The thought of never seeing my ex again is slowly driving me insane. It's been a year already yet I cannot accept the fact that I'll never be able to see, hear or touch this person again. I have had plenty of opportunities to "rebound" and date around but I am not interested in anyone else. The only person I was sort of interested in looked like my ex. It was the only reason I was interested in them and I almost broke up a happy relationship because I wanted something, someone, anything looking like my ex in my life.
I never cheated on my ex and I never did anything to warrant a break up besides the fact that this person did not want to be with me anymore. If I really, truly loved this person, wouldn't I be able to accept that and gracefully let them go? I can't. I'm afraid I'll do something really stupid like show up at their house professing my undying love for them just to be labeled an obsessive stalker and have the police called on me.
I don't know what to do. I work out 5 times a week, I have a job, I'm going back to school in the fall and I have fun friends I hang out with as well as a supportive family. I just can't stop crying at random times when I think of this person. It is giving me so much grief and so much heartache.
Help.
>>17303129
tl;dr but I imagine you haven't fucked anyone in the last year?
That'll do the trick. Force yourself. Get viagra if you have to
Your brain just needs a good blast of oxytocin brought about by someone else
>>17303137
I have. I've had sex with very good looking people and it makes me feel empty inside. I love this person so much and I want this person in my life. I'm not sure if I can take no as an answer. I'm also not sure if making a huge statement of my love is acceptable in todays society or if it will look sickly and obsessive. Lastly, I am not sure if I AM sickly and obsessive over them or if this is just a case of true love.
>>17303145
You are sickly and obsessive
>>17303147
Alright, so what do?
>>17303148
Go to the doctor
>>17303129
Just move on, you seem like a good person OP.
If she wanted to break up with you, it's her loss.
>>17303129
>yet I cannot accept the fact that I'll never be able to see, hear or touch this person again
>>17303129
Two cases really like what happened/happens to me on /adv/ today, wow.
First, i'm still in the first months of break up, so, i can't know if one day i will actually be capable of let go of her. I've been with her for 3/4 years, and holy shit, i still can remember anything -- despite the fact that i have a great memory.
Second, yesterday for the first time i had an insight while listening to a music (Step Out - José González), that, someday it has to happen. I'm obsessive as well and i don't fucking care a bit. This is my unfortunate(?) way of loving people and things. I can't think about someone easly letting go of another if one love the other. That's unreal to me.
Third, working on let go may be hard, but do you really have to cut off relations with her? Don't you have the opportunity of still be friends with her? Cutting her off fast may leave scars, and that's not good.
So, what we can do is just to cut relations slowly, fading. One day we may be able to live without them.
Also, note: i still love her and can't imagine kissing or touching another woman. She is the only person on the entire planet that understands me.
Good luck to us.
>>17303339
Note 2: being obsessive doesn't mean i don't respect their space or privacy. I understand she moved on, but i can't right know. My heart is still linked to the life i had.
>>17303129
Seek therapy.
bump
pretty much exactly the same position as OP here
>>17303129
>yet I cannot accept the fact that I'll never be able to see, hear or touch this person again
right
in
the
>feels
>>17303156
I'm actually getting the vibe OP is a grill
But yeah. This.
>>17303273
>never loved anything besides Mac and cheese and sakura Chan
>>17304272
That part fucked me so hard. Different situation but shit
>>17303137
Horrible advice.
Casual sex and relationship sex is way different.
I tried this recently, just left me feeling empty, disappointed and missing my ex more because the sex just wasn't the same.
I'm a man in case that matters.
There's nothing wrong with you. The people who have never properly loved are the ones advising you to get your dick wet as a cure.
Being broken up with over seemingly nothing by your significant other can cut ever so deep. I'm guessing this is your first proper, adult relationship?
There's only one cure and that's time, everything else is merely a distraction.
Whether she becomes a part of your life again is up in the ether, who knows what life holds. However in the mean time there's plenty to do. Improve yourself in whatever way you see fit, explore hobbies you've always wanted to try. Travel, broaden your horizons and see the world. More experience of cultures grants a different perspective of life. Throw yourself into the void my friend and come back with stories to tell. Your heart will heal itself in time, you have my word.
Bump, because I'm yet another anon who feels it.
