I was addicted to porn however in a long battle I got porn substituted by a platonic love in which I only masturbated to her.
Slooowly I got my ejaculation disorder healed and started feeling a lot better.
The problem starts here:
Platonic love has started to eaten myself like porn did. I cannot stop thinking about her. It generates a lot of anxiety knowing it is almost imposible for me to get her.
At the beginning the idea that I could get her even at the most significant posibility was a healing idea that pushed me throught my day to do things.
But now this all has turned upside down, the idea that I could ever meet her and even don't know how to react, all my insecurities started attacking my platonic love turning it into a source of anxiety.
I cannot even eat properly like in my porn addicted times if I start thinking about her I just cannot continue eating.
Even at work I am starting to feel I cannot concentrate.
Please help me someone how to proceed I want to love her like the old times, because HOW CAN I DROP HER WHEN SHE WAS MY SALVATION OF PORN.
I CANNOT LET MYSELF DROP HER.
Please Help
>>17277684
>her
>her
>her
>her
You could stop being a gigantic beta faggot
>>17277685
How should I proceed? Are you saying I should drop her?
>>17277684
If you build your life around any girl, you are going to end up very fucking unhappy.
As far as "addicted to porn," nigger please. If I stood by you with a cattle prod and branded you each time you searched, you'd stop.
you get addicted to heroin, not porn. As far as GF...you're born alone, you die alone. you live in Spain. Get a fun hobby. Steroids are legal there, find a fun gym.
>>17277687
Thank you canadabro.
I find it correct building the life around someone will end up fucking unhappy. It is specially that part where now I am trying to disempower a bit my platonic love, and starting doing things by myself that the anxiety has started again like it was in the times of porn.
I already go to gym in fact it is very frustating that I cannot eat due to anxiety so it is useless my gym time.
>>17277684
why is it impossible to get her you beta cuck.
Oh wait, you're from spain, its probably some waifu shit from an anime.
How the fuck does this have anything to do with pol?
>>17277684
> the idea that I could ever meet her
do you even talk to this person?
1. stop overrating masturbation as some ultimate evil. you're not a buddhist monk and you have biological needs that have to be taken care of. what's important is balance.
2. get over the idea that women are goddesses with more value than you. they're just flawed human beings like anybody else
3. if you're lacking confidence for bullshit reasons get therapy and more life experience. if you're lacking confidence for real reasons, fix them. start lifting, feel strong.
4. get laid in the real world ffs. preferably in the context of a relationship with a person you feel kinship with beyond physical appearance. the best step to achieving this is to leave your basement and socialise in groups that are interesting to you. you'll naturally meet people.
>>17277688
no, you do not need to eat if you can search online for good prices what you can drink.
Try myprotien impact sometimes it is free shipping and $27 / kg which is a good price for whey protien
you just mix it with water and drink it is easy to get many calories and nutrition just from drinking and dont mix with milk too much milk will upset the stomach
>>17277691
thank you poland bro
>>17277689
no es una anime waifu shur es una idol japonesa
>>17277689
lmao, why is it so popular there
>>17277694
Degeneracy is encouraged in this shithole
>>17277684
>tfw your not addicted to porn and not a lovesick beta
Feels good to be emotionally stunted
>>17277695
thank you i'll seek help there
>>17277684
rape is your only answer amigo
or
pic related
>>17277693
>una idol japonesa
No female is an "idol." What most guys don't realize is that the more you ignore a girl, the more she wants you.
If she's some nip you've never even met, get realistic. Guys her idolize japanese girls-- not that great. Have had better lays in Spain.
Until you are comfortable on your own, nothing else will matter. If you want to jerk off, jerk off so long as you aren't actually rubbing your dick raw it's not a mental illness.
>>17277686
You must undergo intense psychological torture.
Everyday you must watch 3 hours of gore videos and force yourself to masturbate to it. 2 hours you listen to your favorite music and look at more gore.
After you're getting good and have no emotional response to the gore you must start killing little animals and after no emotional response to that move on to bigger animals like niggers.
All you did was replace one addiction with another. I've heard that in AA, you can't get into a relationship for a year after you stop drinking to avoid what happened here. So basically no love and no fap
>>17277700
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKFKl22j1RY
him on the center
You sound like a fuckin psycho. Hope you don't go Christina Grimmying whoever this elusive "her" character is.
>>17277684
>Stupid, pointless, faggot.
Stop whining, start working out, at least 3 times a week, eat balanced meals in sync with your workout plan. Increase your protein intake, drop ALL processed foods, specially and I mean SPECIALLY all forms of sugar and drink nothing but water or protein shakes. Increase your test levels and spend a little bit of money on grooming...but not too much, you don't want to come across as an obvious beta faggot, which you are.
