Use viagra until your confidence grows naturally, and/or get head before trying to stick it in!

Quit porn for 3 months and see if it gets better.

>I can't quit
You're having an addiction problem..

Try gas station dick pills, extenze, horny goat weed, yadda yadda. Buy 'em on the other side of town, or 20 miles out or whatever you gotta do.

I take 'em about an hour before I think I might be gettin' busy, and I usually at least crush 'em right before I swallow.

I don't use 'em any more, but I probably would if I was about to get some strange that wasn't my girlfriend or something, because I always have erection trouble when I'm with someone new.

It won't get any better. Trust me, I have the same. My dick feels dead and cold most of the time, I can still get an erection but not without jerking it for a minute or two, I also don't get any of the random boners and sex urges I used to get when I was like 15. Just learn how to live with it, most of the time it is a blessing in disguise.