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Here's a question for the girls

>Set up online dating account years ago
>Enter wrong birth year - it says I'm a year older than I am as a result. Don't bother changing it (just never get around to it)
>Start seeing girl who is a year older than my actual age
>Seem to hit it off, really like her
>She asks when my birthday is
>Remember my fuck up on the website, realise she thinks I'm the same age as her
>Tell her it's at the end of the year
>She now thinks I'm slightly older than her

tl;dr basically sort of lied to the girl I'm seeing about how old I am because I was worried she'd think I was lying and not want to see me again if I told her about what I did wrong on the website.

Girls: how would you feel if the guy you were seeing told you this one day?

Bump...I thought these threads generally took off more

>>17296560
I'd start to question what more he is hiding. The lie in itself isn't that bad, one year here or there, unless you are underage, doesn't really matter. You should've come clean when the opportunity came, I don't think she even remembered your age from the site.

>>17296590
>I don't think she even remembered your age from the site.

She did, that's how it came up, when she asked when my birthday was.

Thanks for your answer

a girl that i occasionally talk to at uni just texted me and said to measure my foot from heel to toe and give her the measurement

does this mean she wants to fuck?

Girls, Boys, I just feel i'm in a weird moment of my life in wich everything is going fine but I never get to meet any romantic partner

I'm finally making new friends (Long story short: Confidence issues coming from a very small town, but now I live in the big city) and they're wonderful, loving people. It's true that it's still a little hard for me to make friends, partly because people here are not totally friendly the first times. So when I get invited to parties made by friends, it's a little hard to hit it off pretty well with their friends the first time... But I'm also meeting friends through friends directly, last week I met wich will be my new boss, a pretty cool director, and she's been inviting me to join her at all her parties since the moment we met. All going good.

But my sentimental life is lacking. From time to time I end up meeting a girl in a party, but it usually ends in a one night stand only (I was kissing with the last one when she stopped me mid kiss and told me "I have a boyfriend, by the way..." It's not the first time this happens)


I just don't know what i'm doing wrong. I'm young, not exactly in a rush to meet a lifetime partner. I would say I'm more concerned on having fun and going futher in my professional career. But still, I never meet a girl that makes me want to stay with her more than one night...

>>17296618
Stop sleeping with girls right away

>>17296610
Yes, that's exactly what it means. Kids these days and their roundabout ways of communicating

>>17296560
Suspicious as fuck. Your age shouldn't be that hard to get right.

What's the best way to ask a friend with benefits to be my girlfriend?

>housemate has cute friend (both of them are girls)
>don't really hang out or talk with her but say hey in passing once; she said hi and kept walking to where she was headed
>few months after this she friends me on facebook out of nowhere
>my housemate graduated and is moving out later this year
>I decided to send the cute friend a message on facebook asking if she wants to get coffee sometime
>flagged it as seen almost instantly but never got a response
>month or so later I get a friend request from her brother who I haven't met and lives in another town
>he has like 50 friends and clearly doesn't use his facebook very much; only mutual friend is her

What the hell is going on here? I got a haircut recently and my housemate saw it for the first time last night. The best explanation I can come up with is that the haircut rekindled some interest as it's very different from what it was before.

>>17296610
She's literally sizing you up

Girls,

Have you ever gotten drunk and decided to spontaneously kiss a guy? This happened to me last night at a HS reunion by a girl I've known since Elementary School. She gave me an earlobe kiss after I stopped her on the way out of the event.

>>17296885
Drunk people do stupid shit. Don't overthink it. It doesn't mean anything.

>>17296732
Try to understand if she feels similarly. Try to spend more and more time together when you don't fuck, cuddle, kiss, be nice to each other. If eventually you think she feels the same way, ask her if she'd like to date.

I'm a girl, i've been dating a guy for few weeks now and i'm starting to like him. I've never done anything with a guy before. I was a hugless kissless virgin until now i'm just a virgin. My problem is kissing, i feel very uncomfortable doing, i have no idea how to kiss and i'm so bad at it, like so very bad. I don't enjoy it and I panic. I want to have sex with him someday when it goes to that and when i'm ready, that doesn't make me uncomfotable. No other touching makes me uncomfortable and i'm not weirded out by anything else but kissing. Help me, how can i be a better kisser and how can i start enjoying it?

>>17296911
ok i'll try

>>17296915
My last gf told me that I'm a good kisser so I may be able to help.

I definitely think you should stop thinking so much about it. I tend to overanalyze just about everything and have nasty anxiety so I understand how difficult it is to stop, but I think stopping is the key to becoming a good kisser.

The trick to being a good kisser, IMHO, is being in the moment and not thinking. Kissing comes much more naturally than sex does, at least for me. It's one of those things that's done best when both people are feeling the moment and allowing the moment to sort of sweep them away. No one has to worry about coming too quickly, condoms, birth control, smells, or other things that people worry about with sex. It's fun and tongues have lots of stamina.

Another thing worth mentioning is that it doesn't have to be some super serious activity. It can be playful and fun. It's an intimate activity and part of intimacy is comfort and fun. I guess you could compare it to a dance or something, but I'm not sure if that would help.

TL;DR: From what I can tell, being a hugless/kissless virgin has caused you to develop some anxiety and you just need to practice being in the moment and not *worrying* about the moment.

Why do men love to say that "All women are at least bisexual"? I've never had the smallest inclination towards the same sex.

do black girls like us white guys?

>>17297017
yet

Sincerely,

A man

>>17296618
>I live in the big city
>I get invited to parties made by friends
>she's been inviting me to join her at all her parties
>I end up meeting a girl in a party
>it usually ends in a one night stand only
>I'm more concerned on having fun and going futher in my professional career

>But still, I never meet a girl that makes me want to stay with her more than one night...
>I just don't know what i'm doing wrong

>>17297039

You sound like me a year ago.
Enjoy life as it is OP, the right one will show up eventually, just as it happened to me.

>>17297017
because men like to see girls kiss and so they look at porn of girls kissing and go "wooow why are there so many bi girls all I see are bi girls"

>>17297018
in any race you will find girls who like guys of other races...

just don't go for a tumblr black girl.

>>17297046
>a year ago
>but guys I found the one we've been together for 6 MONTHS

>>17297073

Why are you being a salty cunt towards the dude? He's far ahead of you, I think I found your problem.

Or perhaps you just have a needle dick

I had sex with my best friend of 12 years.
How do I save the friendship?

>>17297089

its prolly the needle dick

>>17297089
>m-muh dick!

Kek, you know someone is irked when they resort to penis size. Go on though, keep giving advice, relationship expert. I'm not stopping you.

>>17297039

stop pretending that the girls aren't dumping your ass

>>17297017

Because men are brought up to think touching is something sexual, that they can't platonically hug and hold their friends, only do so romantically with girlfriends. Girls aren't brought up with this same stigma and are much more touchy feely and comfortable with each others' bodies, which reads as gay to people who think that sort of affection is reserved for romance.
Ironically, that level of comfort is more often a sign that there's zero sexual tension.

Also, wishful thinking.

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>>17297122
>tfw I've been in a relationship longer than most of /adv/

Got it on my first try too. But you guys can keep trying to find a life-partnership through one-night-stands at parties.

>>17297141

Actually the girls from the parties want me badly, all my friends has told me so, they are just playing hard to get after I hook up with them

>>17297039
>>17297148


Suuuuuuuuure anon. I'm sure that's how it is

>>17297148
So then what are you even asking for? If you don't want to date those girls, then stop sleeping with them. Go and meet other types of girls in other environments.

>>17297150
Believe whatever you want. What's not hard to believe is that no one will meet a good spouse through a drunken ONS.

