how do i become the dominant one in the relationship where he will run to me like a lil puppy dog every time and not turn back, or leave? being the ultimate dominatirx is the only way i'll be able to keep a man. he must be subservient to me in a way, and do stuff for me.
i wanted to be the subservient one in relationship last time, but, it didn't work... i didn't have enough power or say so in how things worked.
how to be dominant yet still be attracted to the man?... this is hard for me to do. i have some takers but i am just not attracted enough or i feel like they aren't good enough, and i don't want to settle. i would like to find someone i am head over heals attracted to and want to fuck all day every day. but i am stuck in a dilemma, where if i chase after a guy who is attractive, he might leave because he is not doing the chasing. if i get chased, i'll eventually dump the guy because i get bored of him being in my space 24/7. how do i find the balance?
the ultimate dilemma is, we want what we cannot have, and we want what is scarce.
how do i become attracted to someone who lays down like a desperate door mat in front of me? to tell you the truth, i'll dump them for sure after a year or so. this happened every time.
how do i become genuinely attracted to a man without having to chase after him like i'm some psychopath, and stalk his facebook 24/7? this is exhausting, but my stubborn brain will always linger and chase after something i cannot get, sometimes even when i am dating.
i mean if someone wants me, obviously they may ahve problems finding people, or are just desperate, or bored. and its not a good enough reason for me to date them.
also i wont date someone just because they are lonely or bored, either... i will dump dump dump. i want to be attracted fully to the person and have this overwelming zest.
NOT- Ok i guess we can have sex i'll just close my eyes and pretend that im fucking the guy at work who wont give me the time of day.
this would be a shitty life to live.
