Sup guys. Maybe you can help me out. I'm a pretty submissive and masochistic guy. My girlfriend knows that. Currently we are on a long-distance relationship and I would love her to be my online-mistress (making me cum on webcam, taking control of my daily activities, etc.). So far we did not really have any SM because she is a bit afraid of it. So I see it as a good chance for her to get into it without any physical contact.
The only problem is that I don't want to ask her to do that. I might scare her too much with that weird stuff. So do you have an idea of how she could ask me something like "do you know about online-slavery?" or "do you want to be my online slave"?
I thought about that way:
Telling her to check a sm community because it is interesting and she can learn a bit about it to make me happy the next time we meet. Then create a fake account and talk about it with her.
Any other ideas? Writing that text made me realize how weird I am but yeah..
>>16601307
If she's not naturally into being dominant, you can't really ask her to do something like that. I'll let you in on a hint: she's not afraid, she's just politely declining.
you poor thing. even if your girl really was dominant eventually she'll start seeing you as less of a man and leave you.
femdom is really rare outside of porn.
>>16601307
1) BDSM stuff goes to /d/, there's a BDSMGeneral there.
2) If she's afraid of it, may I suggest you stop using the word "slavery"? I'm into this shit, on both sides, as were a lot of contacts over the years, and none of us like the word. It implies no duty nor personality from the sub.
3) Usually we go about it in a format like "What can I do to make you happy?" "How about I send you a picture of me being tied up and you tell me what you'd do.".
4) It may be better to type it out, roleplay it without anything physical, and then, once you get a feel for what she likes, simply do it? If she likes the idea of your hands tied and you kneeling, then take a picture of that.
>>16601320
>>16601330
That's my biggest fear desu. So far I told her about my fetish but said I'm a switcher and only like it sometimes. I do my best to appear not like a beta.
>>16601334
Thanks men. Didn't know about /d/, I'm going to check that out. Appreciate your advices.
>>16601343
Fuck, that's a pet peeve of mine. If you're not a switch, don't call yourself a switch. As a full domme, I tend to avoid switches, bc I don't enjoy people into power struggles.
>>16601815
But isn't it that switcher don't really struggle but instead they really enjoy both sides?
bamp
>long distance
Send her a 500 mile long riding crop.
>>16601307
I have had 3 relationships fall apart because of this.
If she isn't in to it, you are going to have a hard time.
Sorry
>>16602561
While I'm sure this isn't always the case, every single time I've talked to a switch, it didn't take long before they told me how hot it'd be if they could dom me one day. Even though I explicitly told them at the beginning I'm not into subbing for anyone. So I avoid men who say they're switches now, so if you're lying off the bat, not only is it bad, but I then purposely avoid someone who is actually a real sub anyway.