Girls and guys

How am I suppose to act attractive if I don't feel attractive? There is a girl who used to be really into me, but nothing could come of it for reasons (nothing she or I did wrong). We started talking again, and I want things to go back to how they were since I can actually move forward with this now.. Just.. I don't know how to swoon her since I don't feel attractive, even tho a few months ago, it was clear she was very attracted to me

>>17297141
How did you find it?

>>17297158

What would it take to make you feel attractive and comfortable with yourself?

>>17297163

I really don't know..

>>17297161
Through mutual friends in school

>>17297170

To be honest, although it sounds lame. If she's been into you and you haven't undergone some major personal/physical changes in a negative manner, you really should just behave and act like you usually do anon. You're already past the point where you need to figure out if she's attracted to you or not.

>>17297173

But the thing is, it was like 3.5 months ago when she would be very flirty with me. I couldn't act on it because of reason. But now, I can. Just, I'm worried that maybe she lost interest in me. We still talk since we are friends. Just "that" part of our friendship hasn't come back. So I keep worrying that maybe she doesn't like me anymore. I don't know what to do, I'm worried about getting rejected since she's a close friend.

If a girl likes a guy, could she just randomly change mindset and not find him attractive anymore? Even if it's nothing he did wrong?

This is for both genders. How often do you see your SO? I'm trying to meet my girlfriend in the middle when it comes to how often we meet. We're used to polar opposites.

Girls, you would only call a guy "dear" if you were in a relationship right? Girl I've been talking to has called me that about five times now. We're both a little unsure of where our relationship is at the moment, but her calling me dear has to be a good sign right?

The only thing that's seemed to get me out of the boring conversation which turns to short one word replies seems to be bringing up relationships and asking their preferences fairly quickly (ideal date etc.)

Was this just a coincidence the two times it worked? Or is this actually a thing?

Took some acid the other day and decided I wanted to hang out with this girl I've known for a while (she's super chill and has a great sense of humor) anyway she comes over wearing some really short shorts and this really nice shirt that I've complemented her on before.

Everything was fun and we got to explore for a while but when we got back she kept talking about sex, almost incessantly. I was tripping balls pretty hard at the time so nothing happened but girls, was she wanting the D or was more likely the acid making me more aware of her repeated speech?
Also, if this were you, and she did want it, would you understand why nothing happened?

Girls, my girlfriend has been in eight relationships in the past, all have turned out horribly. Everyone either cheated on her, controlled her every move, or abused her (including rape).

She says she truly loves me, despite thinking she'd never love again, but she's still reluctant to tell me if she has friends, or talked to anyone, or has plans, because one of her exes was very, very controlling, to the point he had to know every single detail about who she has interacted with. She's been conditioned to think that talking about others and being open will result in her suffering.

What can I do to ease her into trusting me? I'd sooner off myself than think about intentionally controlling or hurting her in any way. It's been about six months since we've been romantically involved, not sure how to go about easing her into trusting people again.

>>17297437
hate to say it, but LIKELY, again nothing is for certain. But LIKELY according to PATTERNS, you're her next stepping stone to be able to trust again. She'll be able to trust her next bf after you a bit better after you two separate.

again, i repeat, nothing is set in stone. Maybe you'll be that odd case where she does immediately open up to the first non abusive boyfriend.

Girls, I'm new to relationships, girlfriend has been in a bunch. What are the dos and don'ts?

>>17297450
Disagree. The pattern has to end somewhere. If he treats her well enough, what's to say the pattern won't end with him?

>>17297451
DON'T: overthink it like you are now.

DO: not overthink it like you are now

>>17297450

Well, we've already started talking about future plans, so she's already fairly trusting of me as a whole. It's just that she's scared to talk about certain things, but the fact she has told me that in the first place has to mean she's at least prepared to open up eventually, right?

Either way, hopefully I will be that guy. Regardless, thanks for being honest.

>>17297452
As I said nothing is set in stone. He very well could be the one, but typically these types of girls TEND to follow the pattern I was talking about. Where they slowly start being able to open up and trust again, non abusive boyfriend after non abusive boyfriend.

But I don't know her, and I don't know what she's like based off of his description she seems like the type.

>>17297458
No problem man, the fact that you're talking about future plans seems pretty promising. Good luck in your endeavors. Don't corner her, be kind, but MOST important. BE FUN. be competitive with her play games together, sports etc. Let her realize relationships can be fun

>>17297454
Overthinking is my best and worst quality, though. Fuck.

Girls,

I'm a very apologetic person. I'm not a doormat, but I'm quick to take the blame or apologize for an issue if I recognize I was the cause. Is this a turn off?

>>17297185

Anyone?

>>17297473
im sure bubba in cell block A would find that attractive

>>17297405

A female friend of mine calls me "dear" and "beautiful" A LOT. I think it just means she's close/comfortable with you

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>match with girl on tinder
>start conversation
>like 4 messages in, she stops responding
>this keeps happening

i don't say anything stupid, i don't even have the chance to. i'm assuming my messages just get buried. would it be weird to send a follow up message, or would that seem too desperate?

>>17296525
For those of you who are older
speaking of sex mid early forties is still young enough to be considered active right?

i'm just worried once they hit late fifty they'll get either tired off it completely or loose their drive

>>17297483
Tinder isn't for conversation thats been said a million times.

Make with quick pleasantrys then get down to brass tax

>>17297483
desu try okcupid if you want conversations and stuff

Guys, do you consider yourselves more or less pathetic than the average 4chan male?

>>17297517
Depends on the board.

>>17297517
If all you see are dudes on 4chan saying they have a 13 inch dick, even if you know they're memeing you'll start to feel inferior eventually, even if you're average or above average.

>>17297517
I don't know. Depends on the board I guess? Feel better than the average /r9k/ or /b/ /v/ goer.

At the same time I'm pretty suicidal and depressed which seems a common theme among 4chan so, eh.

>>17297473
Yes. That sounds almost like being a doormat, btw.

>>17297437
You wait. And know that there is a chance she will never open up to you. Once bitten, twice shy.

>>17297417
How do you know that shit actually happened if you were tripping?

>>17297408
>two times

>>17297405
I don't call anyone dear, because I'm not 70 years old. If I did, it would only ever be in a condescending way

>>17297356
Once a week, twice on the rare occasion

>>17297100
Probably can't, if we're being brutally honest. It's either relationship or nothing now

>>17297017
You're not alone. I can appreciate a pretty girl, but I have absolutely no desire to get with one. I'm a zero on the Kinsey scale

>>17297497
>>17297505
i knew it's considered a hookup app, but i'm not gonna message every girl asking if they want to bang. i'd also at least like to get to know someone before i commit to taking them out and spending money on them. at what point should i ask for the girl's number? relatively quickly?

>>17297527
>>17297532
What about /adv/, since this IS /adv/?

>>17297534
>not being an asshole who keeps arguments going for pointless reasons until someone say something stupid that drives a wedge between people is a doormat
Damn

>>17297536
I feel better than people who come here expecting a circlejerk and edgy teens; equal or just less fucked up than the actual fucked up people.

>>17297541
>not being an asshole who keeps arguments going for pointless reasons until someone say something stupid that drives a wedge between people is a doormat
Is not necessarily the same as
>I'm a very apologetic person. I'm not a doormat, but I'm quick to take the blame or apologize for an issue if I recognize I was the cause

Don't ask a question if you can't handle people answering honestly

>>17297536
I'll go with average level of patheticness. Not a virgin, have one friend I talk to regularly (tho not in person), and can hold a conversation. But at the same time, haven't talked to people in person in a while and I'm pretty fucked mental health wise.

I mean if you're looking for a guy who admits to regularly browsing /adv/ you can assume they're some level of fucked up, either relationship shit or mental illness shit, maybe both cause they can go hand in hand.

