I posted this yesterday and it was met with harsh criticism. I'm attempting to start a new thread on the same subject in hopes to give better information for better advice. Keep in mind I understand that people are free to do what they want and this isn't about how to make them NOT do what they want to do.
The situation:
> New neighbors moved in. Husband stays in garage all hours of the day doing nothing.
> Nobody else in the neighborhood is out in the garage as much as he is.
> Very nosy. Whenever I go outside or do something in the yard, he comes over to talk. He makes remarks about when I'm going to do something with the yard, or where I am going everyday at some time. His questions doesn't seem sincere in nature other than to just simply ask questions about my business.
> He watches what people are doing and make comments about it the next time they are seen. It isn't like they bought a new car or something, but something as simple as, "I seen you come over yesterday at 4pm, that's a bit earlier than usual."
> He can talk to anyone in the middle of conversations making accusations about things such as cars he seen, or whatnot that sits out.
> Whenever a ambulance or firetruck or police is around, he comes over to bug them right in the middle of their work. You could be missing a leg and he's still talking about random shit about their job or what he done in the past.
> His yard is shit and he doesn't do anything but stays in the garage.
> No I do not look out the window at him all day but whenever I am outside he's right there watching me. Others I talked to have said the same thing about his behavior and general concerns that he could stay out all day/night in all weather condition.
What I would like advice on:
> How to avoid such a person? It doesn't seem like going about your business works. He comes over to talk and no matter what.
> Why would someone hang out in the garage all day bugging others when he got a wife inside?
>>17368864
You faced harsh criticism there, and you'll face it again here
Stop snooping into other people's lives. If you find him annoying, just don't talk to him. Done.
>>17368864
Some people sit at a computer all day playing games and reading 4chan. Some people stand in their garage watching the world go by. One could argue that his is the healthier option.
And if his talking to you is unwelcome (why?), just say Hi and keep walking or go inside.
The reason you got grief yesterday is that you come across as oddly obsessed with someone who is doing nothing objectively wrong. Let him be and get on with your life or, if you have none, get one.
Nosy dumbass.
>>17368873
>>17368864
>>How to avoid such a person?
>If you find him annoying, just don't talk to him.
Pretty much this. You're just as autistic as him if the answer needs to be written out for you btw.
If he keeps blabbing tell him directly into his face that you are busy and don't want to talk with him. If he keeps up tell him he's distracting you and tell him to leave.
>>17368883
>And if his talking to you is unwelcome (why?), just say Hi and keep walking or go inside.
As I said his inquires are very intrusive with questions like specific time lines when I left home or where I went at some time when he noticed I left.
It isn't a simple, "Hello how you doing" and going back in. Why can't I stay outside and mind my business and he minds his?
>>17368864
start making clever remarks back you fucking beta.
pro tip, he seems to spend a lot of time in the garage, start with that
>>17368864
>> How to avoid such a person? It doesn't seem like going about your business works. He comes over to talk and no matter what.
If he's always outside then there is no getting around it, you're going to have to interact with him if he comes up. Try to make conversation when you're doing yardwork, but if you're just going in the house or leaving to go do something make a point to say "Gee, sorry Bill, I'm in a rush! Been going nonstop lately, barely have time to think. Have a good one!"
Rinse and repeat. He'll somewhat get the hint that you're a busy guy with shit to do (probably not as well as you'd like, but as he gets to know you he'll understand at least that you're not trying to be a dick).
>> Why would someone hang out in the garage all day bugging others when he got a wife inside?
They probably don't have the best marriage, people who hang outside like that all day are lonely. As pathetic as it is, his conversations with his neighbors and getting in their business probably makes his day go by, or keeps him from killing himself. Maybe he doesn't have kids or grandkids, and if he does they probably don't visit often enough. He needs a hobby, which maybe you could get him into by buying a model train set, model planes or something like that for Christmas.
Idk man, just be sympathetic as much as you can possibly take, people like him are annoying as fuck but when you think about the reasons why they may be the way they are it makes you feel for them. Even if they're crazy.
