>>17314451
If only you knew anon. You are on the exact road you need to be.

You're going to be making gains for her for the first while.

But the more gains you see, and the more attention you get from others, and the more confidence you get, the less you'll think of her.

Again, you'll likely not forget her, and you'll think of her with fondness and the great times you had, but it wont sink your chest. You wont cry, you wont even wish it were different.

>>17314483
just takes time, so much time you don't notice it. Untill you realize WAY down the road that you don't even miss her.

>>17314483
>>17314486
this is good to hear.

time and self-improvement are always things I see when getting looking for advice for getting over a break up.

she was my first so oneitis is definitely a factor too.

>>17314925
Want to hear my story? It's damn near exactly your circumstance (spoiler, everything is A-ok now without her)

>>17314935
sure bro, go ahead

>>17314959
Broke up with gf of 4 years, and I was pretty damn destroyed. I sulked and wallowed in my own pitty for about a month. Eventually I started lifting, started hanging out with a few new friends who also enjoyed lifting. For a month or two, things still sucked but they were DEFINITELY getting better. It went from, still thinking about her 24/7 then a few weeks later, I wouldn't think about her when I was at the gym, then a few weeks after that, I wouldn't think about her for most of the day, so on and so forth. Untill I realized I was making some gains, not even noticeble to other people, just me and that struck me the confidence to score an 9/10 beautiful gf. (keep in mind i'm very average looking, maybe 6.5/10 7 if it's a really good day) And what do you know I completely forrgot about my old gf.

Me and the new gf DID end up breaking up however, I was sad, very sad and it hurt. But I was equipped to deal with it, because I remembered that I was able to get over the first love of my life even when it seemed impossible.

I still look back on our relationship with nostalgia, and I smile. It's nice to remember when i'm feeling nostalgic. But it doesn't tear me apart and it doesn't give me that sinking feeling.

I hope this goes much better for you than it did for me.

I'm at the 8 month mark now, and I'm still a fucking mess. Going to the gym used to be my favorite thing in the world, and now I can't stand it because I no longer have her company in between sets. And, that's just one bit of the fucked up mess that is my mind.

I hope this goes much better for you.

Same thing for me too, but I have a baby with her so I have no choice but to still speak to her

>>17315069
Let this be a lesson to all, never associate your gf with your own personal get aways.

>>17315069
>>17315017
Did your ex ever contact you again? And was the break up do to a fight or just lost spark?

>>17316183
Yes me and my ex tried to make it work twice again, she said she loved me and I loved her. We had amazing times, we were best friends but being away from each other and experiencing life in our own opposite paths separated us too much, it didnt work out. We split up because I as depressed and she was depressed, I couldn't give her the attention she needed and she was such a young girl who hadn't experienced life yet because she was forced so many responsibilities and without a mother to be there. Her dad was deaf and that made it difficult for her. One day he met another guy and they started partying doing drugs and for a year and a bit she lived that lifestyle. She's doing much better right now and I'm no longer bitter I'm actually happy for her. I'll always remember the amazing times we had, but at the same time its very exciting to move on