Girls, how should a guy approach asking about an LDR? I can definitely sense interest, but there's definitely an air of ambivalence between us. As in I'm pretty sure we like eachother, but I don't think either of us know how to approach the situation. Before you try to talk me out of it, ik the implications of an ldr. I just think this person is worth the gamble.

>>17297568
>before you talk me out of this LDR let me tell you mine is DIFFERENT AND SPECIAL

No it isn't, it's an LDR unless you have it planned out and the tickets already bought for moving to her in the next month for or her move to you. Don't even bother

>>17297579
I mean you're not wrong. even if the odds were .1% id still risk it in this scenario. I'm pretty aware of what you mean, I just really want to ignore the reality of it.

My girlfriend likes to eat steak bloody. Is she a vampire or will she one day try to literally eat my dick?

This is mostly for woman but could apply for men too, how old is too old for having sex with your partner I'm late 20s she's early 40s so there's a really huge gap between us & I'm worried she's uninterested or just doesn't have the energy anymore

>>17297598
>i just want to ignore the reality
LDR in a nutshell. Sorry to be rude, not that im being salty, just tryiing to help a brother out, lots of us have been there.

>>17296879
bump

>>17297621
I personally know a couple with these ages. They're both very happy and have been together for a year.

That said we're always making fun of them behind their backs.
Do what feels right but don't expect that everybody will feel the same.

>>17296907
I sucked my friends dick while he was asleep and I can confirm I was just too drunk to comprehend shit

I need female input on this.
First off, I know I'm pathetic and a douchebag for saying this but since hanging out more and more with my date of 2 weeks I felt less and less attraction to her due to her weight. I feel like such a prick.

Shes such a nice person and based on what I know about her she doesnt deserve that kind of talk from me. When I first met her I was attracted, if not infatuated with her. But as I spent more time with her I started to like her less. I hate myself for losing attraction to such a wonderful person. Anyone got any advice or input?

>>17297720
End it ASAP before you lead her on even more

>>17297417

I've never been on acid, but I'm not sure you can trust what you perceived while tripping.

>>17297738
What hurts me the most is that I'm basically a repeat of her ex. Shes been abused before unfortunately by people before me. I'm not perfect but I'm not as evil as she described them. She honestly believed she could've been happy with me and then I basically just brought her up to crush her right down. I hate my life.

>>17297437

Sounds like something that might require therapy, really.

But if you're not doing so already, letting her into YOUR life (if she wants to be let in) might be nice while waiting for her to let you into hers. Let her get to know your friends, tell her about your day, etc, without expecting reciprocity. Might eventually feel normal and safe enough that she joins in, and in the mean time it can at least give you yourself a sense of normalcy, and give her a sense of transparency to build trust.

>>17297473

Sort of depends on the tone. You can accept your own misstep from a place of confidence, which is very attractive. But you can also grovel over them from a place of submission, which is very unattractive.

But within reason, I'd say being overly eager to apologise is probably more attractive than being overly unwilling to apologise.

>>17297755
You can't make yourself be attracted to her

Guys, would you get involved with your friend's ex? If so, how far?

>>17297760

Oh no, it's not that we're secret towards one another. Very early on did she tell me all about her childhood, her past experiences, her issues and her problems. It's just that there's some lingering aftereffects of those bad relationships that she seems to (subconsciously) avoid talking about. She's even admitted to me that although she feels she can be open with me, it's just ingrained in her mind that talking about her friendships/acquaintances/interactions is always going to be equated to pain, and that's what I wanted to help her through. She trusts me completely, but is still scared. As someone else, all I can do is give her time to properly accept I'm not like the others, which is what I initially thought, but I didn't know if someone else might have some insight on decent ways to deal with the issue.

>>17297782
probs not, I dont see how you could be attracted to your buddies sloppy seconds. Are you too ugly to get your own piece?

>>17297782
Bros before hoes

>>17297782

One of my friend's ex fiancé started talking to me when I was weak.. she was texting me saying she wanted me to shove my cock in her mouth, and that she would give me the best blow job of my life, and would suck me all day long.

She sent me nudes, and I sent a dick pic. She told me to go over her house the next day. But before it was time to go there, I started feeling regretful, so I canceled and didn't go. I deleted all her pictures too. I feel bad I let myself get weak, but I'm glad I didn't actually go through with it

>>17296525
Girls, is a 6.5" X 5.5" penis enough to get off?

A cute girl and I send each other funny videos all the time. She used to be all laughs at mine, but now mostly says it's not funny but well-made when I send her one.

Should I look for any meaning behind this change? Not everything I send is meant to be funny, but it's kind of painful to be outright told so either way.

Guys, how would you react if you found out that your girlfriend has a husbando and is in love with him?

>>17297831
Depends on how intimate and deep we seemed. If we just started going out I'd tell you that you shouldn't have been doing this, and I'd have a bad taste in my mouth knowing that I'd be intruding on another guy's territory. Brocode and all that.
If we were really intimate and had been for a long time, someone's getting hurt in one way or another.

Girls,

My girlfriend has small breasts (like.. smallest cup size) and insecurities. She refuses to listen to me when I say they're perfectly fine, especially since her ass is amazing.

Is there some magic word I can drop so she realizes I'm being serious?

>>17297816

Not a girl but I will tell you this. My dick is an inch shorter than you, but the same girth. There is a girl cheating on her fiance with me, because she tells me the sex with him is not pleasurable because he has too much length and sex will hurt sometimes. You are absolutely fine.

>>17297831
like, an anime character? irl celebrity?

>>17297861
Damn good work my man! That makes me feel much better.
Question: what body type is she? Her Height and hip width?

>>17297838
Wow, you either take waifuism very seriously or just thought I said "husband".

>>17297862
Yeah, you know, a fictional character, mostly.

This is for generally anyone who wants to answer it, but are there people out there who are looking for a long lasting and deep relationship? Or has the meet and fuck culture totally diminished any hope of achieving that has a 20 something?

>>17297932
Of course there are, what a stupid question.

>>17297878

She used to be very slim, but now she is a little bit chubby. Law school stress eating I suppose. That being said, she is dropping the weight/works out 4 times a week. She really is attractive though. Her face is beautiful, her hips are a bit like an hour glass and seeing her diamond engagement ring makes me hard.

>>17297878
>>17297878

And her height is 5'5

How do girls feel when they find out a guy masturbates?

>>17298020

wtf do you mean 'find out'? Of course he masturbates.
How do guys fee when they find out a girl takes shits?

>>17298036
Oh, so it's a given to most girls?

>>17297857
suck her tits more?
i dont know

>>17297992
>her hips are a bit like an hour glass
Those are some fucked up hips then

>>17298020
Girl here.

Honestly it fucks me up a little that given all of my male friends, chances are they all masturbate. Most of them it makes complete sense, but then I look at a few who are very quiet, not very sexual, not very interested in relationships, and I'm like, huh. This baffles me.

>>17298075
Quiet guys masturbate too. It's not about personality, it's just a natural thing.

>>17297794
>ask the opposite gender anything

>>17297798
>>17297812
See, I thought most, guys had the whole 'bros before hoes' thing going, but my boyfriend's roommate has had flings with two of her ex's friends. According to my boyfriend, the second one was a pretty cool guy otherwise and he didn't seem like the sort of guy who'd sleep with his friend's ex.

And if I'm being honest, I know girls who have dated their friend's exes too. I don't know, I feel like the whole bros before hoes/chicks before dicks is just something people throw around but don't actually follow.

>>17296618
>I never get to meet any romantic partner
Care to give us the lotto numbers too?

>I would say I'm more concerned on having fun and going futher in my professional career.
Hence you get it.

>>17297517
Reading about the most guys problems and what they perceive as a problem makes me feel super awesome in contrast ... which itself is pathetic. I guess the redeeming factor is, that I just check the board to read stories from others lives and not to solve any problems.

