How do I stop being asexual?
I'm not 100% sure I am, but the thought of having sex is always scary to me and I always pray my gf doesn't ask for it. Also, it's not her fault cause this happened with all my gfs. I don't really fully admit it to myself that I'm asexual because I masturbate a lot to fetishes, I've had sex (insanely difficult and stressful to stay hard), and I don't know, it's not really a reality I'm comfortable to accept without definite proof. But still, how can I care about sex? Thoughs, stories, advice, similar stories?
>>17254335
You're not asexual, you have some serious issues though.
Go see a doctor. There are medications that can help with this, as well as therapy.
>>17254368
What the fuck do you know about shit?
>>17254382
>>17254335
an asexual doesn't masturbate or have any sexual desires, like a fetish or so. they are plain and simple not turned on by anything.
so you're not asexual but you should try stop masturbating and maybe talking with someone like a doctor or a therapist about your problem, cause it is most likely something that can be fixed.
>>17254392
>>an asexual doesn't masturbate or have any sexual desires, like a fetish or so. they are plain and simple not turned on by anything.
>so you're not asexual but you should try stop masturbating
Again, what the fuck do you know about fuck-all faggot? Why bother replying if you are literally clueless?
>Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity.[1][2][3]
>Asexual people, though lacking sexual attraction to any gender, might engage in purely romantic relationships, while others might not.[6][17][18] There are asexual-identified individuals who report that they feel sexual attraction but not the inclination to act on it because they have no true desire or need to engage in sexual or non-sexual activity (cuddling, hand-holding, etc.), while other asexuals engage in cuddling or other non-sexual physical activity.[3][8][9][15] Some asexuals participate in sexual activity out of curiosity.[3] Some may masturbate as a solitary form of release, while others do not feel a need to do so.[15][19][20]
>The only thing all asexuals have in common with eath other is not experiencing sexual attraction to other people or a need for a partnered sex
Yeah I'm fucking mad.
>>17254382
>asks for advice
>gets pissy when someone tells them the truth
You need to learn to accept help first instead of being caught up in yourself
>>17254397
>help
Yeah I'm not in the mood to read some shitty ignorant post when I just read a bunch of shit that all point towards the fact that I'm likely asexual.
Saying asexuals don't masturbate immediately signals that you know nothing about the topic, in which case you are not helping, but further confusing the person you are replying to.
>>17254401
You're retarded
>>17254405
Fuck you
>>17254335
You're probably depressed, insecure, or have some hormonal issues. You can't be asexual. Tumblr or a Wikipedia page made my sociology professor are not valid sources.
>>17254721
Oh, what are some valid sources? Should I look up the definition in the journal of asexuality peer reviewed by Harvard's department of asexuality experts?
>>17254394
>masturbate as a form of release
>form of release
>I masturbate sexually to porn and have sexual fetishes but I'm asexual because I say so and everyone else doesn't know fucking shit
You're legitimately retarded and extremely confused. Have fun rejecting all forms of help. You seem to have your condition pinned securely in your mind, so why not just admit to your gf you're asexual and let her break up with you, faggot?
>>17254335
Come to /ace gen/ on /lgbt/, it's slightly less hostile there.
>>17254733
You act like your imaginary distinction is some sorts of concrete unambiguous separable wall, when it's just a bunch of ill defined words and concepts.
And I don't think I'm necessarily asexual I think I might just have lots of anxiety, I'll probably see a therapist and I already told my gf I might be asexual and she should proceed as she sees fit and we decided we'll try to work it through together at least for now.
>>17254725
Kill yourself. You asked for advice and are throwing a tantrum now that you've received it. Go see a doctor faggot.
>>17254750
I think I'm the most hostile one ITT desu
>>17254750
He's the only one being hostile.
>>17254752
Yeah sorry I don't know why I'm so upset. But if you decide to deride the sources, why not provide a more reliable one?
