What are things that really impress you about your partner during sex?
It can be their confidence, a particular thing they do, a super secret sex move...anything that makes you pop a boner/clit on at the thought of it.
I'd like to try and build some new skills in the bedroom.
>>17278472
He licks me out until I can't take it anymore and I have to push him away.
Disclaimer about preferences being individual and yada yada.
I adored it when my lover was blatant about his sexuality. Especially because he used to be pretty shy about saying stuff on his end, knowing I made him comfortable enough to be open only added to it. He once texted me just to say that he had a dream in which I was naked, he was rock hard when he woke up, and masturbated furiously. It really turned me on especially that he didn't bother saying hi or whatever, just going straight for the sexual stuff knowing it would be relevant to my interests.
One time I looked up to meet his gaze when going down on him and saw him lying back with his eyes closed and mouth a bit open, touching his nipples. One of the hottest memories I have.
Also love being firmly grabbed and pushed around a bit. I especially love having a guy on top of me, pushing a hand down on my stomach, and talking dirty in my ear/licking my neck. Makes me feel all enveloped.
Overall, what impresses me most is confidence (daring to show real arousal, make real noises, say inane shit during dirty talk, make eager eye contact - no porn lines or trying to fuck like a robot because everything else is "awkward"), enthusiasm/passion, and having a feeling for when to make a move. It's really hot when the guy remembers what you respond to and throws it in the mix when he can tell you're worked up, when he knows how to work your soft spots.
>>17278531
goddamnit ... i haven't had sex with someone I felt to this way about in about a year. every girl just bores me and I stop after 10 minutes and pretend that I have stage fright or something.
>>17278531
My boyfriend used to talk dirty to me all the time, tell me how hot I was, how much he loved fucking me, how he was stretching me out...it gave me such a fucking thrill, it was intense.
He doesn't do it as much now and I think it might be because our relationship is a bit more lovey dovey. I haven't changed at all, the sex is just as good, just not as dirty and raw as it once was. This reminded me of how amazing it was. I think I might mention it to him.
>>17278531
Due to like minded responses a few more I remembered;
>him fingering me after he came, I had my eyes closed, he dipped down without me realizing and gently pushed his fingers with his cum on them in my mouth for me to suck off
>sloppy making out after he'd just been eating me out so I could taste myself in his mouth
>mutual masturbation all pressed together, moaning and panting into each other's mouths
>the filthy way he could look at me in public and I just knew he was picturing me naked or recalling something we did together
>>17278618
If it's any consolation, I've not been with anyone else since (two years ago more or less) exactly because I know it won't compare and fuck that, I won't give it up for less, I want to be with someone who makes me want to go all out and let go of all reserves. But yeah I feel your pain.
>>17278623
Go for it, I can imagine how that happens but both is always better, right? Who knows, he might feel the same way and think he's tending to your current preferences. At the very least it's worth a shot!
The thing that makes the biggest impression on me during sex is how close my wife holds me. I know that sounds fucking stupid (I used to think it was at first) but it's really not.
If I'm on top of her, she'll put her arms around my neck and pull me down into a cuddle, which usually makes me slide my hands up her back and just grab the top of her shoulders. If she's on top of me she'll make sure I always have one arm flat and holding her upper back with my elbow near her waist so I have a hand at the base of her neck and she "feels contained" in her words (because I asked why she liked that when we were first going out, and I make sure I do it now).
She's 5'4" and a hell of a lot shorter than me so embraces and cuddles used to be weird, but it's during sex that we're on level ground so to speak. We're not even that wild in bed (which suits us both, not fat btw) so it feels totally free of pressure and we're just two people enjoying ourselves.
It's great, and although at the time I thought I didn't really know why I wanted to marry her, I guess I knew all along. I hope she doesn't die before I do, except when she doesn't take the bins out on collection days when I'm at FUCKING WORK.
Anyway, /blogpost
tl;dr
Cuddling during sex, intimate body-flat-against-body contact, holding each other as close as possible. That's the good shit
>>>17278618
sounds like we are meant for each other. post face.
>no gf
>see this thread
>>17278781
We're all posting on 4chan anon, we're probably not all that different if you think about it.
Do you really want a relationship? If so, what kind of relationship do you want?
>>17278721
This shitrightherenigga
>Had sex regularly with my ex for last few years
>ITT realize I can't remember a single thing that she has impressed me with
>>17278472
I love the teasing before sex - all the constant flirting; the mind fucking, he says. When we finally fuck it feels like we haven't fucked in 6 months, even if we have sex every day.
I love when he dirty talks to me.
I love the way he looks at me, especially when I undress for him and when I give him head. It makes me go crazy when he tells me he got a boner thinking of me, or when I can feel him getting hard when we're spooning. It makes me feel like I'm the sexiest thing on earth.
I love when he just takes me - no foreplay, no words. I absolutely love when he gets sexual in public, touching me under the dress, or when he bends me over the kitchen table/counter and fucks me when I'm cooking. I feel like he needs me.
I love when he touches me while he kisses my neck.
I love when we give each other oral while we are busy (I'm on the phone, he's working, etc).
I love being on top of him on the couch so I can kiss him all nicely.
>>17278885
You're fooling nobody but yourself
>>17278885
>>17278721
tfw none of this happens between my gf and I
should I break up with her?
>>17279212
No, not unless there's a reason that actually affects your life together.
And don't compare yourself to others; this goes double in a relationship. Just because you may not feel (right now) that you have the same relationship that some anonymous person outlined on the internet, doesn't mean that you should end it. It's for building on. Besides, they probably didn't share the bad, hard stuff that every relationship goes through
This is /adv/ right, so what's up?
>>17279212
>>17279267
Agree partly. I posted as well and obviously it's the good stuff and that doesn't mean it is accurate for the entire relationship, but some of the things in that post are pretty damn ordinary. You never flirt? Never make out? Or was "none of this" an exaggeration?
>>17279349
Get out. This is not about pros and cons anymore but about an unhappy and deeply troubled person weighing you down. Working through problems together is great if you have a stable fundament, but the good things you mentioned are not even that important. I would say only the being best friends in a lot of ways thing is really significant. And I think you should really reflect on how much that rings true today still.
>we imagine ourselves in similar places in the future
Oh really? You see yourself in the future married to someone like her? For decades? Every day? In sickness and in health?
>>17278472
>mfw pop a clit
>>17279367
Yikes. I'm sorry I have to leave in a bit so I don't have time to go in depth (not that this is something anyone can remotely solve with a post or something) but this is fucked up, from your description my first thought is severe (sexual) trauma. It seems doubtful based on this that she would be open towards the possibility, but couple's therapy might be really helpful. Not because of the magic words of a magic third but because it would force her to verbalize some things, take an active stance in building your relationship, and it could serve as a stepping stone to individual therapy if that's what she needs (and it sure sounds like it).
>>17279385
>>17279360
thanks this was helpful
>>17279405
What was the post? From the replies you got it seems something that might be similar to what i'm dealing with.
