>Married anons.
How old were you and how long were you together before getting married? How has it worked out for you?
>Unmarried anons.
Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future, or would you rather stay in the position you're at now? Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
>>17283169
Unmarried single here
I want to have kids some day and marriage helps with that big time, but I don't like the "lose half your shit half the time" aspect.
>>17283169
>Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future, or would you rather stay in the position you're at now?
Traditional marriage, as in being with one person for life, living life together, and being a family: absolutely. Legal marriage: I'm leaning towards no.
>Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
I'm 20, so the only pressure I get is to be safe and not move too fast within my relationship, which I totally agree with.
20. 7 months (shotgun wedding). It's been 12 years and things are going strong. Stupid mistake because of stupid behavior at the time, but in retrospect it was the best mistake I ever made.
>>17283184
Story?
>>17283169
>Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future
It's one of my life goals. I really want to get married and have a family some day.
>Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
Nope.
>>17283190
>shotgun wedding
That pretty much tells the entire story.
>>17283180
Actually, the 50% divorce rate thing is a statistic from the 80's. These days, the divorce rate among the 25-40 cohort is closer to a third (or about 30-40%) and dropping. That's not to say that it's non-existent, but more people are choosing to stay together than ever.
One reason might be that more women today choose to get married as opposed to getting married as a duty 30-40 years ago. That means matching more often with partners they're on equal grounds and match better with.
>>17283194
Had sex without a condom, Oh shit I'm Prego, let's get married?
>>17283169
I have absolutely no desire to get married ever. I dont want to be locked down like that.
I hear too many stories about messy divorces so it puts me off.
>>17283225
Essentially yes.
>>17283169
High school sweethearts at 15.
Married at 21.
31 now, 4 kids, life is awesome.
>>17283169
>How old were you and how long were you together before getting married?
I was 20, he was 27. We were together for 5 years prior, knew him and his ex for two years before that. The age gap seems a bit weird to people, but he's the most honorable man I've ever met in my life. He made it a point to show my family (and me) that he genuinely loved me for who I am, that he wasn't just some creep out to steal their little girl. We were completely fine with not getting married, but he thought it would be a good idea to put me on his insurance so that I could save money on my anti-seizure medication (no generic at the time, so close to $500/month).
>How has it worked out for you?
I'm nearing 30 now and I'd say we're still in our honeymoon phase. Every day with him is wonderful and I couldn't see myself with anyone else. He's not just my lover, he's my best friend.
>>17283303
>22 yo preying on a -- sorry --""""""dating"""""" a 15 yo
How did that happen?
>>17283184
>>17283303
>>17283300
I love hearing things like this. Especially on 4chan of all places.
The only way it's surprising even sweeter is when they have threads like this on /pol/.
>>17283309
My mom and I were friends with his girlfriend, which is how we met him. He was amazing to her. She treated him like garbage, cheated on him, got pregnant, and ran off to another country. He wasn't preying on anyone. I secretly liked him the entire time, but when I finally told him, he was a little uncomfortable with the whole thing and kept his distance. No one really believes me when I say this (and for good reason, I suppose), but I pursued him. He would tell me that I was a good person but that I was too young. Eventually I told my mom about how I felt, she was okay with it, and gave her permission since she knew he was a good guy. He stopped being so distant, figured he'd give me a chance, and hung out with me. He didn't even touch me until I was comfortable and of age.
I'm not married, but I've been with my best friend for about 6 years, and knew him before that online.
I will probably marry him one day if my new job gets decent insurance so that he can use it, but marriage seems like a pointless thing otherwise. We're more than secure enough in our relationship without it.
>>17283169
>Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future, or would you rather stay in the position you're at now?
it would be nice, but i only want to marry if the guy i'm marrying loves the idea of having kids more than i do and is willing to commit to the work of raising a family. and he better honor those vows, because if i'm marrying and having kids, i'm only doing it once.
otherwise, i'd rather save up for a cat palace or something or travel the world and advance my career. i don't want to be a single mom and stuck with caring for a kid (who will always remind me of his/her dad) by myself... i don't like the idea of bringing in step dads/moms or boyfriends or girlfriends into the picture either.
>Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
i think my current boyfriend dropped hints about wanting kids and marriage but even still, i don't know if he'll make a good dad. he doesn't handle stress very well and i don't like the way he treats his dog, even though he's very loving and sweet to me. i'm worried his alignment of thinking is like that of my female friends; that marriage is an achievement in life, and not a continuous work in progress.
my mom wants grandchildren but she wants me to find a 6'+, handsome, rich, smart, alpha man who will treat me like a princess before that happens. so i have a 9.99999999.../10 chance of disappointing her, but what else is new...
Divorce in progress. Dated two years. Marriage lasted two years. Divorce had been held up in court for unknown reasons. I'd like to have a committed partner again (and not going to lie; regular supply of sex is nice), but I don't think I'll ever legally marry again.
>>17283347
Thanks for the details. I'm glad it worked out for you.
>>17283363
>That pic
Fuck you. How am I supposed to deal with these feels
>>17283390
i dunno anon but my cat palace idea keeps looking better and better everyday
youre a great man
>>17283303
Glad things are great with your husband. Hope it keeps that way sis.
>>17283370
Sorry to hear that anon, it was for the best I bet.
>>17283169
>How old were you and how long were you together before getting married?
24 (me) and 23 (her). Together seven years before that.
>How has it worked out for you?
Best damn decision we ever made. Though it would have been a lot riskier at that age if we hadn't had such a long lead time.
Unmarried, single anon here. Currently having an affair with an engaged girl and seeing someone else on the side. Marriage is a joke. I have 0 plans for marriage. Probably won't have kids either. Fuck humanity.
Currently Single.
Parents went through a messy divorce.
I'd love to one day be a father and do what my dad didn't do for me growing up, but I'm not looking to settle down any time soon. I'm 23 and haven't been in a relationship since close to 2 years.
If the right girl came along sure.. But again I'm in no rush.
>>17283522
You couldn't hack it even if you tried. Just by judging your post it's obvious you're walking poison.
>>17283323
>The only way it's surprising even sweeter is when they have threads like this on /pol/.
Sweetest of all would be threads like this on /r9k/, but that's probably a borderline GR#4 violation right there.
27/m and i will never ever get married. not in this climate where the woman is always favored in divorce. this keeps long term girlfriends in check because they won't get fat and they won't just stop having sex one day like i hear my coworkers complain about
>>17283169
>Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future, or would you rather stay in the position you're at now?
You know I like the idea, the fairytale of it but in realty I know myself too well.
I am a longer, I don't have much patience for bullshit and being in relationship can bring upon a ton of bullshit.
I could see myself failing in every serious relationship, I don't have commitment issues I just get drained when I am around people for too long, like it psychically and mentally drains me.
It would not be fair to get into a serious relationship and marry a girl just to avoid her all the time.
I'd pretty much like to stay how I am now except maybe some more casual sex.
> Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
Oh yeah big time. They constantly drop hints like you will be like this WHEN you get married and be like this WHEN you get kids.
They constantly ask why I don't get a girlfriend and don't show much sexual interest in girls.
They don't understand how I can have a ton of friends who are girls and spend time with them without wanting to fuck them.
They probably think I am gay, they ask me all the time and tell me it is ok if I am.
>>17283550
I am a loner*
>>17283530
>>17283530
Tried a long term relationship and it was shit. Couldn't have been more bored. Enjoy your inevitable divorce, cuck.
>>17283587
>inevitable divorce
>>17283596
>anime poster
Ah. That explains it. You have autism and think human relationships are like a Japanese cartoon.
>>17283169
>Unmarried anons.
>Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future, or would you rather stay in the position you're at now?
I would prefer to get married and have children, but only on my terms. Throughout my life I've noticed certain inequities and lies in the way people approach relationships... then I found the Red Pill and realized the main principles are all fucking true and men are living in straight denial about reality out there.
So I need to find a woman who understands these truths so that I can stop having to constantly run Game. It's so fucking exhausting watching women all do the same shit over and over again and act like "OMG I don't even like understand what I'm doing! I'm just a bitch!"
