How to aquire self confidence?

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How to aquire self confidence? 2016-07-03 20:04:23 Post No. 17320075
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How to aquire self confidence? Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:04:23 Post No. 17320075 [Report]

My last chance of becoming somewhat normal is to finally gain some confidence in myself, but how do I do that? I've basically devoted my life to becoming good at an instrument now, I practice for a minimum of 5 hours every single day. Obviously, progress is happening and I should start playing with other people immediately. But I keep telling myself that I'm not good enough, that I'll just drag them down or that they'd laugh at me.

Logical arguments simply don't work, I KNOW that that's bullshit or just an excuse, but it doesn't help with the anxiety and panic when I'm confronted with a situation like that. How do I gain that first speck of confidence and that feeling of self worth and how do I go from there?

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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:08:58 Post No.17320090
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>>17320075
You just gotta will yourself into it. Your confidence will build over time. It'll be brutal at first, but it will get better pretty quick as you begin to get comfortable in your surroundings.

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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:30:43 Post No.17320145
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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:30:43 Post No.17320145 [Report]

>>17320075
>How do I gain that first speck of confidence and that feeling of self worth and how do I go from there?
Go out and absolutely fail at a social interaction. Then wake up the next morning and realize that your life hasn't ended.

Repeat till confident.

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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:31:48 Post No.17320149
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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:31:48 Post No.17320149 [Report]

>>17320075
do lots of shit that makes you uncomfortable.

Chatting with strangers, going to new places, trying new things.

Confidence comes from experience.

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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:44:13 Post No.17320181
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Anonymous 2016-07-03 20:44:13 Post No.17320181 [Report]

>>17320145
This will turn into one of those memories you have when you're trying to get to sleep at night and suddenly just think of all the cringy things you've done in your life.

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Anonymous 2016-07-03 23:25:46 Post No.17320717
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>>17320145
Disagree with this approach, exposure yourself gradually otherwise one experience will put you off socialising altogether because it was so traumatising.

Expose yourself overtime to new situations and look into cognitive therapy techniques to reduce self defeating thoughts.

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Anonymous 2016-07-04 00:26:11 Post No.17320897
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>>17320181
Ahaha I can confirm