>have started dating my friend whom I've had chemistry with for years
>made plans to stay over this weekend
>last minute, a different friend is suddenly available for a road trip we had been planning for months
>tell my girl this, she is upset and says she's always secondary
>she's got me there, it's fuckin true because I am scum
>don't really feel like road tripping, but this is a really rare opportunity since my friend group is never simultaneously free
What can I say? Or what should I do?
>>17307889
i dont get why you consider yourself scum. granted shes not the 'flavor of the week' considering you have history here but id take the road trip any day.
namely cuz road trips are rare fun occasions whereas a girl staying at your place can happen... welll every night for the rest of your life.
>>17307907
It is true though, she hasn't always been my first priority. I've canceled plans on her for my friends more times than I care to admit.
>>17307933
i still wouldnt say that makes you scum tbqh. i wish i had friends like you. but im permasingle so good friends like that are my preference.
try to break even and see if she can come with if they'll allow it but honestly id just take the raod trip. i dont know the context of the other times you ditched, but you are a good friend who doesnt want romance to get in the way of that, cuz even if she is more special than the flavor of the week type gfs, but ultimately what you are doign is a good thing imo
>>17307951
I don't want her to come, and she would feel awkward because she doesn't know anyone, either.
>>17307996
then decide what you're going to do, and roll with it. theres no happy ending here no matter what you do so pick the one that will make you the most happy.