>>17368889
No, your question should be why can't you just tell him that it's not his business what you did when. So you won't answer his questions.
>>17368896
Hey thanks a lot for some solid advice. So I guess the key point is to understand it from his viewpoint that maybe he's bored. I notice sometimes he has friends come over and they talk for a long time but most of the time he does nothing but hangs out in the garage. I don't mind this or care what he does, it's just that his constant watching of me and what I am doing and coming over to ask about is rather disturbing.
>>17368903
No problem, I feel for you. I have a psycho neighbor who's done a lot of batshit crazy stuff through the years and we just try to carry on our merry way without rocking the boat. We borderline run to our cars when she's outside to avoid a long conversation but still attempt to keep it on happy terms.
As long as you always stay somewhat friendly with him, then his constant supervision of your property and person could help in future if there was a break in, fire or vandalism. Besides, if he's not angry with you or resentful, then his vigilant watching and logging of your day means nothing. I'd be more worried if you two weren't getting along and he was exhibiting stalker-like behavior.
Let the anxiety fade from the situation and his creepy habits will seem more quirky and laughable over time. Try to see the positive in his annoying demeanor; he probably thinks everyone gets as much of a kick out of him as he does himself. Neighbors like him are annoying, intrusive and blissfully unaware of what effect they have on the people around them- otherwise they wouldn't act the way they were. Nobody wants to be "THAT crazy neighbor" and if he did realise it, I'm positive he would correct his behavior but unfortunately it's not in his capacity to understand (whether he's autistic, aspergers or just plain crazy- no one would actively choose to be burdened by a mental disorder)
>>17368864
>s-stop doing stuff i don't like!
You're a cunt. Choke in a dick and die.
His life is not your fucking business.
>b-but he talk to me!
Don't talk to him if you don't like him, you fucking autist.
God damned, if I had a neighbor like you I already had killed you.
I fucking hate people who keep snooping other people's life.
>>17368946
>>s-stop doing stuff i don't like!
This is exactly you right now friendo :^)
>>17368864
>Why would someone hang out in the garage all day bugging others when he got a wife inside?
Yeah, I spend a lot of time in the garage working on my motorcycle just for that reason.
Look... someone like that has nothing else going on in their life so they make everyone else part of their life.
If you're working outside, wear ear buds and ignore him. If you can't, be polite, talk for 30 seconds and then say "I need to get this done" and go back to work.
Or next time he comes over just say "want to watch some child porn and masturbate together.?" Guarantee you he won't be back.
>>17368889
Just say hello and keep moving and if he asks say that you're busy and move along.
He will get the hint.
>>17368864
I can't help but feeel kinda sorry for the dude. He must really hate his family if he stays in the garage all day, trying to talk to other people.
>>17368864
This faggot again. Get a life.
>>17369059
My thoughts exactly. I wonder why he doesn't go inside with them or what exactly is his reason for being in the garage doing seemingly nothing at all other than drinking and talking to people who pass. While I don't mind that, what bothers me is that he comes over to talk to me. He reeks of alcohol and he brings up specifics about what he saw me did earlier and what exactly was I doing at that time.
Lonely I would guess. I doubt it's malicious
>>17368941
>As long as you always stay somewhat friendly with him, then his constant supervision of your property and person could help in future if there was a break in, fire or vandalism.
I don't think he'd go that far in protecting me or anyone if he doesn't even want to be with his own damn family. I think if I do need an emergency he would fail to deliver in any reasonable way. I'm not really expecting much from him but I will make an effort to be friendly with him with the idea that he may be feeling lonely about whatever situation he's in.
>Nobody wants to be "THAT crazy neighbor" and if he did realise it, I'm positive he would correct his behavior but unfortunately it's not in his capacity to understand (whether he's autistic, aspergers or just plain crazy- no one would actively choose to be burdened by a mental disorder)
It's hard to speculate what is going on. I will take your advice and try to be nice to him while not being too upset that he's in my business.
>>17368864
>I have the right to never be annoyed!
No you fucking don't, twat.
