Self-improvement
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How have you improved yourself in the past year /adv/?
Surprisingly last year's july I promised i won't act like an autist anymore, dyed my hair to mark that and
>started to be more vulnerable with relationships
>cut ties with emotionally abusive friends, with whom i associated, because mom whined i have no friends
>become more open, try to tell about myself, even if i think it's too lame
>attempted to try to listen and be interested in other people
>stopped wallowing in despair and fixed my college work ethic mistakes (a bit)
Now I have strengthened my friendships and it feels good that someone besides my family appreciates me.
And i feel less of a loser maybe.
>>17298756
Grats anon, keep it up
I love that only one anon replied, it tells something about 4chan
>>17298740
I gave up because i had little to no gain and too much effort. All the exposure made me tilt.
Now i have accepted my fate and life is just as bad but at least i'm not tilting.
Got laid a couple times, got more decisive, traveled a bunch, met new people, had fun.
>>17299598
Yeah that normalfags like
>>17299659
vacation here
>>17298740
From last July
>moved into sober living from sleeping in car
>got job
>moved out of sober living
>got 2 raises (now make 16/hr)
>making it in life on my own
>started consistent spiritual practice
Could be a lot worse, boys
>>17298740
From Jan 1st. Sell ladies shoes confidence with talking to women improved dramatily. Finally finished associates degree. Guitar music skills improve as well as getting back into lifting and basketball. Still single but ok with it for first time , 27m thx adv.
>>17298740
>Finished High school
>Got heaps better at talking to women
>developed confidence
>Volunteered
>>17298740
I'm walking to a park thirty minutes away almost every day to watch the fountain and think and have got my first job (second yr. of uni.), I didn't really go outside at all last year except for school so this is an improvement.
I studied hard to become a choir conductor and wrote some new music set for choir, which together earned me 10 000 euro scholarship from the national bank to pursue my talent further.
I'm taking my medication correctly, I gave up an addiction, I let someone know how I've felt for a long time, I'm here now.
made gains
better discipline
wasn't autismo before but still improved confidence in general a lot
started going out more a lot
anxiety much lesser
got into very competitive program at pretty competitive university (though I feel like I've been accidentally accepted desu)
made out with one girl exactly, trying to fuck her now. Developing a crush on her which I dislike
Lost 30 lbs
Made some new friends
Started caring more about myself
>>17298740
>How have you improved yourself in the past year /adv/?
The past year:
>got over my borderline psychotic fixation on my ex
>turned my negative economy around by spending less money on alcohol and prostitutes
>managed to find a comfortable working pace
>got my first apartment (technically it's the bank's apartment for now, but it is increasingly becoming mine)
Past two years
>quit my job in order to follow my passion, found out the new job was also shitty so I quit that one too and got a new job that truly is a fit for me
Last year I was suicidal, extremely negative, and just unwilling to do stuff.
Nowadays, I'm aware that there are other options besides being negative. Once in a while I'll choose it. I've been going to therapy, and while I'm impatient about seeing results, it's certainly changed my way of thinking.
I just hope I can find a passion and git gud at it. My high standards don't allow me to do much though.
>>17298740
Started to eat less to lose weight.
Lost 8 kg now in total.
Already going to the gym last 3 months.
Started getting dating expercience by dating girls from tinder. I still suck at approaching girls, so I thought doing some dates trough Tinder would help me get a better understanding of girls.
Only downside is that I couldn't find an Intership, which means that I am going to have half year study delay. I don't got anything to do for school then. Thinking of doing a small course from another school.
How do you discipline, /adv/?
How did you start? I have to study but it never happens.
>>17299662
Thats your only contribution to this Thread? Poor Soul.
>>17302898
meditate erryday
Meditation has changed my entire subjective experience, anyone else? Strictly concentration Jhana and Zazen, no new age bullshit.
>>17302923
I don't even know these indian, buddhist, or new age words / techniques
All I do is sit, close my eyes, and focus on breathing for 10 to 30 minutes everyday. More so towards bedtime though because of my busy life
It's been around a year and a half for me with this, on and off but never longer than 3-4 day breaks.
I cannot tell you how this changes me for I do not know how I was before the change, and I cannot know such thing as all there is is the present.
