As a kid witness my mother stab my father, I just found this out a couple of weeks ago and I'm not sure how this has effected me up until this point. So I looked into it and it can cause all types of shit storms in terms of my psychological issues. On top of that I was also sexually abused in my adoptive mother's house.
I need advice on how to overcome all the tribulations, should I just seek therapy?
>>17269374
>I just found this out a couple of weeks ago
what?
well do you even have a problem? Sounds like you just found it all out now, and it hasn't effected you. It will start to affect you when you realize some things you may do or habits you have could stem from those past transgressions in your life. Now that you have something to base your pecularities on, you should definitely go see a therapist so you can talk with someone about that stuff in a psychologically secure environment. Talking to friends and random strangers about these events in your life can lead to bad advice and making bad decisions sometimes.
>>17269390
I've had depression, threatened to blow up my school, anxiety, I was slow at communicating with others, especially my mom, I was an extremely quiet child and when faced with dilemma I would burst into tears. Other than that it's been mostly panic attacks, anxiety, depression and drug abuse.
>>17269471
You should seek therapy. There's no shame in it. And despite what a lot of people are gonna say, religion can be very helpful as well, as long as you're using it properly.
Nobody is born knowing how to be a good person, you have to learn it somewhere, and you didn't get that from your parents, but that doesn't mean it's too late for you. People have come from a past like yours to lead good lives.
It's more likely that you inherited some of your parents insanity. So recognize that you're a little off and move on.
>>17269374
When a child is born it takes a good few years for them to develop enough that their brain can form long term concious memories. It sounds like you were too young to remember the event, which in turn means your brain didn't actually store the information - so no, it won't have had any adverse effects on you.
>>17269378
Seconding this. You found out a couple weeks ago that you saw something as a child? What the hell does this even mean? So your problems only started affecting you upon notification of what you supposedly witnessed? Or do you actually remember witnessing it?
>>17269576
Being too young to remember something doesn't mean being unaffected by it. There's a reason it's still criminal to harm a child under the age of developing long term memory.
>>17269633
Yeah, because it's been illegal to harm humans. What the fuck kind of post is this?
Who would come to 4chan for advice?
>>17269576
You are an absolute moron, you know nothing about the human brain or its development. Just because you can't remember something doesn't mean it doesn't affect you. Holy shit, it's hard for me to explain how uneducated you are. Emotional trauma in a pregnant mother can make a child more likely to grow up with depression, even the most minor emotional neglect in the first three years of life can leave a kid stunted forever. So yes, witnessing VIOLENT TRAUMATIC ACTS can easily affect the emotional health of a child even if they don't remember. The chemicals and hormones released when scared or in pain can alter the brains development and activate things they might already be predisposed to. Read a book or shut the fuck up.
>>17269788
fucking triggered lmao
>>17269378
I found out only six months ago that I witnessed my mother beaten and raped by my dad and him escorted out by the po. I never knew how he finally left the house after my parents divorced and there's a conspicuous gap in my memory for a whole year.Turns out everyone thought I knew.
that was 14 years ago. Repressed memory is a real thing mang. Especially in children who were already dissociating and forgetting shit to handle being abused.
OP, if you don't have C-PTSD (which is basically borderline personality disorder or something similar), then maybe you're just resilient as fuck. If you do have major issues regulating your emotions, sleeping, having stable relationships, not being constantly suicidal all the time, then I suggest Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, self-taught from workbooks/online groups/videos or a real DBT program, and EMDR for the shitty memories. I used to think EMDR was bullshit, but it's actually shown to work in the research and it sure worked for me.
>>17269534
>you inherited some of your parents insanity.
Bull-fucking-shit. There's not something like inheriting fucked minds.
It's post traumatic stress syndrome which leads to being fucked oneself.
>>17269374
I'd only like to know if it was fatal stabbing? Or did your dad survive?