>>17297782
Depends on the girl, how close I am with the friend and how much it'd be a problem for him. Not opposed to the idea.

>>17297831
I dislike people who use "love" lightly already, using it for a fictional character too ... ugh, at very least facepalming and then wondering what the fucking fuck lead to that shit.

No it isn't. I mean like hourglass type figure a bit. Look it up.

>>17298166
Hips can't be an hourglass shape on their own.

>>17298075
>>17298088
>Quiet guys masturbate too
HNNNNNNGGGGHHH

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>>17298208

Some quiet boys even think about big dragon dicks in their boypussy while they do it

>>17298208
Every guy except those asexuals masturbate. I was the quiet guy in school and I masturbated two or three times a day on average.

>>17298188

I know, I'm tired. I meant her hips are like that of someone with an hourglass figure.

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Girls: looking for your perspective here as a way to help me ease my mind...hopefully.

My girlfriend and I are switches, but it's plain to see that she really enjoys being dominated in bed. I'm happy to do that for her, but her liking that domination for some reason makes me feel really insecure that I could lose her to someone MORE dominant. It's an insecurity of mine that I'm not the most dominant and aggressive person in everyday life. We've talked and I really think I satisfy her well in bed with regards to domination, but I can't get the idea out of my head that someday someone will scoop her away from me just by being more dominant to her in everyday life.

It makes me angry at myself, because I know that being submissive doesn't make you unfaithful. I'm submissive and I wouldn't dream of leaving her just because some girl acted dominant around me. I hate doubting her character, but the fear keeps creeping up on me.

Sub girls, can you help me reframe my thinking at all?

>>17297831
It wouldn't bother me that much, unless it was to creepy, intimate levels. I tell my girlfriend about my waifus all the time and we have a laugh about it more than anything.

>>17297827
Bump

>>17298331
she sounds autistic

>>17297831
Depends on who he is and how serious you were. I'd probably think it was funny.

>>17298307

Just remember that she's in the exact same position and realise you're being irrational.
Hell, the more subby you act by being insecure like this, the more likely it'll probably look from her perspective that you'll leave her for someone more dominant who doesn't need you to in turn dominate them.

>>17298307
Not a girl, but are you romantically involved or purely sexual? If romantically, have a bit of faith in your partner. As a person in a similar boat, being a switch (although my partner is purely submissive), and someone who tends to overthink -a lot-, I'll tell you that any relationship founded purely on sexual desires is doomed to fail from the start. If she likes you, she'll understand that you're simply a different person. Just like how a lot of couples are polar opposites, have differing opinions, upbringings, etc, so do a lot of couples have varying sexual desires. I can guarantee you that someone who isn't naturally one way going out of their way to do their best to please their partner, is going to be worth far more than someone who does it by default. It shows you care about her. Yes, you'll have to accept she might have fantasies about you being more rough, but if you're honestly that worried about this, and you truly do fear that it'll happen, then for your own sake it might be a good idea to start putting your own inhibitions away for her sake. Agree on a safeword and a caution word if need be. If she wants you to be rougher, then be rougher, she'll tell you when to stop, and she won't get too mad if you go too far one day, because she's the one who is literally asking you to do it. What matters is the intention, and if you make a mistake then learn from it.
Once again, as someone who worries just as much as you, potentially more, I'm telling you that overthinking is what causes hardship.
If worse comes to worst, bring it up with her. She should be able to understand where you're coming from, she'll probably feel the same way, even.

I'm starting to think that I may end up falling for a housemate/friend. I just need some advice. I'm sure there are a million reasons this is a bad idea, but I also think this is a bit different.

I knew him a year before and we weren't too close and i wasn't into him. I think he may have been into me the first time we met. I had a lot of issues that I've mostly resolved by the time I moved in. We've spent some time hanging out and i realized we have similar long term ideas about life. There are other people in the house too. I think he's been realizing I'm not a trainwreck anymore. We played video games together yesterday. I feel calm, happy and safe around him and i think he does too. I don't think this is a case of 'put two young adults of the opposite gender in the same house'.

i may be wrong and maybe it is just the case of putting young people in the same house. I'm going to give it a month or so and see how things are before i bring it up to him? how horribly wrong could this possibly go? I think we can both be adults about this, but who knows?

>>17296525
Hey girls :

How do i sleep naked in bed without getting poop on my sheets??

>>17298378
Thanks for the reply. You're very right. She's just much more secure compared to me, I suppose. Gotta keep improving myself and take refuge in that. Work to be better makes me feel more deserving and better.

>>17298405
Thanks a lot for this, anon. We're romantically involved and had a really strong connection even before sexual stuff, so what you're saying really resonates. Both of us are discovering things about ourselves and realizing how we like it, and both of us seem really satisfied. I'll start putting those inhibitions away and put my trust in her. She's a fantastic person and deserves to not be doubted.

Now that you've mentioned a safe word (which we definitely have), have you ever used it when you yourself were being dominant? There's been a time or two that we've been having fun with me dominating her, but suddenly I feel like I'm going to far for my comfort and not hers. I know I should be just as entitled to using the safe word as she is, but I felt like a bit of a coward or a spoilsport. Any thoughts?

>>17298423
Don't use sheets.

>>17298427
Alright I'm bored now, I think I might sleep

>>17298426
Being completely honest with you, never had to use a safeword, even if we have one set up. Use it liberally, she needs to understand your limits just as much as you're trying to understand hers. I can guarantee that she'll see what you're doing as a big thing, and if she's even remotely good of a person, she'll understand that you're making a lot of sacrifices to please her. She can't tell you to throw away yourself completely, though, and she'll be understanding.
Just make sure she knows beforehand that you're completely confident with knowing her limits, and explain that you might not even know your own until you try.
I also started out completely vanilla and in a state of 'I can't afford to hurt her at all'. She started out as a freak, so I had to work my way up to her pace, and if she's not saying the word, assume she'd be happy to have it harder. Just make sure to ask if you're not sure.

>>17298456
Thanks anon. You rock. We're gonna be going harder than usual this weekend and we're both looking forward to it, so I'm trying to get myself psyched up and ready. Both of us are gonna be happy and satisfied being dommed and subbed.

How do I get over my yellow fever?
It has been a few years now and it sucks because I rarely come into contact with Asians (I live in West Aussie) and the single life is kinda boring now
I have always prefered exotic women over white girls but perhaps it isn't for the best to turn down parties or bar hops with friends because I'd be surrounded by drunk white girls

Help me - Asian girls are ruining my life

>>17297517
I hate every single thing about myself, all my physical features, my personality, everything, so probably more pathetic. There are definitely people on this site worse than me though.

>>17298088
>>17298208
>>17298225
I'd say I masturbate more honestly. Normal guys can get laid so they don't need their hand. I'm aiming for fully celibate though.

>>17298314
>waifus
Heretic

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Question for any femanons who use OK Cupid to meet men.

What does a guy have to do to keep your attention and allow messages to flow back and forth to the point of exchanging contact info?

I've been on and off OK Cupid for 4 years and not acquired a single date from it. Reply rate is shockingly bad even from women who are mutual matches and initiate conversation.

Contrast this with Tinder where I've had a >30% reply rate this year. Often leading to long conversations and exchange of numbers. Been on 5 dates this year, even though I'm somewhat selective about personality type + communication skills, and haven't used Tinder for over a month.

I used the same photos between the two apps, only my profile description was shorter and limited on Tinder because there's a word limit.

If any males want to offer insight I'm more than happy for this as well.

Pic unrelated.

