i think sex is extremely over rated. I have more or less done everything in regards to sex now. a few nights ago, i got a hotel room with my girl friend and we spend the night having sex, we more or less done everything, oral, anal, bareback. prior to this i had very little sexual experience. we both came 3 times.
I thought it was just ok, and i have honestly had better wanks. i was expecting it to be mind blowing and to cum in a couple of minues, it took me a good while to cum, and when i did it was more satisfying than masturbating although the beginning and middle was pretty shit. With a condom on, it felt awful. I dont know how anyone can be happy wearing a condom, i had to fuck her in the ass and do it bareback. I actually cant believe the sacrifices some people make to have sex. the best part was the fact i like my girlfriend and it was nice doing it with her, if it was with a random girl, i would of rather masturbated. feel like i have been lied to my entire life. im 22, gf is 23 and she is at least a 7/10.
It's individual. Not everyone likes sex equally, despite virtually everyone liking it, same with music for example. Mankind as a whole gushes over it but that doesn't mean that every single person values music lots in their own life.
>>17248108
Using the same metaphor, not everyone has the same musical taste, find what actually gets you going and watch less porn, its artificial and fucks up your expectations. Play with s&m or something if vanilla seems crap.
>>17248112
This is a valid point as well. And I particularly agree with the porn angle. Nothing wrong with enjoying it occasionally, but the fact is that many guys solely rely on porn for their masturbation sessions, and that feeds you an entirely different kind of stimuli.
In porn you get stimulated bam-bam-bam, everything's exaggerated, everything's quick, the extremity keeps increasing. It's pretty much the psychological equivalent of masturbating fiercely with a firm grip. It decreases your sensitivity towards everyday eroticism, which is much more subtle and elusive and requires you to look for it, rather than presenting itself to you in clear cut manner.
>>17248108
thanks for the reply. i get what your saying but masturbating still feels great but the actual thing does not, for me. it kind of like loving a bands live album and then actually seeing them live and just thinking its ok. if it just me, that will somewhat depress me, i felt pretty distant to the average person because i had barely had sex, and now that i have done everything, and not enjoyed it that much, i cant relate to the average person. alot of things guys do it solely to get sex.
>>17248112
>find what actually gets you going and watch less porn, its artificial and fucks up your expectations
this could be why tbf because i have relied on porn for years to release my urges. my gf is a good girl too, she more or less lets me do anything.
>>17248124
I don't dare to say how typical your experience is (I absolutely think finding the first time a disappointment is common, but then again you already had the luck of doing it with someone you care about which is what most guys get wrong) but it can be absolutely amazing. The first time I was really sexual with someone.. I had never felt that great, that peaceful, that happy in my life. Though for me that had less to do with sexual stimulance (I can get myself off more effectively as well) and more with the feeling of having someone pressed up against you, sharing in arousal, bare skin on bare skin. I have done cocaine and although of course that also has an individual aspect, it was laughable to me compared to the "high" of being touched and held.
Lots of things can be at play here. Your girlfriend and you could be mismatched in rhythm or "style" of having sex (for example, making love or fucking), she could be a lousy lover, you could not be that attracted to her and not realize it because you haven't experienced what it can be like yet. You can have desensitized yourself with rough masturbation or need to shake off expectations built by porn. Maybe you were more nervous and anxious than you realized. Maybe you both need to get a bit better at it and learn to play into each other's sensitivities.
Basically, it's an all around discouraging start, and a good lesson to realize sex isn't inherently fantastic, but I'd vouch that it's too soon to draw serious conclusions yet.
Also should add that concerning your comment on guys getting sex, if you manage to seduce a girl as a guy on top of sexual stuff you get the thrill of having "won" and the ego boost. That matters as well.
>>17248142
>she could be a lousy lover,
she did say that she has not had sex for about 2 years, so she could of been pretty shit in bed due to that, due to my lack of experience, i was probably awful. i will have having sex with her again pretty soon. i will try more 4 play, taking things more slow, and trying more positions. i was pretty nervous too, but i was ok the second and third time we done it. thanks for the advice.
>>17248169
No problem! One thing not to underestimate is that more than any clear trick, what matters most is the details. How fluidly she moves her hips and whether she an keep up a good rhythm, for example, makes a huge difference for how to sex feels. Same for your thrusting and where/how you hold her. I think a lot of inexperienced people make the mistake of ticking boxes in their head and thinking there's nothing to "add" to the sex life, when mostly refining your moves really makes you a better partner. Good luck!
I've never had an orgasm from sex or bj or anything other than fapping and I haven't been single for 6 years
I'm a guy
>>17249089
op here. i think i only came because i was fapping while she was sucking the end of my cock. with out me fapping too, i dont think i would of came. i was close to cumming when on top of her though but i pulled out because i was bareback. dont even get it. she sent me videos today of her rubbing her pussy and shit, and i was turned on as fuck and came really quick