No. Nooooo I am not going to be your surrogate father. Noooo I am not going to spend the rest of my life being the "better man" so you can lazily act like a dumb bitch and blame it on "OMG hormones!" Noooo I am not going to pretend to be OK with you suddenly going cold turkey because you think "you've got me" lol.
So I need a woman on my level. I've found a few out there so I know they exist like a rare species of unicorn, but the ones I've met are typically taken already, and I'm not about the "steal her awaaaaay" shit lol.
>Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
No because they know my views and, one by one, have come to understand there is validity to my views. My best friend is about to divorce his wife because she literally tricked him into marriage and then got lazy and bitchy.... just like 99.9% of all other women I've dated/been with, even the "good ones" that you people would crawl over broken glass to lick her ass.
So yeah I want to get married, but most marriages are shit. I see men about to take their own lives because their women just don't get tingles in their panties for beta providers like they do for alpha give no fuck dicks. Gotta find a girl smarter than that...a unicorn... or die alone.
>>17283207
>That's not to say that it's non-existent, but more people are choosing to stay together than ever.
IN case you haven't noticed, the past 8 years have been total dog shit for the economy. Women stay with men when their economics are threatened. When and IF the economy turns around, you will see a reversal in that trend.
Go look at data during economic downturns and divorce.
Still think she's with you because you're soul mates?
>>17283169
Never technically married, but decided to have a kid with my current partner after we'd been together 3 years. (I was 29, she was 37). It's now been another 3 and so far things are going well. The first 2 years of our boy's life were extremely difficult for us, for a variety of reasons, but we made it through ok, so I think that bodes very well for the future.
>>17283612
>he thinks I'm the person he was replying too
>>17283697
No where did I say that. But it's pretty obvious I have hit a nerve because you keep posting autistic anime. There is a board for that and that's >>>/a/
Anime is for manchildren to repulse women
Tired of this stay out our lives. She is the love of my life and is going through it because of online bullying. Drunk posting is funny not poison. It's fucking 4chan. Not everyone hacks for the sake of ruining someone's life. some people still have morals. You've only been stalking for a few months you don't know our full story. I love her and we're going to work through this despite your bullshit. So fuck off and stay off my Minecraft server
>>17283169
>Are you interested in getting married sometime in the future, or would you rather stay in the position you're at now?
Rather stay unmarried
>Does your family/social circle pressure you in anyway to seek marriage?
Not at all, but my current girlfriend is Chinese and if I plan lids with her I'd still get married. It makes a lot of visa issues easier for both of us and potential kids.
>>17283671
>So I need to find a woman who understands these truths so that I can stop having to constantly run Game.
Maybe you should read more red pill because that mindset is exactly why so many men get blindsided.
You don't have to be in top game mode all the time but you have way less room for slack than you think
>>17283762
are you basing this off experience?
If so how many relationships have you had
>>17283169
I married at 31, 10 years together before that.
2 kids and 6 years after it's looking good.
In retrospect, I should have married about 5 years earlier thanI did.
>>17283679
You're wrong, man. The divorce rate has been declining for several decades -- it's not an artifact of the recession -- and when you factor out "high risk" marriages, e.g. couples who get married before their mid-twenties, it's *always* been significantly below 50%. Plenty of people get divorced, but if you don't rush into things and wait til you're sure you can easily bump yourself into a lower-risk category.
>>17283762
Stop projecting. I know I have almost no slack. I fully understand and have lived it.
The problem with running Game all the time? I don't want to. And you can't convince me that doing something I don't want to do for the rest of my life that ties in to my sexual, emotional, physical, and mental well being is a good thing.
So, as stated in my post, I'll be happily alone while I look. I've fucked enough women in my life that I don't even care anymore. I just dumped the president of her sorority (I'm 29) who is also an athlete to sit alone on 4chan in my hot as fuck apartment with no air conditioning.
That's how serious I am. I've reached a point where I just. don't. give. a. fuck about the thought of dying alone, childless when compared the HELL that is being in a toxic relationship (99.9%) OR having to constantly run Game. I do not work my ass off all fucking day so that I can go home.... and keep working my fucking ass off just to have an emotionally and financially draining dick warmer.
