I'm 18 years old about to start my senior year of high school. I'm a kissless virgin who is too awkward for the normal people and too mature for the weird people. My main problem is crazy social anxiety. How do I get over this and learn to talk to girls? How do I meet new girls? Is it possible for me to get laid? Pic unrelated.
What happens when you talk to girls? Do you spazz out or something?
>>17277608
Pretty much, I just get nervous around girls I like/find attractive. Think Michael Cera.
Two ideas for you OP:
1. Go fuck an escort/hooker. Find one on AdultWork in your area with a good reputation that'll provide you with a good experience. This should hopefully get the pussy off the pedestal, and you'll lose some of your anxiety from interacting with women.
2. Imagine that the females you talk to her actually dudes. Don't treat the interaction like if you fuck it up you'll never get to fuck her. Chances are 99.9% of the time, the female you're talking to isn't going to want to fuck you anyway, so just focus on making friends. Use the FORD framework to talk to people, Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams.
To be completely honest, women enjoy it when you ask them a lot of questions; and make it seem like you're interested. If you feel like you don't have anything to say, ask them something.
What's the worst that could happen?
>>17277674
These are actually pretty good recommendations.
Not OP here, but pretty much the same case only i'm 19.
>>17277674
Thanks man
>>17277674
Stupid question about the hooker: what if i have no car and live with my parents? Where are we supposed to fuck?
>>17277786
Find a hooker on Adultwork that can host.
>>17277605
That picture is the most autistic thing I have ever seen.
>>17277674
>To be completely honest, women enjoy it when you ask them a lot of questions; and make it seem like you're interested. If you feel like you don't have anything to say, ask them something.
Not OP, but this doesn't work on every girl.
I seem to have run into a girl that doesn't like compliments, inquiries about her day/weekend/week, questions about herself, or more than a couple questions in general.
I'm drawing a blank. How the hell am i supposed to keep the conversation going?
>>17277842
Maybe she'll feel more stimulated to talk if you speak about yourself too.
>>17277842
- She might not be interested in you
- She lacks social skills
- You don't share enough about yourself, so that it seems like you don't want to connect with her / want to be distant etc.
- She was abused by her father/ex/people in her life and has trouble letting new people in.
>>17277605
Talk to them like your best friend. Keep eye contact, eyes show the most.
>>17277868
>You don't share enough about yourself
>>17277863
>Maybe she'll feel more stimulated to talk if you speak about yourself too.
Tried this. Actually feel like i've shared too much with her maybe.
This part was goddamn hard for me since i'm schizoid and barely even talk to my shrink. Been working hard to fix myself though, and i've gotten to the point where i can open up quite a bit with enough effort.
>- She might not be interested in you
She has a boyfriend if that's what you mean. Wants to be friends.
>- She lacks social skills
Her's are a damn sight better than mine.
>- She was abused by her father/ex/people in her life and has trouble letting new people in.
Yeah, my gut has been telling me "sociopath, clusterB+avoidant, or abuse victim" but i can't figure out which one.
I'm trying to stop being an antisocial sonuvabitch but people are really damn difficult.
Stop giving a fuck and overthinking everything , expect nothing accept everything
>>17277605
I had severe social anxiety (the stay in your house for months kind).
Here's what you do: Have as much social interaction as you can. Don't think about shit. If you can't get out of your head, focus on your breathing, in and out of your nostrils. Something basic, repetitive.
The more you mess up, embarrass yourself, and say whatever comes naturally, the less anxiety you'll have.
To get one qt, you have to choke in front of a few. For you that'll be a lot more than a few. Eventually you'll become a person that enjoys conversation with hot strangers and doesn't really care about the result. That guy gets pussy.
