So there's this girl I've been getting to know, I chased and tried, and she was hard to do stuff with. So I let it go and stopped chasing.
Then shit changed, I stopped messaging, but she begins texting me almost every weekend, all on her own. Ok so she DOES want my attention or company?
I'll catch up with her, we hang out as usual, flirt, have a good time, then on to the next fucking weekend.
However, a couple nights ago, we're at a party and she starts getting really flirty with me, touching me, sticking her hands into my shirt, touching me all over. It was cute and flirty, also drunk and silly, but it was a good time. She started opening up about how attracted she was to me, and so on. We both had fun and I welcomed it, I even told her we were going to end up fucking if she kept it up and she didn't oppose it or get uncomfortable.
Long story short, we didn't hook up that night cuz her dumbass friend got drunk and needed to be escorted home.
But the following day she texts me, says sorry for her "drunken behavior" and I told her not to apologize, I liked it. Problem is this: She is still cagey and hard to do shit with, even AFTER we both put our cards on the table. It's like nothing happened and we're back to only seeing each other on the weekends, late at night, without making any plans beforehand.
If I try to invite her, like: "Hey, I'm doing ___ later and I want you to come with me." She doesn't take the opportunity and won't reply till later
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I have this weird theory that she might be way too into me, to the point that she's afraid of letting herself enjoy my company. I know it sounds fucked, and I'm no catch, but she was really clear about how she felt with me that night, verbally I mean, aside from the physical groping she did to me.
What do? I really dig her, but I'm not interested in fucking chasing like a dog anymore.
>>17345760
It definitely seems like she's into you, How old is this girl? this reminds me of the way that some high school girls I knew acted. My guess is that she is probably really inexperienced, nervous, shy etc. Or maybe she doesn't know what she wants. Women can be beta and socially inept just like many of our bros right here.
have you tried talking to her friends? She's acting like a high school chick, maybe approach this as though she were, they might be able to shine some light on the situation and give you some idea about why she's doing what she's doing.
You might also call or text her and be incredibly blunt, tell her that you're into her but you're not into playing games. tell her that if she is interested then you'll be at place x at y time, if she would like to join you awesome and if not then you're moving on. make it sound nice of course, but you're right not to want to keep chasing this girl with no end in sight.
>>17345870
She is 24, I'm 27. So she's no child, but you're right, it does feel like high school games sorta. I totally agree on her being socially sorta inept and I have a feeling she lacks some experience.
I would talk to her friends, but they're all dudes... Sort of a bad sign, but fuck it, I'll roll with it. As a matter of fact, getting her alone and away from her friends is kinda difficult. She has this one in particular who (I've been told, she may or may not have a thing for). All the times I've been around them though, she treats him like a total friend. I have a feeling he tried with her and failed, so now he's stuck in orbiter mode. I hate being around him, he's a nice guy, but i always have to fake like I care about his friendship, haha... When I really don't, he's just always fucking there.
I'm sorta tempted to try your route of being blunt and forward, because I really am too old and uninterested in playing chasing games. I'm not trying to put a ring on her damn finger, but I've been around the block long enough to know when too much effort is too much.
Sounds like she's playing you like a fiddle, move on to the next one. If she's this indecisive now how indecisive is she going to be in a fucking relationship
>>17345760
Just be explicit as fuck, preferably not by text but IRL. At least you wil have a definitive answer.
But she seems like trouble.