I have zero sexual attraction or reaction to anything. There have been studies that indicate that there is literally a part of the brain in certain people that does not respond to sexual stimuli as it does in others. If you have fetishes and can get off to things, you should listen to the other anons as you likely have an emotional or mental hangup - and judging by your piss poor attitude, you should seek help anyway.
Being uninterested in a sexual relationship is one thing, being uninterested in sex is another entirely. One is inherent and one indicates a deeper issue. Seriously, regardless of what you think, you should seek help from a professional anyway.
>>17254758
Because I am busy and I don't think you deserve my time. You even said you masturbate. You're not asexual. You're either insecure about something or have low T but you beat your meat so I doubt that's the issue. Go to a doctor and stop shit posting.
>>17254335
What about sex is scary to you? Does it disgust you, or does it scare you because you think you can't perform?
You are just scared of failure, of fucking up. I am dealing with this but i can still have sex with my girlfriend if i am relaxed. Try letting go, it worked for me. Say fuck it and pund that pussy
>>17254766
The latter
>>17254768
Kek. Yeah I wish I could. I'll keep on trying nevertheless
>>17254765
>You even said you masturbate. You're not asexual.
Non-sequitur
>>17254772
Then I don't think you're actually asexual. You should see a psychiatrist, it's clearly anxiety that's killing your boner.
>>17254775
Yeah I'll do that in the coming weeks. Hope it works
>>17254778
Good man OP. All the best to you.
I have something similar and its really shitty. I'm not Asexual or confused that I might be, but I litterly cannot have sex and have it go well. When I lost my virginity it actually went OK all things considered. But anytime I try now it is a shit show.
I either get hard and can't keep it, or don't get hard, or just finish after 2-3 min. And condoms don't help, litterly will not stay hard with one either.
and the anxiety and stress and pressure of me wanting to finally have it go well, not even for me but for the girl is awful. Fuck this last weekend I even closed my eyes and just imagined I was fucking someone else, and it didn't help.... Ironically it was the girl I lost my virginity to who I was with again last weekend so she was understanding at least... But fuck me.
I think I have narrowed down why I have this problem and its all shit from my childhood I really don't want to go to a therapist or doctor and talk to anyone about this problem because its embarresing...
would it be a viable option to just find a girl who is just not interested in sex. I love relation ships but the sex ruins them every time for me, even if the girl says she doesn't care I know it will be a problem.
You need to have a serios talk with your girlfriend about this. How old are you / your girlfriend?
Also drop the negative thoughts, arent helping. What are you afraid of? Now being able to perform? ( performance anxiety, read on it, helped me lots) pregnancy? Not being big enough? Just pleasure her orally and the rest will come if you're chill
>>17254822
Find a paralyzed woman I guess . I imagine they aren't picky
>>17254822
I'm the same right now but i can perform pretty well...
>>17254822
>litterly
killing yourself may help
>>17254828
>>17254822
maybe I will have to consider lowering some standards, id be down to ride the roller coasters and amusement park rides with a disabled GF... But really IDC everyone has problems so what if she is crippled.
But most of my life is actually great asside from this problem. 22, own a house, very successful job. Every chance I can go do stuff I travel and go enjoy life. Never have to worry about bills since roomates pay practically everything and I can just live my life. Decent looking guy. Getting girls isn't the problem.
Use viagra
>>17254750
>less hostile
Were you joking lmao. What's wrong with this guy
>>17254865
I said date a disabled girl because they can't have sex and thus don't care if you fuck them or not
>>17255072
yeah I got u bro, idk maybe it sounded more ranty or worse than I intended. It actually is a good idea and I just was seriously thinking that yesterday haha.
god dam girl that went to my HS that was in a wheel chair is a fucking Olympic athlete, super cute too.
I don't understand why 4chan buys into this bullshit and I don't understand why 4chan loves MtF trannies so much.
Oddly specific pair of tolerances.
>>17255498
We're just a very tolerant community...