>>17298740
>moved out, became independant
>have been financing myself through the jobs I had and have atm
>started to think about my happiness first instead of others
>stopped caring and worrying in advance and started living in the now
>lost a few kilo of weight, got back to running atm
>healthy eating
>still keeping my promise not to indulge in alcohol
>stopped playing vidya
>bought a Kindle and started reading books
>trying to be more open to people in general
>>17302936
Ah, ok. I do the same, concentration on the breath for 30 mins, working my way back up to an hour because I fell off my schedule for a few weeks.
got a job as a chef
cut off ties with left over high school friends
try to do whatever makes me happy
being kinder to strangers
>Stopped smoking weed everyday
>Focused a bit more on my studying, still not at my optimal level yet
>Told the girl I've worked with for the past two years how I felt and have currently been dating for the past three months all is going well
>Removed toxic people from my life
I lost a bunch of weight, now going to level off pretty soon. BMI will be 21
I got a job, was neet the past two years.
Things are going better. I need to pick some way to help my social anxiety next. Maybe can get on my way to a gf.
I'd love to learn how to talk to people better. That might be my next project.
>>17298740
I sort of accidentally started lifting every day and now I get compliments about my arms and chest at school almost daily, plus way more female attention, and I studied pretty hard for exams this year. I used to be scruffy and skinny so feelsgoodman.jpg
studying in japan
stopped my porn binge habit
learning to cook
gains, posture
having fun with cold showers
picked new a hobby - rope bondage
revived old hobbies - photography
>on the other side, still no job experience
>>17298740
These quotes helped me this year.
Being mature is knowing when and where to be immature.
And as Mr. Rogers said:
You're not just the age you are, you're all the ages you've ever been.
>>17303068
how did you stop that habit? Oh God, I feel like I need to stop before I go crazy.
>Got my bachelors.
>Wakes up at 6 am to walk for an hour.
>Got new friends whom actually will call me and ask to do stuff together.
Baby steps boys and girls, baby steps..
Started a drug regimen that has made life just so much better.
Therapeutic doses of 3-MeO-PCP weekly keeps me super positive.
Functional doses of tianeptine sulphate daily make life :)
I also take daily doses of CBD oil from dutchnaturalhealing's website.
I also have some sodium oxybate which I sometimes take to help sleep.
I take some different types of functional stimulants & binge books and scientific articles in my field that I pirate.
I've taken up cooking instead of buying food and also riding my bike.
Hiking in nature has also been quite fun and playing football(soccer) and basketball with buddies has been amazing.
I have a kinda-GF.
She's like a best friend with benefits.
We don't sleep in the same place and we can take breaks from seeing each other for like a week. It is monogamous but we're not as intimate as a normal relationship.
There were 2 threesomes. 2 girls, 1 guy & 2 guys, 1 girl....no homo
Life is awesome. Was thinking of adopting a kid for myself(not necessarily with my so so GF)
We talked about it already. Still personally unsure but kinda-GF is good either way.
Could adopt an older boy or girl. Maybe a 10 y/o.
Or 2. No more than 2 though.
Life has never been better.
Also, I've been watching a shit ton of anime. Great stuff.
>Got a full time job that I actually really enjoy
>Moved out of parents house for the second and last time
>Swapped out a dipping habit that was going to make my teeth fall out with vaping. Even if that turns out to be terrible health wise, at least I'll die with teeth lol. Saves money, too
>One month clean from amphetamines. Over the hump of physical withdrawal, working on relearning how to live daily life without that crutch
It's been a rollercoaster of a year, so much happened now that I think about it.
>>17298740
Gym three times a week. 160 bench, 185 squat, 250 deadlift.
Going for a little over a year now.
I sleep well, I look better every month, my posture has improved, I exhaust myself out of stress and anger at random shit. It's been great.
>>17298740
I finally stopped obsessing over getting a gf, which ironically lead to me getting a gf. I changed majors and added another one, but then dropped it as I finally accepted that becoming a professional musician wasn't the life for me. (Also, I'll be able to do it without having to pay for another semester.) I also gave my best shot in my classes, and I ended up getting all As in them. Also got my first job, even if it is a shitty summer-only one. Overall, I'm a little closer to becoming a well-adjusted adult.
