my bf and i were going to have sex and it was going fine until about 2 minutes in when i realized he wasnt hard anymore. got him hard again, same thing happened. he says hes not nervous sooo what other reason could this be besides him thinking im gross and ugly
forgot to include he's a virgin
>>17262317
He might be lying. Or he thinks you're gross. The only way to know for sure is to talk to him and post nudes to verify your ugliness.
more background: ive had sex with a lot of guys but i dont think im that intimidating in bed. i was his first everything, hes really awkward. i can really see this lack of sex ruining our relationship in the future
He probably doesn't want to fuck a whore.
not going to post nudes sry
def not the most attractive person, a little overweight but i've had sex with 30+ genuine 7+/10 guys, so i really find it hard to believe that i'm THAT gross
Possibilities:
He really was nervous
You aren't tight enough
He's grossed out by your promiscuous past
He has physical/mental desensitization from jacking off too much
Nervousness could definitely still be a big factor. Also penises often will not stay hard over the course of the entire session. If you two are busy with something else (like oral), and his penis is not currently being stimulated, it's possible for it to go flaccid for a little while. However, when it does get erect again, it should do so much faster and more easily than if you had gone in cold.
There's other things that could cause it. If he masturbates regularly it's possible that he's desensitized himself (that happens a lot on this board). This can be fixed with reducing/stopping masturbation and/or making sure to only masturbate gently. This can also sometimes be a problem if he consumes a whole lot of porn.
Also, if he is on certain antidepressant medications, such as SSRIs or SNRIs, these can have a negative effect on erections and sex drive.
weve been together for 8 months, wouldnt he have realized that by now?
honestly appreciate the humor/honesty but again i dont think that would be going through his mind still at this point
I'm a guy who was and still kind of is in this situation. I'm a virgin and my girl isn't, and the one time we actually tried doing it I couldn't get hard.
How did you start off the sex? I know my issue was that I feel like it started too suddenly, it was almost clinical. When I told her we should try it she just instantly sat up, stripped off and told me to do my thing, and I had all this pressure. Ideally I'd have liked a slower build up and foreplay etc. The good thing is we talked about it and we both know what we want.
He might be telling you he's not nervous cos he's afraid of looking like a pussy.
I would suggest talking about it. But try not to make it too big of a thing or put pressure on him.
>>17262377
wow I am a boyfriend (not OP's) I HAVE ALL THESE CAUSES
fuck, my gf will be mad
gonna fap
>>17262317
this is literly the oldest story in human history
it happens all the time like really
try googling something along the line of "first time virging flacid" and you will find boat loads of storys
its just like riding a bike
you fall maybe a few times at the start but eventualy you get the hang of it
just be open about it and say you want to try again
dont guilt or shame
>dont panic, procreate on
Just cause he isn't hard the whole time doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. Do you even know how penises actually work? It's normal to go soft after so long but if he's horny it will go back up again soon. Just alternate between intercourse when hard and oral when soft. Does he go down on you? Cause I think that would be more enjoyable for you until he gets hard again.
>>17262362
Thirty guys is enough to make me believe this is some sort of trap b8 thread, if not (or either way since you'll definitely respond if trolling)
>how old are you
>when did you start having sex
>how tall are you
>how much do you weigh
>hair colour, skin colour, eye colour
>how many long term relationships have you had
>is "bad girl and the virgin boy" a real book sold on shelves
>how old is your boyfriend
>did you engage in foreplay
I'm curious, please don't ignore my post.
>start kissing/making out during movie
>solid amount of time goes by
>i'm horny/wet
>grab dick
>kinda hard
>give blowjob until fully hard
>put condom on
>start having sex
>>17262409
He may have wanted it to be "special" since he was a virgin, guys have needs, too.
i'm 20, started having sex at 16 or 17, 5'9, 170, blond/white/green eyes, 1 other long term relationship, not sure about "bad girl virgin boy"'s true existence it was just the first result when i googled "virgin boy", bf is 20 as well, foreplay was involved
not a trap, just formerly very depressed and untreated and used sex as a means to feel literally anything.
this happened like a month ago, is it weird to start talking about it now with him lmao
>>17262317
maybe you should try some anal lube and a enema , or change positions with him.
There are a ton of possible reasons for limp dick. Just keep at it, be as natural as possible. If after 3-4 tries this still happens there may be a real problem on his end (or hes just not attracted to you). Until then just brush it off as "virgin boy".
>>17262362
>30+
>30
>+
>3
>0
>+
lol you can't even get some nerdboy hard
>>17262362
You sound like a gross whore desu. He's probably intimidated that you're such a slut and your naturally chunky body isn't enough to inspire actual lust. So you can get him hard with your mouth or whatever but it's just shallow.
Maybe lose some weight?
Lack of sleep
Stress
Alcohol
Just not in the mood
Sometimes just
>>17262362
>i've had sex with 30+ genuine 7+/10 guys, so i really find it hard to believe that i'm THAT gross
you shouldn't
ever heard the phrase "any hole is a goal", personally I find it quite gross but thousands of guys think this way
>>17262317
Do you know how to be sensual, tease him and seduce him a bit, foreplay? Or do you just lay on your belly with your ass sticking up, waiting for him to get himself hard and do all the work for you?
Contrary to popular theories, there's a big mental/emotional component to sex for men. It's not JUST physical, a little bit of the right kind of dirty talk can go a really long way
>>17262317
performance anxiety. you should have made out with him all the time, which would have spontaneously led to sex, instead of treating it like some kind of milestone.
Who the hell doesn't get nervous on her first time?
Like this guy is either lying or has nerves of steel I swear.
>>17262317
i thought i had erectile dysfunction, or porn addiction for the longest time. i could not get hard to fuck.
but i could get hard for other reasons. it turns out sexuality is more complex then just 'get hard cuz i like you so stick it in'.
i rarely fuck anymore because fucking only feels good to my cock and nothign else. id much rather explore a girls body with my tongue, teasing her niiples, eating her out. making out with her, just generally playing with her body. that is what turns me on. often times i can stick it in after that, but i dont need to, and if thats the 'point' of sex i get bored fast. i prefer the foreplayt.
ur bf might be the same. he was hard, then he got soft during the sex part.
>>17262317
Boys sometimes get spontaneous boners for no apparent reason. The flip side is that they sometimes lose them for no apparent reason.
Possible he's been fapping too much lately.
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