What to do when a person that means something to you is having suicidal thoughts?
I was in a clinic recently to treat my depression and i am a lot better by now. In there i met a girl whom i kind of fell in love with. But in the end it didn't work out and we stopped it all. Now we are just close friends with feelings still somewhere in the air. But that's just the background anyway. She is feeling really bad and just recently quit her voluntary social year. And all in all seems to be spiralling downwards.
Recently she asked me how to deal with suicidal thoughts, because mine were pretty strong. And i tried to give her advice but really i don't know how i could or should help her. She doesn't have a therapist any more because she can't get herself to organise it.
She lives in a different city than me so i can't be there in person to help her. And I'm really worried that she will do something stupid. She has had a suicide attempt i guess you could call it - she passed out on the way to the rooftop... Lol
So any ideas what i could do? I know its not my job or responsibility to help her but i really want to because i care about her. I just feel really helpless.
>>17291495
You should tell her to see someone, other then that there's not much you can do. That's just the sad reality.
>>17291817
This.
You're not a specialist, and realistically they are not even going to know what their problems are for you to help with, you need to encourage them to see a therapist (talk therapist, not pill pushing psychiatrist).
>>17291495
I have had the same problem. My advice is to forget about her before she brings you down with her.
>>17291817
>>17291822
Listen to these anons.
>>17291495
Spend time with her. What helped me with my thoughts was getting away from the grind of life and just being myself with the company of people that I trust.
Also making future plans helps. Makes living worth the while.
>>17291822
I have encouraged her a lot to get a therapist. Fuck she has this ex bf who is in a similarish situation to hers but refuses to go see a therapist because he's too stubborn and she organised a meeting with a therapist for him, which he casually didn't show up to. But it pains me so much, that she does that for him but not for herself!?
I guess you guys are right and i should just try to forget her until she gets help. It just feels a bit cold, not caring and i don't want to forget her.
>>17291894
My ex was like her. It hurt like a bitch to just turm my back on her. I left her for my own good and I've been doing well. These type of threads trigger me a bit, but I want to make sure you don't go through the shit storm I went through.
>>17291941
How did your ex end up and how are you dealing with that? If you don't mind talking a bit about it.
I'm just worried that it will be all the worse if i find out she killed herself or something. The idea of that pains so much.
>>17291894
You care too much because your life is simple and boring.
Start living for you, little man!
>>17292014
From what I hear from her bff she still suicidal. She cuts and takes meds. I don't care for her as much as a Dick that sounds but things are looking up for me so I couldn't give a shit. Worry about yourself and move on.
