Hey, first up sorry for your situation, that must of really sucked.

Anyway two sections:

Firstly, logically, you should not really venture down the stripper path, usually people involved will offer you cocaine for a shift, or after party work drinks or stuff like that, that can encourage a very downward spiral life style, look at porn stars and most strippers, I mean if you want this, to eventually be a escort or something, then that is fine too, you have being warned.

While on the logical topic, you may want to just do what normal people do and stick with your core values and career goals but find another company, dont feel bad because a lot of people changes many jobs through their life, it is important you keep your values close to you (which those girls lack) and move on

Emotionally, you need to learn CBT and mindfulness, google that shit. Practise it every day. It will make shit like this in future seem like nothing if it ever happens again.

Take this as a life lesson to reach into personal development and come out as a better, non co dependant person anon!

How many people there is in the world? How many men? How many in your age (or a bit older if you prefer) You can guess its gona be SHITLOADS. Why would you go back to someone who not only didnt give a fuck about you but he didnt give multiple fucks about you. If he cheated once maybe you can excuse that.

I wouldnt.

He knew it was wrong when he was getting too friendly with that girl. He knew it was wrong when he started kissing her. He knew it was wrong when they started undressing. He knew it was wrong even during sex.

However he made the deliberate effort to do it anyways. Cheating isnt just an accident, its a serious of decisions made back to back.

As far as stripping goes, I wouldn't do anything like that if I was in your position. That kind of crap just seems hollowing to me.

>Br cheats on you
>get revenge by becoming a stripper
>never be taken seriously
>never be employable for 9-5 responsibility based jobs
>never shake your past
>ruin your life
>really show him

Go on a big holiday, around the world. Have fun, meet new people, see new things.
You'll probably enjoy it a lot more than shaking your pussy in a high school friend of your dads face.

> Maybe explain chef the situation and ask for a testimonial. This will give you better chances for a new job.

> Do you have a friend whos room or apartment you can live in for a short time? If the answer is yes, you should consider that and rent a smaller one for yourself. Explain them the situation.

> "Should I take him back"?
If he cheats without telling you about it, you are bad in bed or just not attractive enough.
Search for someone else, cause he will cheat again if its latter case.

> Next time don't be too emotional and prepare to leave instead of sending him away and THEN tell him.

Get well soon!

>>16555150
not attractive enough *for him*

sorry

Don't take him back.
Don't be a stripper.

The positive changes in your life stripping and getting more money would bring will be nullified by letting him back in. Remember that. You should visualize a completely new routine and pace of life with plenty of new guys to meet, disposable income, etc. and keep that in mind when thinking about taking him back.
You can get trampled on again, or have so much more

>>16555157
This. Do not take him back.

Strip only if you have to and even then mask your real identity or do it somewhere a long way from you live and wish to work.

OP here. Stripping is not ideal, but I make minimum wage making rounds as a medical student, and there's nothing else I can do in my "profession" (fine dining) that would have the flexibility of hours I need. I've cocktailed before at a strip club, and I don't even drink, so I'm not concerned about falling into the life. The only thing that's really concerning for me is the general lack of safety, but I can deal with it.

He cheated on me with at least five different people, two of which I work with. He owes me 2k on top of the extra bills I'll be paying. I also found out he's been blowing all his money on coke. It's easy to write all this out and think "Wow, what a piece of shit" as I read it, but emotionally I just want to work things out. I've spent my entire 20s with him, and it's hard to let go. All of this is a complete shock to me. I thought our relationship was very stable and loving until about 24 hours ago. He had even asked my dad's permission to marry me, though he hadn't proposed yet. I don't know what to do with myself.

>>16555171
Take a few weeks to rest and move on.

I don't know, it sounds cliché maybe, but have you tried meditation?

>>16555171
Wow you sure know how to pick em OP

>>16555171
Doctors are a judgemental bunch.
Think about that when in your future you can't escape your past

>>16555105
DONT TAKE HIM BACK. he obviously doesnt care about you and letting him back in your life will only make it shittier. dont do drugs and only strip until you don't need to anymore, be careful, anon

>>16555148
because OP definitely has money for that, lmao

>>16555217
Medical students are one of the lucky jobs where their volunteering of their services is in demand.
Save the airfare and volunteer in developing nations where accommodation and food is usually provided. 2 weeks would be plenty of time to refresh

>>16555187
Believe me when I say he wasn't a "project guy " or anything. All of this, besides him owing me money, is very fresh for me, though it's obviously been going on a long time. I thought we were both nothing but faithful, and while he drinks a little more than I would like, I had no idea about his drug use. If anything, this makes it significantly harder for me. I don't want to have trust issues with any other guys I may date, but I know that's likely.

>>16555105
Don't strip. Cam whore if your desperate.

>>16555229
He is a idiot, you want to have that cheating drug user in your life? Fine, you already lose all those years with him, maybe you can lose some more years.
And go to the strip club if you think you cant fuck more your life.