I'm considering going full education/work and no relationships untill I'm 35-40 (because I like to be invested in whatever I do, but for relationships that would take a lot of time, which I could spend in other ways).
That way I'll have a massive pile of resources to affirm action in the world as wall as to enjoy life.
however when I would settle down I would like a very active and young, (25-30) wife. would such a plan have any chance of succes?

>>17297517
I'm happily married with 3 awesome kids and a well paying career.... The average 4chan strikes me as younger and not having their sjit together yet

>>17298613
>would such a plan have any chance of succes?
Very small. First of all, you assume that money alone will 'buy' you a wife. Secondly, you assume that you'll be able to find a younger wife who you actually want to marry, and who wants to marry you. Thirdly, putting something like dating on hold for years is just stupid, because it means you view relationships rather mechanically.

>>17298613
She would be a gold digger, almost guaranteed.

>>17297782
I gave this girl her first anal a month after she dumped this guy i knew. It was nice to defile her more than he ever did. And he hated me for it (probably still does). He was foolish to ask her for details after they had agreed "no secrets".

We kept dating for 6 months.

>>17298621
I'm not thinking it will buy me a wife, since having resources doesn't mean relentlessly spending it like most people do I want to have it to affirm action in communities, not have a 200.000+ house and luxury, I don't even want a car or tv for example.
the second part is indeed what I'm worried about.
thirdly, Ive been in a relationship before and it was far from mechanical, more like a rollercoaster really, much based on feeling, but exactly because of this it takes much time. >>17298623
If she's a gold digger that wants to go for a guy that doesn't spend much on luxury I see no problem.

>>17298638
There's no reason you can't study or work and date at the same time. Think about how much less stressful it'd be if you had someone to support you (emotionally, I mean). We're built for relationships and socialising, don't forget that.

To girls:

How and when do you lose interest in a relationship?

Just recently I was dating and exams came up, so I couldnt do much for a month. After the month the magic was gone in her eyes. Needless to say I'm confused since nothing changed in me.

>>17298669
>How and when do you lose interest in a relationship?
It's a very complicated thing, but I think the less invested in someone I am, the easier it is to get bored. If I don't know someone well, or if we've only known each other for a short amount of time, then I'd be more inclined to lose interest.

In your case, there was probably an element of other people socially stimulating her, so she didn't need you anymore. That's not to say she's a bad person for it, it wouldn't have been conscious or anything and you may have done the same if the tables had been turned, but it's probably just what happened. You were 'replaced'

>>17298677
I imagine there's no coming back from this one, right?

>>17298684
Probably not. It sounds like there wasn't much of a connection between the two of you anyway. Move on to the next one.

>>17298686
Thanks homie, I appreciate it.

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>>17297417
Acid is fantastic, i would have gone in for the bra strap once she began talking about sex, Did she know you were trippin balls?

>>17298644
i'm studying about 70 hours a week in a double programme, so in essence there could still be some time left, but if i'd spend that on a relationship I'd spend less time with friends.
I guess some emotional support would come in hand but a relationship for that purpose would feel morally wrong.
> We're built for relationships and socialising, don't forget that.
I know but I don't connect well with a lot of people because of my views so socialising is not entirely satisfying with most people, if you catch my drift. I'm a redpilled /pol/ack but If I could find someone who who shares such views it could change my mind, but so far none found.
I guess I figured out my own answer, thanks

>>17298075
It fucks you up?? Every man ever waxed his tubesteak. Ever

>>17297609
Both.

Is getting off of the idea of bdsm and yandere(posessive abusive love), while you are handheldless dateless virgin okay?

>>17297517
Less. I might be a loser but at least I don't feel feels all day.

>>17297782
No.

>>17298075
For a guy it's basically like scratching an itch.

I was driving a company vehicle and accidentally scratched it, how fucked am I?

Why did I get sucked into a LDR. You all told me I'd regret it but I did it anyway and now I'm experiencing the highest highs and the lowest lows of my life.

Girls:
Is there a gray area between interested and not interested? I want to make sure that when people are so quick to tell you "she's not interested, give up" they have a reason to. The girl I like hasn't properly rejected me, and it's driving me insane.

>>17298870
Pro tip - don't let it drag out. Move in together asap, or watch it all fall apart inevitably

What are my chances of finding a girl who is ok with me being with a virgin at 21 and is willing to teach me? I'm not ugly or anything in fact i have had girls call me gorgeous etc. I have finally gotten away from my controlling parents and i wanna party and stuff but i have no friends who are interested in that kind of thing. Helpppp

>>17298909
Date older girls into younger guys if you want her to teach you.
Otherwise, never tell that you're a virgin and roll with it. Read online for advise if you need to. Basically, don't say anything unless asked, in which case make the most vague explanation of how you've been with someone before her.
Majority of the time, male virginity is not an attraction factor to women, save for the ones that deliberately prey on it.
Lost mine at 23, never said anything, worked out just fine.

>>17298941
thank you anon, good health upon you!

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>>17297831
Are we talking about jokingly, like a character you're really interested in? Or are we talking about those weirdos that actually pretend they can love a fictional character?

If the latter, out she goes.

>>17298092
>See, I thought most, guys had the whole 'bros before hoes' thing going, but my boyfriend's roommate has had flings with two of her ex's friends.
It's easy to claim to be moral when you never have to make a difficult decision. It becomes more apparent when they are put in that position.

>>17298870
Talk to her, figure out some long term game plans. Work out meeting up, where the best place to move to is, and so on. One of the reasons LDRs fall apart is because they never really try to move out of that purgatory.

>>17298941
>Otherwise, never tell that you're a virgin and roll with it.
I understand the mentality behind this but it's always bugged me. Unless it's a casual lay it's basically setting the relationship up on a lie.

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>>17298983
Everyone lies all the time. You just gotta make sure they're insignificant lies. Your sexual history should never have any bearing on your current one, and even less on her potential opinion of ex-relationships. You're with her now, live in the now. That goes for both partners.
This is also why it should be as vague and shallow as possible, so as not to make an elaborate lie and paint yourself into a corner. The less you have to act, the better. Unless you're completely unaware of anything sexual, she shouldn't even notice. I mean, you're together, right? She should be in love with you. That phase usually allows you to make mistakes and get away with them. Perfect for getting some skill in fucking her.

>>17296915
Do what makes you feel comfortable. Nothing will make you feel sexier than that. Ask your man what he likes about your kissing, he'll tell ya. Then maybe you'll find out that you're not so bad after all!

>>17297857
It has nothing to do with your opinion of her body and everything to do with her opinion of her body.
There's nothing you can say or do that will convince her, because she's insecure about herself, not about your views of her.
This is one of those cases where all you can do is offer support when she needs it, and be otherwise there for her. It's one of those cases where the person with the problem has to sort it our for themselves. It's an irrational fear of something insignificant, blown way out of proportions inside of her mind.

>>17298853
Depends on the company. If it was my company: not very, shit happens. My boss has done it himself multiple times.

Is losing your virginity with a prostitute a good idea?

Anyone remember me? I'm the femanon who fell in love with a girl I met online. I have updates ...things are even more confusing now. But its kind of a long story so just...wondering if any anons who remember are still around to give advice without me having to start from the beginning.

>>17298558
Guilty as charged. Only one per work of fiction though, so I guess I'm a dimension-hopping waifu-er

>>17299120
I will never do it because for me sex is something you need all sides doing it for the same reason.
I never heard anyone with the same opinion though.

Girls

let's say you are friends with a guy, and there was a period of 2 months or so that you were really into him. You thought he is attractive and wanted him. But for reasons out of yours and his control. Nothing could happen. Then you just talk as normal friends over the course of the next 3 months or so. Could you randomly lose all attraction toward him during this time? Like, he didn't do anything wrong, or changed in a negative way. Infact, he changed in a positive way, better haircut and better physical shape. Would it be ok for him to try to make a move?

