Seeking advice and sharing a story.
Me and my 'fuck'buddy decided to fuck today for the first time, only problem is I couldn't get it up, and the brief few moments I did, it was gone in literally seconds. She's really cute and I find her attractive but I can't fuck her for some reason. I can get hard and nut when she sucks me, and I can make her climax, but my dick won't let me bone her. What's up with that? Could the fact we've developed feelings for each other be preventing me from going thru with it? On a related side note she gave me an incredible footjob today when I mentioned her pedi looked cute, so apparently the issue is not getting hard, or maybe it is? I don't get it.
>>17277094
Fear of getting her pregnant.
>>17277094
You've been reading too many redpill threads on r9k
>>17277105
Nah not even, I have no fear of that. I've tried with and without rubber, no difference.
>>17277112
Should I consider myself lucky I have no idea what that is?
You overthinking it. You might be too anxious about fucking a friend instead of a complete stranger. Anyone can get a blowjob. You might be worrying so much about the weight of having sex with her, enjoying it and making her enjoy it, what she'll think about it etc and anxiety REALLY is the nemesis of boners. Not that uncommon problem.
>>17277195
You might be on to something here. Let's say it is anxiety, is there a good method to combat it?
I see men posting these threads several times daily, and I wonder. If this (not being able to stay hard) ever happens to my boyfriend, what can I say or do to reassure him? Because I know it's really stressful and embarassing and I wouldn't want him to be hurt
>>17277253
Yes, accept it and tell yourself you're anxious. You have to realize she isn't some orgasm goddess that you have to absolutely send offworld or you'll die or anything. She's just a girl that happens to be your friend and happens to want to have sex with you just as much as you want to have sex with her. It pretty much can't go bad as you'll both enjoy it anyway.
Knowing her beforehand just gives you more insight towards her overall personality, and with that comes the intimacy that makes sex a lot greater. If you're worried having sex will somehow damage your friendship or how she thinks of you, don't. Sex will make both these things grow bigger and deeper, no pun intended.
Also, a few (cautionary advice: not a shit-ton) drinks will also help, since a lil' buzz will help taking your mind off things and be generally more relaxed. Get her tipsy too, drunken sex is the shit.
>>17277269
Yes, it's stressful and embarrassing but the best you can do is not make a big deal out of it, and for the love of god don't get offended by it. Understand the fact that it happens, and if he gets depressed by it, let him know that YOU know it happens, and it's not his fault and you don't blame him for it, don't see him as less of a man for it, and that he'll have plenty of chance to make up for it.
If it's a recurrent thing, always encourage him to see a doctor.
>>17277285
Thank you for the reply! It's detailed and laid out well too.
Dunno when something bad happens to him, I have a huge urge of just letting him suck on my breasts
>>17277293
I don't know about him, but to me sucking titties has an immense power of comfort and safety. He's a very lucky guy, I'll give him that.
And of course it helps too. I find it sad to think about all the couples that the man can't momentarily get it up and the sexual session just ends there. There's so much more to do. And even if we get the occasional whiskey dick, it's not permanent and hell, you can probably get it up a little later. It shouldn't be hard for anyone to kill some time in bed.
>>17277293
This sounds patronizing.
like if I'm losing a boner, id want a bj to try to get me back in the game
>>17277094
it's nerves, probably. you'll get over it if you keep trying.
>What's up with that?
You're afraid of pussy. You might be into traps.
>Could the fact we've developed feelings for each other be preventing me from going thru with it?
That's not it.
>On a related side note she gave me an incredible footjob today when I mentioned her pedi looked cute, so apparently the issue is not getting hard, or maybe it is?
What the fuck are you babbling on about?
>>17277094
Stop watching porn for about a month.
There, fixed.
what wine is best for t boost?
>>17277094
I had the same problem with my gf op. I actually had to get half a viagra to get a hard on but once we fucked that first time I was totally fine from there on out no pills needed. Just my personal experience. Get some anti anxiety meds or swipe some viagra from your dad or something. You may not think it's nerves bease I didnt think so at the time, but looking back on it now it was DEFINITELY nerves
>>17278722
>tripfag
>namefag
You are genuinely the only person i don't like here
>>17278725
I'm 2 weeks off the porn, orgasms are much better.
>>17278762
I have low strength anti anxiety pills, they don't do much tho. Maybe I'll get some bars or something. How can I eat the pussy, get my d sucked, and receive a footjob, but can't fuck?
