Best friend/Ex girlfriend

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Best friend/Ex girlfriend 2015-12-27 10:07:01 Post No. 16608610
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Best friend/Ex girlfriend Anonymous 2015-12-27 10:07:01 Post No. 16608610 [Report]

Back at the end of July, me and my girlfriend of several years broke up. While I wouldn't call it a mutual thing, it was on good terms. We still called ourselves best friends. We had always promised eachother that regardless of whether our relationship stayed together or not. But there was a lot of tension for awhile. And then she just started drowning herself in work. And while we still talked/talk, it's not very often and just isn't the same as before.

Keep in mind that we were best friends long before we dated. I know she recently started dating someone else and I have accepted the fact that the chance of us being together again is very slim.

So my quetion is how do I bring back the same kind of close friendship we had before we ever dated? I've been upset about the whole thing, but more than the relationship, I just want my best friend back. I'm afraid that I'm losing one of the most important people to me a second time.

Is it really impossible to maintain a close friendship after a relationship falls apart?

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Anonymous 2015-12-27 11:48:37 Post No.16608744
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Anonymous 2015-12-27 11:48:37 Post No.16608744 [Report]

Take time away from her. Let yourself get over the break up totally. Get used to being without her, and then start things over, slowly.
And, probably, if she is going out with someone else, her boyfriend will be jealous to see her hanging out with her ex (reasonably), so it might not happen anyway, at least not as it was before.

I am very close to my ex. He dumped me 3 years ago after being friends through all high school and dating for a year. We started hanging out a year ago or so. We rarely see each other because my boyfriend isn't really happy about me hanging out with someone I had sex with, but we often text.
Our relationship deeply changed our friendship, but we are still in good terms and pretty good friends.

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Anonymous 2015-12-27 18:32:00 Post No.16609737
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Anonymous 2015-12-27 18:32:00 Post No.16609737 [Report]

>>16608744
Thanks anon.

She has repeatedly said that given the chance, she wouldn't have changed anything and would go through it all again. I feel the same to a degree. At the same time, I just can't help but feel like a failed relationship wasn't worth it if it means I'm going to lose my best friend over it.