This is my current experience, I like this girl, but I don't know if she likes me anymore like that. I keep worrying myself that she lost all interest in me in that sense. So, would you lose all interest in a dear friend for no reason? Or would there still be attraction deep down in you somewhere towards that person?

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>talk to girlfriend through text
>she goes to go to the bathroom/get dressed/make dinner/etc
>doesn't reply for 4-5+ hours
>always turns out she just went to do something else too... typically with her phone either on her or right next to her

Is it bad to get annoyed/a bit pissy about it? I don't want her to feel like she has to report everything she does to me but I don't think it's too much to ask for her to let me know she's going to do something else after it's implied she's going to be back after 10 minutes or so.

>>17299144
This is so individual. How did you know for sure that she liked you to begin with?

Girls: Did I fuck up by telling my friend to stop getting pregnant for awhile?

Shes 21 and pregnant with her third kid (all by one guy, shes married). She started telling me recently how much pain shes in from pregnancy and I suggested she maybe take a year or two before getting pregnant again. She wants a big family and I wasnt trying to be rude. This is third kid in like 3 years. I was just saying maybe she should take a break before doing any damage to herself. Not to stop having kids completely. I guess she took offense because she has been ignoring me since.

>>17299144
>randomly lose all attraction
Out of curiosity, how many people (male or female) have actually had this happen?

Personally i don't remember ever just randomly losing interest in anyone, no matter how much time passes.
But I guess that's because i never really had those hormonal teenager "crushes" that come and go as quickly as a mood swing.

>>17299160

>How did you know for sure that she liked you to begin with?

she told me things like I make her feel so safe, and how she wishes we could lay in bed together and kiss. It was very obvious. Nothing could come of it tho because I lived too far from her. I will be somewhat close to her area in about 2 months. so I would like to be with her.

Just, all that flirty talk has been dead the past 3 months. we just talk as normal friends. I know she doesn't have a boyfriend, because she tells me like everything. I'm just wondering, if she still likes me, or if she could have randomly lost all interest in me. Even tho it's nothing I did wrong

>>17299130
Whats the development

As a guy how do I know what league I'm in looks wise. Personality and income aside. I'm thinking about trying to find a gf once i finish school next May get a job and move out of my parents house.

>>17299169
Stop feeding her carrots.
>>17299159
Treat her like she is treating you

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>be me, married
>wife starts a new job
>tension has been building in our house due to many factors
>wife starts becoming distant
>hiding texts from me, staying out late
>find out last night she's been interested in a girl at work
>says can't stop thinking of having a relationship with a girl

Ok ladies, hopefully a bit more mature. I've been down this lovely road before, and it sucks big time. My wife has basically stopped talking about shit after she got this job, and now is getting all crazy about it. We've built an amazing life, with two houses, and just getting a business started. I really try to break her shell to get her to speak to me, and it finally came out last night after months, but it's become a huge problem now. Every time a girl has left me for another girl it's been a horrorshow that eventually ends in her being fucked over by another girl, then immediately by another guy. Any of you ladies think I should try harder, because I really love this woman? I don't mind her having sex with girls, we've both been open about that. I just think there's something more to this and it's going to turn into a shit show again.

>>17299199
Im sure lots of people here will tell you to let your wife do what she wants but I personally wouldn't let that slide. Married means married. She wants to whore around than Id dump her for someone who is actually loyal.

>>17296525
FEMANONS/FEMALES/WOMEN/CUMDUMPSTERS:

>have close friend of nearly 10 years, a girl (A)
>had been in a relationship with A's best friend (B) for three years
>broke up with B two years ago
>since then, A barely returns my texts or calls and certainly never initiates
>hear that B is still bitter towards what happened between us
>A realizes that it's unfair that she's only gotten one side of the story, but probably has to stick by B

I understand that, but if she realizes and feels bad, why can't she be arsed to even talk to me? Does this mean I don't matter to her anymore?

>>17299226
It's not the sex I'm so worried about, it's her getting all crazy in love with some girl and it ending in disaster. We've been open about sex with other women, but now her desires are going beyond boundaries. I'm halfway torn thinking she just needs to bang a girl, or she's really willing to throw our whole relationship away. DESU, I think she's just acting out because she is now hanging out with new coworkers and people. That being said, if something does go down, I'm the fuck out.

>>17299237
I don't think it's that straightforward. Every person in the world tells a skewed story about their break up. Even if you have amazing introspection and are 100% honest and devoted to being objective, there will be things that have hurt your partner without you ever realizing it. So I think what she realizes is that the stories of girl B and you will never align, and if she hears both of you out it will still boil down to her own "bias" which version sticks out to her as more credible or less bad. It is also possible that B either flat out asked her to not interact with you, or told stories about her take on your relationship so horrifying that seeking out your company would instakill the friendship.

The thing is that talking to you is not a neutral action. Especially after two years. It sounds to me like (rightfully or not) she made the assessment that only one friendship could be saved, and she chose B. Reaching out to you will endanger her friendship with B, or she'll have issues with that herself (for example, she heard something about her that makes her personally believe firmly that you are not someone to associate yourself with).

>starting intercourse after two years of celibacy
>gf is a virgin
>condom makes it hard to feel what i'm touching, so difficult to find the entrance
>lose the boner every now and then
>gf is stressed a bit and tightens

The condom issue happened to me once a few years ago, and I got around fine without it. Not using it is out of the question though, so does anybody have tips for such a situation?

>>17299191
Bump million dollar question.

Girls: Can you have a tiny bit of interest on a guy or is it always like/dislike?
If a guy is persistent and you didn't directly reject him, can he have a chance?

>>17297517
I have a well-paying job and am fit with no depression, but never kissed a girl.

So, both?

Guys.

Men are jerks whose actions towards girls have the ony purpouse of achieve sex. Confute or confirm my thesis
heartbroken femanon

>>17299396
not really

>>17299396
I deny it. I'm really atracted to a girl because I love her style, her personality, the way we click with each other. I think we would make a great team and I wish I could be the one person who makes her happy. I would literally give in my whole life 100% to her if she liked me back. But she doesn't and I'm going insane.
I think I've only once ever pictured myself in my mind about to get intimate with her but didn't even get to the part of the fantasy where I'd have sex with her.
And I don't think having sex with anyone ever would stop the pain I feel right now. Not even if I had sex with her without it being serious as in a relationship.

>>17299396
Women are not any better.
misanthropy>misoginy=misandry

>>17299396
why is wanting to please a girl and myself is being a jerk ? Sex is fun and yes i want it often, you should be proud, that mean you're attractive.
But do we get to know girl ONLY to get sex ? Of course not, and it depend of the girl.

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>>17299396
Not really. Learn to screen men better. I see women disregard obvious red flags because they're attracted to him and then cry about how men are jerks way too frequently.

At least most men have the good sense to admit they were retards for sticking their dick in crazy.

>>17299396
>Men are jerks whose actions towards girls have the ony purpouse of achieve sex.
Nah. Not always. And often not the only reason.

How to cheer up a dude about his small dick?

>>17299454
teach him oral sex

>>17299396
>Men are jerks whose actions towards girls have the ony purpouse of achieve sex.
In my opinion, using a decent girl just for sex is morally wrong, and clearly so.
That's why whores exist.
This has been an accepted principle since Roman times.

That said, many men do this, of course.

But frankly most men aren't very good at faking anything, not to mention emotions. Is it really that hard to tell?

>>17299465
He's great in bed but he's just really insecure about his size.

>>17299466
Wishful thinking makes it hard to tell.

What makes life worth living for you?

Or differently asked, what would have to be missing for you in order to lose the lust in life?


I am a 24 years old man and I do not enjoy living. If I could vanish out of existence without consequences for others I'd do it without hesitation. I would have no remorse in the face of death.

