So I'm having difficulties staying hard. My new girlfriend can get me rock fucking solid with no effort but I have trouble staying hard during sex and sometimes just transitioning positions makes me go limp. We seem to have a lot of chemistry sexual and romantically but something just stops it dead in its tracks.
I stayed hard longest during missionary (I might have been half hard for some of it though, I don't remember.) and we actually had some decent time tonight before we switched and I kept going soft under her.
What should I do? She's been super cool about it but I feel like I'm disappointing her.
Literally the same thing. I blame mental health and the years spent abusing my dick, but im not a doctor
Oh shit. It occurred to me that there are doctors for this. Maybe it's entirely psychological though. Investigate yourself. Maybe a doctor will logically guide you through all the possibilities
>>17321872
do you watch a lot of porn? jack off a lot? Could be that, maybe try no porn and no fap for a few weeks and see if that improves it any
Do you exercise?
>>17321884
I had the problem last time we tried so I just stopped masturbating about a week ago. I was ridiculously horn leading up to it.
>>17321945
Yes
bf has the same problem. i think the reasons are that he has serious death grip and that he is all in all an anxious guy with performance anxiety. i don't think there's a fast or even a solution to this.
>>17321872
it's likely due to high frequency of masturbation with a tight grip. you're not going to find many vaginas that can be as tight as your own hand. it leads to a loss of sensitivity.
completely halt or drastically cut down frequency of masturbation. it'll take longer than just a week.
but yeah, this is a pretty common issue. you're also with a new girl and being intimate with a new person. you'll be placing a lot of pressure on yourself to "perform" in bed and once you go soft/start going soft then your anxiety builds and you're fucked for a bit.
