Overly keen fling
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Girl I slept with abroad is talking about visiting me and I don't know how to feel about it
>just spent a week in Asia
>spent a couple nights with a qt I met
>thought it would be a ONS but genuinely enjoyed hanging with her and was kinda sad that I would never see her again
>we've been chatting a bit since I left and she just said she's thinking how we could hang again, and that she'd like to visit Melbourne
>I would love to spend more time with her, and show her around my city, but visiting is a massive thing to do, and it feels wrong to encourage her, especially since I have no interest in anything serious
Should I let her visit or discourage it? Would it be weird given we barely know each other? Can I get her to frame it as just visiting Aus rather than visiting me?
Where in Asia? SEA or East Asia?
She might be looking for a green card out of her dump. If you like her you should be honest with yourself and those around you and say she's there to see you. Shouldn't stop you from showing her around Australia while you're at it though.
>>17353314
Korea, she's got a good life there, and has no interest in leaving, it's not a scam or anything
But am I encouraging/implying the wrong idea if I let her go to that much effort just to see me?
>>17353330
It depends on what you want, if you want to see how it goes and take it further into a real relationship then by all means go ahead, unless she is from SEA like how >>17353314 said in which case do not because she is just looking for a green card.
>>17353330
Sounds like she wants to see you and see Australia. If you think she's a catch and/or relationship material than by all means go for it. I don't think it's bad that she wants to go out of her way for you, but she might expect you to do the same for her if your relationship escalates.
>>17353299
Just make sure she has her expectations in line. If you don't mind her coming to visit as friends and maybe fooling around a little, make sure she knows you just want to be friends with possible benefits. Don't hedge, don't dance around the subject, be 100% certain you're both on the same page, then do whatever you want. You know it's entirely possible she just had fun with you and wants to visit Australia and would rather have a friend show her around than do the tourist route, yeah?
It's not hard.
>>17353333
Well that's really my problem: I'm not interested in a serious relationship, especially that long-distance
I would genuinely really like to see her again, but I don't want to be a dick and imply that I'm keen for anything more than casual
>check'd
>>17353346
Nah she's definitely doing it primarily to see me
I reckon you're right: I'll just make it very clear that I'm keen to see her but not keen to be serious or anything
So it's not weird for a random lay to go to such lengths to visit you?
