>try still be friends
Why?

>I'm not an abuser but she can make it look that way and really fuck me up
How?

>>17295579
be friends because idk, it'd be a shame to throw her away, or it felt like that at the time

and we have a lot of mutual friends. by the sounds of it she's already bitched about me to a lot of them, and if she told my friends I abused her I'm socially screwed. we're the sort of guys who beat the shit out of abusers

>>17295578
How about telling us the full story so we can actually give advice you idiot?

>>17295589
what more info do you want?

>>17295578
>look on her phone bc bored
She's technichally correct. Looking through your partner's private stuff is an abusive thing to do. I'm sorry to hear you were cheated on, but you gave her the ammunition she's using against you now.

>>17295606
probably should of mentioned she hacked into my FB account because she thought I wanted to break up with her a few months before

because I didn't have a phone I used hers pretty frequently and she was cool with it

>>17295598
Well you confronted her about that messages right? What happened?

How can she make it look like you abused her if you didn't abuse her?

Why would your friends believe her over you? Are they not your friends?

Why is this even a problem? If you already broke up with her why the fuck are you trying to hangout with her? Jesus christ get a new girlfriend.

Sorry, your relationship was over the second she got bored with you, which was probably a couple months in.

Just leave.

>>17295610
i asked her about the messages, and she said she thought it was ok, and that she was sorry bullshit.

she was claiming that i was controlling and emotionally abusive, she had a friend over a few months ago and was completely ignoring me, and i got pissed at her for it and left. that was apparently proof to her friend that i was abusive, so thats her main evidence against me

im not sure what my friends would believe, because im not sure how to defend that by saying shes fucking insane without looking like an abuser or asshole

and im not sure, ive already found another girl to satisfy me as much as i need, just seemed a shame to dump and block

>>17295578
You're fucking retarded.

Stop that.

>>17295606
>you think your partners cheating on you but they lie to you
>you better not go thru their stuff dats abusive!! :3

Cucks pls go

>>17295654
yea, if i was forcing her to give me her phone and checking every other day and questioning her over every message she sends, thats abusive, but ifshes cheating on me i think i got a right to have a look, not saying its the best thing to do but who wouldnt

>>17295625
Why do you give a fuck what some retarded bitch thinks?

>>17295707
i dont, but i give a fuck if shes gonna be telling people im an abuser, because i dont want people thinking im that sort of scum

i usually dont give a fuck but thats not a situation i really wanna be in

>>17295622
her pet dancing monkey OP was not much of an entertainer :^)

>>17295578
what did you expect? stop projecting male traits like loyalty and honor on to women. also women like to alienate you from others to protect themselves. she is not crazy this is normal female behavior that she evolve many year ago to protect herself from harm and for her not to suffer if the guy can't no longer provide for her. women depended most on men and it is still the same but the government does that role.

>>17295721
How are you going to stop her? Nothing you can do desu.

This makes me feel weird. Me and my gf have sexted other people and I don't see it as cheating at all.

>>17296909
Wat

>>17296039

This OP. I'm sorry. Move on, you don't need to have these kind of people in your life.

>>17296914
>>>17296909 (You)
>Wat

As long as you are not lying about being single. And are only doing it when you need to get off when your SO is gone, I dont see what's so wrong with it.

I feel it falls under porn or fantasizing about other people.

>>17296927

OP is not down with it. Move along sir.

>>17296928
>>>17296927 (You)
>OP is not down with it. Move along sir.

But he said they haven't talked about it. Its more of a gray area than flat out cheating.

>>17296931

Stop asserting your feelings onto others m8

>>17296933
>>>17296931 (You)
>Stop asserting your feelings onto others m8

I'm trying to look from her perspective. Unless you communicate what is off limits I don't think its really fair to call it cheating.

That is unless the girl was lying about being with someone.

fucking disgusting. good on you for not beating the shit out of her. i am very bad at controlling my emotions and would definitely smack my boyfriend/husband/whatever, in their stupid sleazy peaballs with a cactus frond if they pulled that shit on me.

i do not think this is typical of women. i would venture to say that men seem to cheat more often. you likely just have shit taste in women and have sought out a scumsucking shitfiend. men have no taste and tend to like classless page 3 skankbait.

because she is a nut, you should maybe try to appease her and be cordial when she tries to contact you, and then just phase out from her life. i wouldn't try to just dip all of a sudden, because they'll she'll flail for your attention and start acting like a whackjob.

>>17296937
also, don't listen to anyone that says this shit is okay. your boundaries are your boundaries. you're entitled to not be okay with this gross shit. btw, it is totally disgusting and deceitful.

>>17296935

That's contextual. Some people don't deem it necessary to tell their SO "I'm not down with you sexting other people, so let's not have that in our relationship k?"

My girlfriend would have my balls if I ever did such a thing, and I would be fuming if she pulled one on me as well.

>>17295578
when will you dumb fucks learn? when you catch the cunt cheating or preparing to cheat (dating app) cut and run and don't look back and don't try to manage through it. They always flip it back on you.

>>17296946
>>>17296935 (You)
>That's contextual. Some people don't deem it necessary to tell their SO "I'm not down with you sexting other people, so let's not have that in our relationship k?"
>My girlfriend would have my balls if I ever did such a thing, and I would be fuming if she pulled one on me as well.

You'd be suprised. Me and my gf thought it was fine before we talked about it and we are super committed.

I did fail to read that this was off a dating app though. So that does sound like she's trying to cheat. Especially if she is the kind of girl that tries to play the victim.

>>17296956
you're not super committed if you'd want to sext with other people.

>>17296964
>>>17296956 (You)
>you're not super committed if you'd want to sext with other people.

How so?

Random people off the internet really don't matter at all. If there is no intention of ever even meeting with the person, I can't see how that breaks commitment.

>>17296969

The >>17296964

wasn't me.

>>17296969
dating app and profile and sexy talk I'd say there's plenty of intent there

>>17296979
>>>17296969 (You)
>dating app and profile and sexy talk I'd say there's plenty of intent there

I already said that. I thought she just was talking to a random person.

Either she is setting up for cheating, a replacement, or her self esteem is low so she wants to know she can have a backup.

>>17296969
Sexting is sexual. The simplest way to explain it is people see it as cheating because it's doing something sexual with another person. The person is still real, and is interacting with you, even if it's "just by text."

>>17296969
they definitely do matter. your brand of commitment is so fucking cheap. your commitment is the kraft cheese of fidelity.