How to deal with...
Bf of five years - i just turned 30 he is 33.
I genuinely believe he loves me but he has never really seemed super attracted to me. Initially I greeted this with: get in even better shape, grow out hair, tan, wear more makeup/brand name clothes he likes but no matter what I did I never felt that sizzle from him.
Now I am getting tired of it and I don't like sex because I don't have fun and it feels like hes struggling to cum.
I feel like he has unrealistic needs and I dont like feeling loved as a person but like shit in bed.
In all other respects a great bf
He's gay.
Get a strap on and dress like a tomboy.
>>17365944
He always talks like shit about gay people. Ive seen him checking out super young thin girls with long hair
Like high school age
>>17365936
It's a Y chromosome thing. A lot of men get things the way they like them and then just coast - some might say get in a rut - and just don't realize the need to work at keeping a relationship alive.
He almost certainly doesn't realize anything's wrong and will be surprised if you tell him. But you'll have to tell him (or give up) because he's not going to figure it out on his own.
>>17365952
Lmao homophobia is like the number one sign of a closet fag. That he likes flat chested little girls is just the cherry on top.
>>17365958
I have told him and he denies it.
He says he thinks I am gorgeous and in all other was he is sweet... Very attached calls me multiple times from work always cooking me food or doing chores and heavy lifting compliments me a lot.
But in bed I can TELL he isnt turned on. Ive had sex with people who have been turned on and its very different.
He is an only child close to his mom and shes a bird so I dont know if thats part of it
