different story. Is money in the way? Life circumstances? Job, etc.? None of those things really matter in the long run, if you work together and find a way around it together.
I still haven't found answers for myself. Keep on thinking