Girls:
I asked a girl out and she said she's busy studying but she'll text me. I don't think she will. She is legit busy with exams lately. Yah yah I know the whole "if she were interested she would have said yes anyway or suggested another date" or whatever. What I mean is, is there a chance she's at least a tiny bit interested? For example if she would have replied the same to just about any guy who'd ask her to go out right now. Should I text her and ask what's up? If it was a rejection it's really awful to not be directly rejected, the hope I have left is killing me. Yah I know that people think not rejecting directly is being nicer than rejecting and all that.

>>17299498
literally same boat as you
I think if a gun magically appeared out of nowhere I'd shoot myself
What I'm missing right now is being loved back by the person that haunts my thoughts 24/7

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>>17299498
Honestly? Comfort.
I feel comfortable in my current situation. If it was to deteriorate, or become inconvenient, I would consider suicide.
But, I'm a coward, and I fear what it all means to die. I'm not afraid of pain, but I am afraid that nothing awaits me on the other side. That this was my one chance, and that none of it worked out for me, at all.

>>17299501

There is. Exams are exams and sometimes it is just not feasible to make room.

When's the exam period over?

>>17299498

The possibility of improving.

That's what keeps me going

>>17299507
Well I'm not sure but she'll definitely be free I'd say 3 weeks from now.

>>17299477
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a421/why-is-he-so-insecure-about-his-size/
hope it helps

>>17299505
I fear that there is some sort of live beyond this...

I would rather vanish into oblivion, maybe like in the Limbo, or Tartarus where you kind of emotionnessly drift away in a coma like state without any consciousness

>>17299477
I'm writing this more to improve my weak skills than to help you so be advised.
>i know you think your size is a problem but, honestly, you are great and it doesn't get in the way of our sex life/relation in the slightest. If you feel down you can always talk to me and i'll be there for you.
>>17299498
Nothing but i'd feel too guilty to off myself.

>>17299188
So things had been going really well (from my point of view anyway) I was talking to her a lot, saying more and more romantic type things and getting such a good reaction that I would go a little bit further each time. But then one day she asked "So, are you going to tell me if you're a boy or a girl?" I was shocked...all this time I thought she knew...my heart sank to be honest. I just didn't know what to think. Turns out they thought I was a guy all this time. So that was shocking enough but it turns out, I was wrong about her too...she turned out to be a guy. He took the news so much better than I did though. Immediately he said "It doesn't matter that you're a girl." It took me a little bit to accept this but we ultimately decided that, our feelings for each other hadn't changed. That was a couple weeks ago. I still have the same feelings but I feel like things have slowed down a bit...I got the courage last night to finally ask, "How can you want to be with me if you like guys?" And he said that kind of thing didn't matter to him in relationships. I asked for an explanation how that works or, how that's possible but he couldn't give me one. Just said that he's in love with me.

Now I guess I want to hear from any guy who might feel or have felt this same kind of way. Can you explain this? I can accept it I just don't understand it. I worry about what implications this has for our relationship...I have never dealt with someone like this before. I'm so lost.

>>17299498
>What makes life worth living for you?
Nothing much.
I keep going because I believe I have a duty to help others, and not to take the easy way out.
Suicide is a lifeboat: fuck it. I'm going down with the ship.

>>17299501
In my experience, this is a bullshit excuse 100% of the time.
I'm a med student taking final exams right now. We're fucking busy, but we make time for people who matter.
People we don't give a fuck about?
>sorry, really busy right now, studying for X

>>17299454
You haven't told him you think his dick is small or implied it, have you?

How do I introduce myself to a girl via social sites in the least creepy possible way? The thing is, I have no mutual friend with this girl. When I entered faculty of engineering, due to apparent lack of girls here, I and my friends lurked around other faculty's public groups and this is where I found this girl's online profiles. I don't even know where she usually hangs out, so I can't see her rl and just happen to be there.

Apparently her hobby is writing and she has a writing blog, and I'm happened to be a writer too. I can say I just find her blog and introduce myself as a fellow writer, but I don't really have proof like blog or online published stuff.

>>17299528
well she has just started college and is doing pretty bad, not sure if that changes anything

>>17299498
For me it consists of different elements. The biggest is a strong sense of marvel towards life. There's people themselves. They're all someone's daughter or son, they all have scary childhood memories and embarrassing habits, they all have a unique perspective on life shaped by their unique experiences combined with their cultural background and the people they surround themselves with. So many people you come across on a daily basis are someone's "one that got away", someone's nemesis, someone's long lost childhood best friend. And apart from that endless collection of stories (because those individual stories conflict and overwrite each other and what not, too) there's the stories that people create themselves about what it means to be human, or to be a good person, how one should live their life and what it looks like when that fails. Then there's the surroundings of human life. In an urban environment where most things you look at are inventions, everything you see was once a spark in someone's head, a crazy idea no one had had before. And every building has been someone's project - the achievement of their career, or a pain in the ass that left them with debt, all those pieces of decor played a vital role in unknown people's lives.
If you want to zoom out and get a yet bigger perspective, we as a generation of people are part of a bigger context. We rebel like teenagers against past generations, aspire to be like others, we collectively have personal feelings about time periods and historical events, about the way people used to live life when it still looked differently.
That's amazing. It is so complex and rich and nuanced, and this is just the humanity aspect of it, not talking about the way the universe works or how our milky way compares to other constellations or what the origin of the world is.

>>17299524
I'm not a guy, but... This sounds really fishy. In fact, it sounds like he catfished you. Now that he found out that you're a girl, he probably wants to get intimate with you because that was what he aimed for all along, hence why he can't explain why he's sudden okay with it all.
Honestly, I would leave this hot mess. It will hurt, but this situation seems like it has a huge potential for even more misery. Please take care of yourself first and foremost.

>>17299534
I may have in a butchered attempt to make him feel better but I've never brought up his dick size without him bringing it up first. I have no problems with his dick size and actually wouldn't like it to be bigger anyway.

>>17299581
Obviously I am not constantly in touch with this mindset either as it would be unworkable, but at least weekly I have a moment where it really sets in how complex everything is, and I feel honored to be in countless people's footsteps trying to make a good life for myself, hoping to fall in love, hoping to not make an ass out of myself today with millions unseen others.

More practically, I have a very strong aspiration that I work towards that is very fulfilling for me and gives me a sense of purpose that is less volatile than a fleeting sense of happiness or discomfort with the details of my life. It's a dream that stands when I feel bad about myself, when I feel like I've fucked up, when I feel rejected by others and so on.

And on the most practical level, I just enjoy a lot of things about life. I love art and how easily you can see and hear the most beautiful things online, I love enjoying and/or preparing good food, I love swimming and how it clears my head, I love masturbating, I love noticing how nicely the sunlight hits a glass or how a bird does something clumsy/awkward, countless similar things. That is all stuff that I can consistently draw both energy and comfort from.

>>17299594
Next time he brings it up tell him that his dick is perfect for you and you wouldn't want it any other way. Then give him a blowjob to reinforce it.

>>17299587
But if anything, he seems a bit less intimate than before. All indications to me are that he prefers men, that's why I feel so confused now. I mean I mentioned before we actually bonded a lot over talking about guys and who we found attractive and stuff. There could be another side to him I just don't know about. Again I'm afraid to broach the subject. How do you ask something like that tactfully?

>>17299572
The people doing bad are the ones with the most free time, since they spend their time getting blackout drunk in bars, clubs, and fraternity row.

