Hey, sorry to bother you guys but I just fucked up my relationship and need some advice to not completely break apart. We were together for years and she is my everything. I did something bad, doesn't really matter what, and she can't continue any more because I keep doing the same mistakes constantly. (not cheating, just something I need to remember but I keep forgetting and fucking up)
So now it looks and sounds like it's over even though I obviously keep hoping and imagining something else and just break down every time I think about how the situation is looking for real.
What do I do to manage this shit? I literally wanna punch myself in the face out of self hatred right now. How do you guys cope with breakups? Why the FUCK do people wanna date and be in relationships if it hurts this bad if it doesn't work out?
>>17320233
What do you keep doing OP?
>>17320233
If it's something really bad that you keep doing and she can't take it anymore well you gotta wait and see if she'll come back. Maybe you deserve this.
>How do you guys cope with breakups?
Use the pent up energy on something like working out.
>Why the FUCK do people wanna date and be in relationships if it hurts this bad if it doesn't work out?
Why do anything if it'll hurt in the end? Because it might not hurt and it might be wonderful.
>>17320233
>I did something bad, doesn't really matter what,
>What do I do to manage this shit?
ugh conversation bait.....just spew what you are doing already before this thread gets fast tracked off the board.
>>17320233
>I did something bad, doesn't really matter what
What is it exactly? If you don't tell us we can't really judge. If you really don't want to tell then your relationship is pretty much fucked
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>>17320248
Okay it's just a way I need to act in daily life. Let's pretend she is a fanatic vegan and I keep accidentally eating meat because I forget. I knew about it going into the relationship and thought I could manage but apparently I can't so there's nothing I can really do to fix it. My memory is too shit and I have trouble focusing on multiple things at the same time and because I don't think the same way, it's impossible to instinctively act like it.
>>17320264
How do you accidentally eat meat if all you'd shop for is vegan goods? And then cooking it?
>>17320264
You mean you like to eat dick?
If you can't stop gobbling on cock then break up and become a trannie.
Quit the bullshit analogies and spill it fag.
>>17320264
Wait, so she's a vegan, you're not a vegan, but she expects you to eat vegan? Or you've told her you'll go vegan as well and you keep eating meat? The reasonableness of this situation depends on which situation it is
*yawn*
>>17320277
Kind of a mix of both. I've told her multiple times that I'll try my best and probably also said I WILL DO IT when we've had fights about it in the past. And I really try so hard but there's so many little things I forget. Kinda like uhh, we eat outside and I order a steak but realize no this is bad and reorder a soup and eat it and then I realize the soup had dairy products in it. This is the most retarded parable ever but kinda works.
>>17320303
Then you're both fuckwits. You're a fuckwit for saying you'll do it, and she's a fuckwit for expecting you to change to her lifestyle
>>17320264
The problem is that you are a faggot and she wants a man. She will break up with you eventually and then you can get over it by sucking cock.
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>>17320277
are you really this stupid? OP is not a vegan, he is sort of a junkie, either he smokes or drinks or watches porn and his girl don't like it.
Look man, if I'm right, just seek help, if you truly love her more than the shit you are doing/using/watching, try and quit, in the long run it's for the best, if it's a bad habit that you have, seek help and fix it.
But if it's a really stupid shit like the vegan example, tell her you can't live on lettuce forever, ad that you love her, but you won't change so much about yourself for her if she can't love you like you are.
>>17320332
This. You're way too dependent on this girl.
You do that stuff because you don't think it's bad or it slipps your mind or you just don't care and it's probably irrelevant stuff like leaving the toilet seat up.
Next time tell her you're sick of her bullshit and that if she doesn't stop complaining you'll leave. If she loves you and wants to be with you she'll stay, otherwise you'll break up and yeah you'll die of sadness but it's better than feeling that you can't do the right thing every day.
Probably the second thing will happen, but even after breaking up you'll have your dignity, and maybe she'll get back to you, but if you don't react she'll dump you and think of you as an dumb irresponsible man.
>>17320233
OP, the thing you do not want to spill is the issue. Tell us!
If it's something stupid, like leaving the toilet seat up or being a vegan, then you're right. If your relationship is over because of her inability to accept a habit of yours that shouldn't be a dealbreaker, then you need to be with someone who will be accepting.
If it's something legit, like you needing to suck a dick here and there because you are bisexual, or that you have an addiction, then it's your fault to expect a relationship to succeed despite your habit.
So spill it. What is the issue?
>>17320603
Like I said in >>17320499
I'll take that OP drinks and his girl does not like it.
OP, it's good in the long run, seek for help, you can't do this alone, but the most important part is you, you have to be open to change. Quit drinking for your own health, it wil benefit your relationship as well.
