My brother
Images are sometimes not shown due to bandwidth/network limitations. Refreshing the page usually helps.
You are currently reading a thread in /adv/ - Advice
You are currently reading a thread in /adv/ - Advice
I've wanted to make a thread about this for a while
In many respects, my brother seems to have matured to the mental and social limits of a 14 year old.
He is, however, 25. He is not enough of a burden on my parents for them to accept him as a handicapped person but he is living like a child while being expect to live as an adult.
Please assume everything that you would about a typical NEET plus pretty bad dyspraxia and very immature.
My parents are really tired and it makes me sad to see it. any suggestions on what to do?
bump, please
>>17294921
Well, does he have friends? goes out? Has he ever had a job?
>>17294943
he has friends, also in the same boat.
as a rule he leads a very sedentary lifestyle.
He does temporary work at the moment, but as far as obtaining skills he begins at a base level far lower than everyone else i know, and he doesn't have the resolve to improve. In fact, he has no drive for anything much (biggest problem i think)
>>17294921
Judge objectively: Is he in fact mentally handicapped or just spoiled by being allowed to be irresponsible for so long?
If the first, get him evaluated and helped. There are professionals far more qualified than you or your parents to bring out the best in him.
If the second, some mildly tough love is called for. His family have to set reasonable standards and goals for him, and force him to meet them - e.g., we can't afford to buy your food anymore so find a real job, even if it's sweeping up at McDonalds or stacking shelves at WalMart, or we don't cook for you anymore.