Forget this bitch, think nothing except yourself and before long you will be flooded with pussy.
>>17277684
If the woman you are talking about is your own nation then I don't see a problem with what you are doing.
>>17277705
I'll never understand how people can get attached to others
>>17277702
>you're free of your addiction!
>now never do anything that makes you happy ever again
>o-okay
AA is shit for this exact reason. Some people just have addictive personalities and there's nothing they can do to change it. Might as well pick the least harmful addiction and get on with your life.
>>17277687
Your ignorance on addiction is amusing. Please spew more bullshit
>>17277686
dude if she is literally eating away at your life let her know if she says no then thats it deal with it if she says yes make it fucking count
>>17277686
You are obviously to obsessive to be around women.
Back to the darkness!
>>17277686
You know what you have to do. That voice in your head telling you to do the unimaginable? Yeah that's me. And I'm telling you, you need to end her life. Kill her or let her kill you.
It's up to you to make your decision.
Don't fuck this up
>>17277700
if you've idealised someone so much in a one-sided way it's incredibly unlikely they're going to live up to that image even if you do get to meet them. if you're going into these things with the attitude "you're great, i'm shit" you'll end up unhappy.
if you really want some jap waifu, you can have that, but it should develop naturally. learn the language, study there, join manga clubs if that's what you're into.
just don't turn a girl or a country into some utopian ideal where your problems will be solved without working on your anxiety problems as they exist now. it's probably not really porn or the waifu that are the problem, it's the way these anxiety disorders give you a tendency to naturally FIND something, anything in your environment to worry about.
this isn't Platonic love
it's called unrequited love
you have a passionate personality so you must replace this love with another love
the answer is: pray to the Blessed Virgin Mary (this will be a truly Platonic love without lust or anxiety)
Relax, itll only be an 80 year war
HAHAHAHAHA
Focus your passion on the gym, disregard that beta personality completely
You don't depend on anyone, or orient yourself according to anyone. You are your own man
>>17277713
>>17277714
exactly I have been reading the AA disorder maybe this is the root of all things
the funny thing is that it is imposible to change but at least it tends to develop good leaders like alexandre the great and otto bismark
at least is something
>>17277684
All women are whores. Stop thinking of her as Human. Because she's not. I have platonic love for my dog because it is a very loyal friend. But my wife? She's an enemy that I once impregnated, nothing more.
Also all women taste and feel the same. Sex is for reproductive purposes and warfare, the pleasurable part is due to the same adrenaline that makes you smile when you stab your first enemy. It's all the same.
Don't be emotional. Find another interest. Contribute, don't loathe.
>>17277718
>But my wife? She's an enemy that I once impregnated, nothing more.
>>17277717
yeah, I suspect complex forms of PTSD are at the root of a lot of personality disorders and they can start so early in life and become so pervasive we stop noticing the root cause and only see the symptoms in addiction or anxiety. Richard Grannon on YouTube has a lot of good material about this.
if you're dealing with problems with deeper roots, i'd actually suggest being careful of expecting too much too fast from things like going to the gym. sometimes when you start doing something you've been putting off for a while, it feels temporarily great and then the old problems come up and you can feel like nothing helps. it can pay off over time though. you learn some discipline, you'll feel less vulnerable in everyday life, and it teaches you to focus on what you're doing and your level in an environment with other people around.
the truth is these things rarely get completely fixed, but they can definitely be managed. try to find the positives in your life and take enjoyment in little things where you can find it. a lot of these problems can be reframed: if you're dealing with delayed ejaculation, you can have sex for a lot longer. women don't tend to find this a bad thing. if you can obsess so much over the wrong person you can at least be good and loyal to the right person when you find them. if you can channel an obsessive nature into something useful to you, you can achieve a lot.
maybe another thing to try is meditation or some kind of equivilent practice that would suit your beliefs. just on a very practical level sitting still teaches your body not to go with every impulse your mind throws up and that can be quite good for slowing down and dealing with social situations.
if you're starting with a disadvantage, take it gradually. don't try to go from super low self esteem to ubermensch overnight. it's about gradual improvement and being able to take it stoicially when things seem to take a step backwards.
>>17277807
thank you so much this have been my hope from the beginning manage all this power onto something good
>>17277684
Ok OP, here's what you do.
Get some energetic powerful music, go into the middle of the woods, and just scream it out loud.
Get pumped, ask her out with confidence, if she says no, get some good food and watch a movie by yourself. Even if she says no you'll associate her saying no with feeling good. You'll be over her in a week tops.
