Riddle me this /adv/
I keep screwing myself over and over again. I know what I want to do with my life, I know how I can achieve it and why I want to achieve it, the goal is not simple but perfectly doable. Yet I'm sitting here browsing 4chan, watching porn and asking for any advice on why am I asking for an advice all the time.
I think I am getting the wrong kind of crazy.
>>17307896
Make a plan. Write down everything you want to do.
Get off the internet and get some motivation.
Procastination.
>>17307896
what are these goals?
btw big SEL fan here
It's just escapism. We sit here, and we're instantly gratified by an unlimited quantity of content. Why bother working towards your goals when you can be just as happy here? It's the same thing to your mind.
The only way out is to stop, and embrace boredom. Embrace being non-gratified so that you can start putting your energy into something more rewarding, and obtain gratification from that.
>>17307906
To put this into better perspective, it's a lot like addiction. The joy we gain from browsing the internet, playing video games, and doing other unfulfilling things is our high.
Well, if we sit here and we're high all the time, being high becomes the norm. When we're not connected to the internet, we're bored, and nothing really compares.
If we go to the gym and have a good workout session, yeah great we feel good, but only as good as we did when we were browsing the web, and it took a lot more effort to achieve so the payoff for the effort doesn't seem worth it.
So I think the solution is just to force ourselves out of this high, and start embracing that feeling of boredom as a sign of our recovery. If you're bored, you're motivated to try and do things. If that thing pays off, you're motivated to continue to do it.
>>17307896
I've done that so many times I feel sick just thinking about making a plan. I always make one, don't stick to it and feel terrible afterwards. Repeat.
>>17307904
Becoming something like a polymath in the areas that interest me:particle physics, math, chemistry, programming, languages, microbiology, farmacologym, psychology. I've been expelled from university because I couldn't bring myself to study, I couldn't control my studying, I would randomly have these moments, when I could go all night and go thorugh half of a book, then I was unable to do anything productive dfor a week. I've got so many books and resources, I know the right people... yet I failed. Gonna try again and again until i die.
Parkour, because I want to be more fit and I like the idea of tackling obstacles with style (generally)
let's all love Lain
>>17307902
I think that procrastination is not the cause but rather an effect of something bigger
>>17307906
this seems like a good idea, except boredom really hurts. I've tried going cold turkey on almost all the useless entertainment and my mind went blank. I was not thinking about getting my fix asap, but my concentration was ruined. After some time, I just got back on interwebz, because doing nothing and browsing is better than doing nothing
>>17307906
>gratified
Sweet summer child
>>17307896
Let's all love Lain.
>>17307911
>>17307906
yeah, that might be the solution, I was thinking about leaving all electronics behind for some time, meditating, doing some work in the garden and just sitting and thinking. That sounds like the right way to go. BUT. I cannot bring myself to actually do it.
When I find some way I am so satisfied with myself I feel like the problem is solved and as a reward I go doing something more simple and rewarding like watching a movie, playing a video game or watching porn or something.
>>17307921
That's referred to as a relapse.
I assure you, people have done just fine without the internet.
If you're suffering physical debilitations as a result from your withdrawal from such things, is that not even more evidence of your addiction to it?
It's willpower, man. Making your own decisions irregardless of how your body or subconscious feel about it.
>>17307922
Herpaderp.
>>17307944
I feel like I've already used all of my willpower, I feel helpless. There are so many failures in my life, the results I've achieved are not at all in proportion to the effort I've made. Maybe I just need a pat on the back, somebody to say to me 'everything will be fine, you don't have to worry'
I know I am addicted, I already was addicted to fapping, now it's just replaced with other stuff on the internet.
I thought after getting my philosophy together, figuring out the questions like: why am I here? what is the meaning of life? what happens when we die? how do I love myself? ... I will be complete enough to just storm through all the things I want to do, but no, did not happen.
>>17307953
Here, listen to a few of his videos on dealing with failure and depression. It's pretty good stuff.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OQzWPR4H-SU&list=PLkVbIsAWN2lvpys3pHlAHXGEamiDEWiRN
>>17307967
thx, gonna check them out, those are new to me
but I've watched so many videos from Leo Gura, Les Brow, Tony Robbins and godknowswhoelse that I am skepcital about finding something really new
a part of me does not believe I can change and therefore I can't change
how to stop this kind of thinking?
going gung-ho will not work, tested that many times
bumping with Chris Hadfield
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lCiXYhWSBrY
thanks for all the sugegstions, it helps me just to talk about it
any ideas, questions or /thread?