The guy at the grocery store wants to be my dick warmer too. So does the married woman at work giving me candy all the time and asking to walk with me. So does the short latina girl I see on the subway most mornings. So does the 5'0 black girl with a ghetto ass and HUGE tits I see in the elevator.
Why in the absolute FUCK would I want to spend my time being married.... with all the joy that comes with.... when I can do whatever the fuck I want and get validated all day, every day, by men and women. This will last into my 50s, at which point I will be so filthy fucking rich ( or dead) that I will hire smoking hot vegas escorts and REALLY not give a fuck.
At some point one of these women will intentionally get pregnant with my kid and be very surprised and confused when I'm happy about it and encourage her to have it. Then I'll have a kid AND my money AND my prostitutes.
Please, God? Please? I'll get it done myself but .... throw me some love Mr. Almighty.
>>17283772
4 relationships, of which two were long and rather serious. Before those two I didn't know about TRP but looking back it's definitely a lack of attraction that killed it. There's some room to relax in a LTR but it isn't a break from doing what you should be doing. Just be careful because if you get too comfortable her respect and thereby attraction for you will die.
>>17283714
>triggered by anime
>>17283801
>I don't want to. And you can't convince me that doing something I don't want to do for the rest of my life
That is a good point actually. Have you considered dating east Asian women? They tend to be more forgiving when it comes to not gaming all the time and they don't necessarily have the princess syndrome
>>17283300
>fucking the same person for 15 years
How?
>>17283801
>I just dumped the president of her sorority
>(I'm 29)
Ugh, dude. Come on.
>>17283714
>Anime is for manchildren to repulse women
Wut
I literally watched anime with a girl today kek
>>17283370
>I'd like to have a committed partner again (and not going to lie; regular supply of sex is nice)
I'm waiting on that too...
>>17283810
Not them, but I can't imagine NOT fucking one person for life
>>17283809
>dating east Asian women
Yes. I think very fondly of asian women. One of my favorite girlfriends was a chinese virgin. I took her ass first.
>They tend to be more forgiving when it comes to not gaming all the time and they don't necessarily have the princess syndrome
Perhaps. If that's what your experiences have taught you, then obviously fate / god / whoever wanted you to have those experiences.
My experience has been that asian women just lie about it better OR it's just the natural "poverty" effect. Women without income are, in general, going to kiss your ass to get income. Enter 3rd world country women whose life aspirations included washing clothes by hand in the river before she met me.
Asian women are some of the most sadistic and ill tempered women out there, imo. Japanese women cheat like it's a moral obligation. Vietnamese women are borderline violent. I'm painting with broad strokes here and, yes, I agree that their culture is more inclined toward the facade of "happy housewife" status.
>>17283810
dont you mean.... cum on? yes, I think I will.
But in seriousness, what's the problem? hot, young, fertile, president of her sorority wanted to brag to all of her friends about how she was dating an older man. you should try it sometime. Ass fucking a young 20 something trying to prove herself and then having her cook you breakfast in your shitty apartment that other women would act like it isn't shit is something I want all men to experience.
The vast majority of women REALLY DO just want men to act a certain way and their legs will magically open. You don't have to be hot. You don't even have to lift weights honestly.
You just have to act right and have tight Game. But who the fuck wants to do that all day forever? Which is why I left sorority prez. Too much work.
>No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere is tired of putting up with her fuck shit.
>>17283848
You're a fucking legend, dude.
All of you should be taking notes from this guy!
>>17283848
>Vietnamese women are borderline violent
>borderline
I'm pretty sure they all actually really want to kill you if you don't treat them to nice things
We were 19 and had been together 2 years. We are 33 now, and it's still fucking great. I think 2 years is a good amount of time. I would say absolute minimum unless you're older than like 26
>>17283169
>unmarried
With my high school sweetheart. We're planning on moving in together soon since we'll both have real jobs.
Marriage is definitely something I've considered, but not until we have enough money to go all out, since you onlt marry once.
