>>17293103
Spend time with your wife but perhaps try making friends on your own aswell on your free time. Do some activities alone while she is chasing different hobbies.
If everything else fails try taking part in local social events and volunteer.

>>17293123
problem is she works nights and I work days. we spend most of our free time together but when our free time isn't coinciding then most of the time I'm alone at home or trying not to wake her up.

Not sure where(or even how) to go to make friends. The only places I've been that i think i could find people with similar interest is a couple comic book stores, barnes and noble, the local library, and some gamestops. No luck.

Not sure how i feel about volunteering because I work a 40+ hour/week job and i rather spend free time with her, working out, or with some friends(if I had any).

>>17293201
You sound so like me.
When i got married i lost all my friends, most actually and i lost some of my social skills.
If you want to make friends you are very unlikely to do so by going to gamestops or anything like that. With volunteering i mean for example be a security guy at a village event or provide some help at your local concert. Find a hobby, like rc cars with actual fuel, chances are that you likely meet someonewith the same interest on a sunday at a parking lot.
Make electronics or diy builds your hobby and visit the local makershack, incredible place if you are into it.
Go to the gym on a regular basis and you will likely get to know some nice people there.
Get a hobby like bow hunting, or firearm shooting or whatever. There are tons of groups of people. This is always the best wax to get to know people.
Once you have a healthy friend you are likely to be in his circle of friends and meet even more people.