Is it normal for a guy to have to masturbate in order to cum? My boyfriend fucks me well and good but in order to push himself over the edge he has to jack off while he fingers me and then he can cum. He does the same thing when I suck him off... just wondering if I need to up my techniques or of its normal.
>>17366042
Short answer - no.
Long answer - deathgrip and lifelong masturbation of weebs can lead to that. Doesn't mean it's normal or to be accepted.
sure, sounds pretty normal to me, especially given that he's involving you in it rather than going/getting off by himself. nothing wrong with what he's doing at all.
BUT if you want to talk to him about trying some stuff so he doesn't HAVE to just to cum, you could do that. lots of different things you can try, maybe having him do a masturbation fast for a week or so would be a good start.
>>17366042
>Is it normal for a guy to have to masturbate in order to cum?
Only in porn and its most ardent followers. But because of the latter, it's becoming increasingly common.
Most people are scared shitless by the idea that the way THEY have sex isn't normal. In reality, the range of what's truly "normal' in the human sexual experience is far more vast than porno and sitcoms would lead you to believe. Your boyfriend falls well within the range, you're probably not doing anything wrong, and trust me, something like this is no dealbreaker. Everyone's different
I think he may just be too focused on pleasuring you during sex to be able to get off himself. Same happens to me.
If he has death grip like >>17366050 says, he has probably jerked off so much that he is used to a certain sensation and speed that is near impossible for anyone else to replicate.
The only solution is to abstain for masturbation for up to 3 months. Same with sex.
>>17366042
how often does he beat off? if he does everyday then tell him to not fap until the next time you two have sex.
>>17366477
That happened to me. Once I started focusing on orgasming myself, I became a premature ejaculator. Happened with two women. There's no happy medium.
>>17366050
This.
Also, some people (virgins) get really anxious/panic during sex and tend to cum either way too fast, or lose their boner completely. Your bf could be like that too.
>>17367048
Yes, there is.
Just focus on pleasuring her until you've had enough of it and then focus on your own pleasure.