Gals

>Be loser
>Be very intelligent, but still loser because I only halfway apply myself some of the time, so it doesn't count
>Alcoholic
>Dragged a four year degree that should have taken me three years (AP classes in high school) out to 7 years with funky triple majoring and multiple minors, I'm basically Van Wilder at this point
>Hell, I even got chubby due to poor dieting and lack of exercise after taking up writing in my spare time
>Women from rich families with good college educations are inexplicably attracted to me
>Date one after another, but it never works out

Two questions:
1. Why do women inflict guys like me on themselves?
2. What could they possibly see in a dude like me?

>>17299614
>1. Why do women inflict guys like me on themselves?
>2. What could they possibly see in a dude like me?
Not a chick, but my guess? Fun.

>>17299612
Can't confirm, I felt way more overwhelmed and spent less time around others when I was failing.
Then again I was really depressed

>>17299614
Low self esteem
They probably think you're the best they can do

>>17299614
All those stereotypical things that people mention like looks or money are good, but they don't tell the whole story. For one thing, women love men who are good with women. Knowing when to just listen and what questions to ask, knowing how to tease in a flirty, sexy way and not in a mean way, knowing how to make them feel like a woman by the way you eye them and move around them. (And, of course, knowing how to be a good lover.) That in itself is very sexy and will make other characteristics be seen in a different light. Women are capable of romanticizing just about anything as long as they have the incentive to. No sane woman would see an alcoholic as solid long term potential, but if they already find you attractive... if you don't usually live hard and fast yourself, it can be thrilling to be with someone who is so bottomless in that regard. It can bring out that hedonist side in themselves. And while usually a chubby body isn't seen as hot, if you carry yourself confidently and they are attracted to the way you handle them, it can look masculine, like a manly sense of not feeling the need to look like a prettyboy. (Personally I find it crazily hot if a guy is obviously not that great looking but is still blatant and unapologetic about flirting and showing attraction. It shows they are really at ease with themselves on a deeper level.)
This doesn't have to be the reason but I think it will give you an idea.

Similar aspects - perhaps you are very approachable and relatable and offer a safe haven feeling. If you do well with deep conversations and are a great conversationalist, that is rare and something that women who value this will have to look long and hard for, so they'll be quicker to overlook imperfections.

Obviously this is not exhaustive, but I hope it gives you an idea of how it's more complicated than looking good on paper. Also, rich women obviously already have stability and material options to begin with.

Girlfriend plays with her clit the whole time I'm fucking her, prefers to do it herself.

Do I kill myself now or do I live another year deluded, then finally do it?

>>17296525
Broke up with ex, seemingly on very bad terms. It's been a few years and her friends are still apparently avoiding me (lots of mutual friends). I had a lot of problems with premature ejaculation during our relationship, what are the chances that everybody knows this about me?

>>17299672
Wtf is your problem? Not all women get the same sensations from penetration, it's not enough for everyone to climax. For some women penetration alone won't push them over the edge but fingering added is magic. What's so bad about that? It's a reflection of her anatomy, not of anything to do with you. Be happy you are with a girl who knows how to do her part to have a good time and doesn't lie there sighing because you can't read her mind and do things exactly the way she needs them to be to get off.

>>17299610
There really isn't a way. Nor should there be a time for that now. You need answer, and for him to be frank with you. Loitering around for vague answers will only make the situation more awkward and painful for you. Guy says he loves you, yet he lied to you? Seems like an awful start to a relationship. What else could he lie about.

>>17299672
I like putting the girls hand on their clit while I fuck them, it turns me on when they touch themselves. I'm good at fingering and eating out but it's hard to do it while fucking in some positions especially missionary. Just let her do what she likes man I bet there's shit you like in bed that she doesn't really like but puts up with.

>>17299674
Completely depends on the crowd. In some (female) friendships it's the norm to share explicit sexual details, in others she'd be looked down upon for sharing information that intimate about someone she loved.

It also depends on your part. If you tried everything you could to make sure she was satisfied and she still bitched about this issue, that's a completely different story from you refusing to eat her out on top of not providing long fucking.

Either way you can never know, there's no other choice but to keep your head held high and prepare an answer for the case that someone does say something about it. Personally I would then vouch for "...she felt the need to say that?" then if pressed further, go "I'm not sharing details of our private intimacy, don't push this". It can both be interpreted as an outcry of disgust that she'd share such sensitive info about you, or disgust that she made up a lie to make you look bad, and you come out looking like the bigger person.

>>17299681
Well, she didn't have to do it to cum with her ex, but when I speak to her about it she tells me she just prefers to do it.

It's a hummer, because really it just means the sex was a downgrade for her and she's accepted it.

>>17299612
I don't know, it's a really hard university she's going to, it's notorious for only 30% passing the first year.

Either way, does the fact that she didn't explicitly turn me down mean I can just ask her again to confirm what's going on?
>inb4 you'll look stupid
If I only look stupid to her it's not a big deal, especially if she indeed is not interested anyway

>>17299784
You shouldn't know anything about her sex habits with her ex man you guys already fucked up.

>>17299784
What? That sounds to me like she could technically cum from penetration, but has long figured out that this is the most pleasurable way for her to get fucked. Why would she want to have less awesome sex for a while just to prove the point that she can cum without it to you personally?

>>17299798
Because it bothers him?
What kind of selfish person can't step down for a week or 2 to please someone they like?

>>17299810
You have to look at it from her perspective. She is having great sex with "OP", the way that she feels the most pleasure. Her fingering herself is a non-factor, she is used to her own anatomy and that feeling better.

Him saying that he wants her to cum without any help is not a neutral statement, or similar to asking to try out x position. It shows that he is bothered (which he is) by her desire to finger herself in addition. Which shows that he wishes that she wouldn't feel the need to, aka that she was wired differently than she is. That would put quite a damper on sex because it shows his issues with accepting her body/sexuality the way it is.

Besides, we don't know how easy it is for her to climax without fingering. It could be a twice in a year event for her when everything aligns.

>>17299672

Here's an idea, have her teach you to play with her clit instead.

>>17299842
I don't mind her doing it.

Its that she mentioned she didn't have to do this with her old partner. She didn't say it in a nasty way, I guess she just didn't have a filter. And it makes me feel like I'm not good enough. Like I was a downgrade, because this other, bigger guy was able to give her full on orgasm with nothing from her.

I don't want her to change. I want me to be better. And yes I'm wallowing in self pity. And she told me she doesn't like when I'm both penetrating and playing with her clit.

>>17299878
Okay then this is just on her and she should have more sense than to say something that sensitive. Not having a filter is no excuse. At any rate I would break up with her and look for someone else ten times before thinking about killing yourself. Vaginas differ in size, one woman's perfect is another woman's discomfort or lack of sensation. This is an incompatibility, that doesn't mean either of you is created wrong somehow.

>>17299686
He didn't lie. We both took each others gender for granted and had misconceptions. It's a really strange situation but I don't feel like he did anything wrong at this point. I'm just trying to understand him but he days he can't give me an answer. I feel sympathetic because even though I considered myself straight I fell in love with someone I was sure was a girl. I can't explain that either.

>>17299498
Nothing. I have suicidal thoughts like it's tinnitus.

>>17299842
How dense are you?
I said she could stop doing it, for a while, to show sex with him is not a downgrade. Why the fuck is this such a big deal for you?
Jesus...

>>17299000
>Your sexual history should never have any bearing on your current one
I don't believe this. Imagine this girl you like is a total slut who fucks a different guy every week and has done so for years but when you're talking to her she pretends that she's only ever been in one relationship. You'd want to know.

Girls: If a guy who likes you likes your facebook post do you think "omg what a loser"

So girls, how much of a deal do you make about confidence?

Like, if a skinnyfat approached you and talks to you with confidence, would you go out with them?

>>17296915
Try this first >>17296975
If you are still not into it consider that you don't have to be.
Talk with him about it and let him know that and how it makes you uneasy.
I'm the same way but with hugs.
I just don't do it as often and that's working for me.