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Hey /adv/, I've been in complete panic for a few weeks right now and have no idea what am I supposed to do with my life to improve. I'll just post a list of characteristics that I hate about myself and maybe someone will have any /adv/ice on it.

Physical:
19 y/o, 5'11 manlet, 4/10 on a good day weak as fuck (no muscles), out of shape, hairy body, acne allover back, uneven face.

Misc:
Addicted to porn, unconfident, failing my education, jobless, have dream hobbies but just don't start them, almost never leave home, eat unhealthy, have a fucked up sleeping schedule, poor and untidy.

I just see all these people who are x1000 better at everything than me and I just get depressed. I feel that no woman will ever want me (eventhough I've been in a relationship). I don't want to live like this anymore. I'm not gonna kms either,
Most importantly, how am I supposed to become at least a 7 or 8/10. Is there just no point? I'm completely lost. Help me!
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Okay:

- Muscles are easy to get. Go over to /fit/ or even go to the fit section of reddit and learn about bulking up. Eat healthily and start packing on some muscle. You'll also get in shape if you follow a good cardio workout plan.

- Hairy body is fine, just shave your neckbeard, chest/back hair, keep your armpit hair in check.

- For back acne, change your sheets and pillowcases regularly or put a flannel / towelette on your pillow. Don't sleep in thick clothes, get a breathable singlet (basketball singlet works well) or t-shirt. Make sure you're washing your body (or at least putting water over it). Make sure to exfoliate. If all of that fails, try a new body gel/soap and book an appt. with a dermotologist.

- Failing your education is negligent on your part. Why are you failing? Do you not use your time effectively? are you retarded?

- Job is easy to get, you just have to be willing to accept a McJob or a shitty job e.g. pizza delivery until you work your way up.

- Start your hobbies, easy. Find other people who share your hobbies and do it with them in order to motivate yourself into doing them.

- Count your calories, begin to eat more fruit and vegetables. Stop eating shitty processed food. It'll help with your acne.

- Fucked up sleeping schedule is a lack of discipline. Stop playing video games in your bed. Set a sleep and a wake-up time, and do your absolute best to adhere to those times for a week or two straight. Once you've done that your body will begin to get tired in preparation for that time, and will wake up on time without the need for an alarm clock. Getting good sleep will help with your mental health, body problems, and will promote muscle / mental growth. You're not going to learn anything from education if you don't get a good nights sleep (this is when your brain commits things to long term memory)

- Poor can be changed by getting a job

- There's no excuse for being untidy. If you can do something in less than 2 minutes... 1/2
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>>17346197

2/2

... then you should do it. It's such a small amount of time out of your day, and there's really no excuse for being so lazy.

Creating a schedule for yourself and adhering to it to the best of your ability will help with whatever issues you have. Any social problems (lack of confidence, lazy, NEET etc.) can be alleviated by changing small things in your life and bettering yourself as a person.

Getting fit/buff and fixing these aspects of your life aren't magically going to make you a walking chick magnet. You're going to have to work on your social skills and your outlook on life.

There's no point focusing on how many people do things better than you. Stop thinking about other people and yourself as a rating system. Trying to rationally quantify subjective things is a waste of time and so pointless in the grand scheme of things. You can look like a 10/10 but be mentally retarded with no social skills. Stop worrying about that shit.
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>>17346197
>>17346199
This is all good advice.

Read the /fit/ sticky, there's a lot of advice about diet and how to get in shape.
Healthy diet will also help with your acne.

Most of your problems are about lack of discipline. Address one problem a month and let yourself get used to it.
Get used to sleep healthy, to tidy up your room, get a schedule for your studies, etc.
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>>17346197
All of your points are fair. but how am I supposed to pull that girl with the face that I have. I mean, I'm not scarred or anything like that, but the first thing that gets a girls attention is probably your face, especially in my age group. I'm not going for supermodel chicks but I want a decent one at least. That's why I want to improve myself.
Moreover, I believe that lazyness is my number 1 enemy. I've been lazy for years now.
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>>17346205

How fucked up is your face dude? Are you like Sloth from the Goonies? Face can be important, yes, but you can hide most of your facial flaws with accessories or a beard.

It'll probably sound a bit gay, but personality matters the most to females. In your age bracket things are more about looks, but as you progress into your twenties (hell even 20+) you'll notice that having a good personality will get you far.

Laziness is easy to fix. What logical reasons do you have for not doing things that are so easy to fix?
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>>17346207
Facewise. As I said, I don't have any flaws that make people back away from me or something, but I do have a very feminine and childish face. My jawline is non-existent as well. Imagine a slav face.
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>>17346211

Eh would probably have to see pictures to give you any advice about what you should do. I've got a very childish face and I cover it with a beard and wear glasses to make myself look like a normal adult. Are you chubby/fat?

Tbh you're probably focusing on your own perceived flaws too much and inherently think you're hideous.
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>>17346214
Well, I do wear glasses as well, but I can't really grow a proper beard. I'm not fat on the face whatsoever.
My insecurity probably comes from the fact that I always hang out with better looking people. I know that it's not all about the looks but fuuuck.
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>>17346192
stop thinking about what other people think about you

there is good advice in this thread so far, but you are focusing on everything at once.

start on your diet, your sleep, and your exercise. think of these things as your foundations. if you dont get these right, you will be malnurished, always tired, weak and depressed. the foundations for a short and shitty life.

once you eat well you will feel better, be better able to gain muscle and have proper blood chemistry

once you sleep well you will, again, feel better, perform better at school, establish healthy routines

once you exercise you will, again, feel better, be less depressed, have more energy, better blood chemistry

trying to do any of the other shit you mentioned without fixing this trinity first is the proverbial house built on sand. wasted efforts..

dont say you cant eat better - if you think you're so poor that you can only afford fast food, remember that there are people in the world that eat $2 worth of food a day. if 1/3rd of the world can live on rice and beans, you can too. dare yourself to do it for a week, and you will be able to afford more fancy food next week

dont say you cant sleep better - try turning off all your light emmiting devices before sunset, see how quickly you can tire without the stimulation of lights, entertainment, sugar and drugs

dont say you cant exercise, walk, run, carry heavy things back and forth,
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