My best guess is they just treat you as a "backup". Or they are just bored of you and probably if you left them they wouldn't even bother that much. The good thing is that at least you got someone to talk to.

>>17331315
Part of getting older. It probably isn't you. People will drop old friends like they get rid of an old pair of jeans - pretty seldom there is much hesitation.

I made the mistake of obsessing over it when it happened to me, but it's not worth that. Trust me. Find other things to do and you'll feel better.

>>17332189
Partially agree.

Yes, you shouldn't obsess over it. People are free to make their own choices as to how close a friend they consider you to be, and you can't force them into anything.

But equally, if you fail to attract or keep high-quality friendships, it probably is you. Some people are extremely likeable and enjoyable to be with, and I don't mean in the stereotypical "popular and shit on everyone below you" kind of way. There are ways to make yourself a better person and it can have a profound effect on the way others treat you.

>>17332202

I half agree with this. Introspection and self-improvement are good. It is possible for a very self-absorbed or inconsiderate person to put off friends without even realizing it.

But just as often friends grow apart and the breach leaves someone feeling alienated. It's important not to internalize things in these cases.