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I guess I'll just sit here waiting for you to message me then, and maybe hoping you don't...
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how the fuck do people get into uni and don't know how to make a fucking power point???!

just how?? it's.so.fucking.basic.

can't you fucking see that it's full of text? nobody wants to read that crap
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Doctor Who is not a good show.
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I'll live with my mistake, it's the only thing I can do. Enjoy your new relationship
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>>17248036
^this
a fuckton of this
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I can smell the dislikeness from miles away
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I gave you everything, every part of myself, every minute of every day for 3 years and yet this is not good enough?
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Been thinking about being a anhero for a month now. Still haven't found a reason not to.
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My gf gave me a bj and I couldn't come without significant manual stimulation from me. I feel really bad, and now I have the fear that I won't be able to come the first time we have sex (unlikely, but).
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>>17248148

Maybe it's because I jerk it every day. I'm gonna try laying off porn for a while and see if that works.
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>>17248156
Onla maabreda. Dasrighteous man.
Kan allays be rahstabatin 'n tings.
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>>17248162
The fuck are you trying to say
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>>17248166
"Hey, man. That sounds like a good plan. It's not good to waste all of our time masturbating and focusing on instant gratification"

Jesus. Reading comprehension, Anon.
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>>17248170

Thanks for the translation
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>>17248057
I liked Eccleston & Tennant grew on me. Starting going downhill with Smith and detest Capaldi
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>Used dating site months ago
>Stop using them when i noticed it's much easier IRL for me
>Get a reply from someone i messaged all those months ago
>The most fucking boring reply she could give

Decided to give her a sarcastic reply back, what the hell? How could i waste my time on garbage like online dating sites?
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There's a saying that goes "nothing tastes as good as being thin"

Well lady, I've been fat and I've been thin, but there is nothing that feels as good as how white chocolate with coconut and cornflakes tastes.
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>>17248261
I'd still rather be thin.
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I get a boner for little girls, mostly loli but sometimes it extends into real life, will I grow out of this? I don't wanna be a pedo
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I just got used again and it sucks.

This is the second time some woman has befriended and started hanging out with me, with the relationship developing seemingly into an exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, only to conclude with the girl dumping me and getting together with an acquintence of mine.

The first time it happened, I was pretty angry overall. I wasn't bitter though. Near the end of the relationship I suffered and started regressing into old habits, and I was generally a bad boyfriend. I took from July to the end of 2014 to really focus and improve myself in every way. It sucked to see my ex get with a friend of mine since it more or less ostracized me from my friends, but it was necessary. I started getting into really great shape, found some new hobbies to learn, landed a job with better pay and hours than ever, and so on.

Long story short, I meet a girl, we started dating around Valentine's day this year, broke up yesterday. It just sucks putting 200% effort and being a model boyfriend, only to get dumped on the side for yet another friend of mine from a different circle.

I'm just sad because I really spent a shitload of time learning from mistakes only for it to be irrelevant. I don't know what I'm getting at anymore but if you read my tale, than you.
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>>17248574
You need better friends.
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Trying so, so hard to get with her and it never pans out. How does it feel to listen to her moan on my cock while you're in the basement?

You are transparent. You are the stereotypical "I'm a nice guy oh pls just gimme a chance pls" except that you're a dyke.
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I'm doing what is the norm, you know, got an apartment, got a full time job, living independently, paying my bills on my own. But deep down, I still feel the urge to grab my coveralls and hiking pack and waterproof steel toe boots and hop a train out of here.
Oh, the conflicts of interest.
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>>17248578
I think that's part of it, yeah. What I mean though is I know and am on friendly terms with a lot of different people in my city. Its not like my best friend is swooping in and taking my gf, its more or less she's going after people I've introduced to her while we were dating.

Could it be a problem that I have too many people I know? Is it possible that girls show me interest because of my connections, and use it to get with other "superior" people? I could see that being possible but I don't know what to do about it
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>>17248617
I try to be aware of that situation cropping up. If I'm worried that a girl I'm casually seeing might be into the kind of friend that I have, I won't even introduce them until I've become more serious with them. They're basically on probation.

Like I was seeing a hippie, and I knew that she was naive and good-natured enough to buy into my complete dog of a friend's bullshit about "free love" (re: he wants everyone to be whores so he can get laid easier) so I simply never introduced the two.

You just have to be aware of these things. It takes planning and foresight.
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>>17248335
while i wouldn't wanna be waddling down the street i think a bit of extra pudge is worth some really good chocolate
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Copying from last thread:

I have Aspergers and ADHD, I'm starting to feel more and more like I'll never be able to make friends, and that maybe I'm just not cut out to make connections with people, like, at all. Every step I make is a step in the wrong direction.

This guy and I hung out a couple times, the second time we hung out (the other night) we went to a shitty concert in which I hardly said anything on the trip there, at the concert, or on the trip back. I just drew a complete fucking blank. We hung out at my house for a little bit before we actually went though, and we did sort of talk then, but once we got in the car, the conversation pretty much died and I was quiet for the rest of the night.

If I try and joke about something, it comes out completely wrong and I trip over my words all the time.

I don't think therapy or building social skills ill help. I feel like I can't actually improve my social skills, because when I'm actually in a social situation, I process things SO slowly. The only time I have any social competence at all is when I'm either drunk or high. I don't handle rejection well, and I'm tired of trying to make friends with people and have nothing come of any effort I make.
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My Boyfriend has become emotionally unavailable and I think he's lost interest, and it's more than likely that he's cheating. He has so much emotional baggage that...I don't know. I want to be patient with him, but it's so hard because when we first started seeing each other, he was literally obsessed with me. Now I'm lucky if I get a real conversation out of him.

I love him so much, it's killing me.
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How can i stop being passive-aggressive to people i like and tell them about my dissatisfaction like a mature person.
Not that it will change anything. They won't listen anyway and i don't want them to change their ways because of me.
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I really fucking hate that she called me "kiddo". She's much younger than me, and I feel she's sent me into the friend zone.
I'm kinda glad I won't see her for a couple of weeks. Maybe then I can focus on myself and try to fight these feelings
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If I were to die, I would die painlessly and without intent, and without anyone knowing or caring.
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>>17248661
Replied to you last thread as well. You're not alone, at least.
I wish we could all find each other somehow.
Growing up, I was always friends with the other weirdos, freaks, rejects, misfits, outcasts, autists, etc, it was great. We were practically instant friends, and it felt like we really understood each other.

Now, I'm just surrounded by normal folks and feel like an alien. I don't understand these people and they don't understand me. We try to have conversations and it goes nowhere, we just sit there staring into the distance, trying to think of something to say.
But with all those socially handicapped kids i used to be friends with way back when, that never seemed to happen. We could even do shit like playing DnD without paper, we just clicked somehow.

I also feel like there's no way to improve, because nobody will tell me what i'm doing wrong or right. It's like a blind man trying to play darts. "You missed" doesn't help. Am i throwing too far to the right? To the left? A little high or low?

>>17248672
>How can i stop being passive-aggressive to people i like and tell them about my dissatisfaction like a mature person.
Realize that they may otherwise have absolutely zero fucking idea what they're doing wrong.
They need to you say something.
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>>17248648
Hmm, I see what you're saying now. I've never had serious thought of it before until today. I felt like that particular thought would be overridden with the fact of being in an exclusive relationship, but I ultimately can't blame them for wanting to date someone who is more successful in certain aspects. I guess it really is my fault for creating that environment to begin with.

I will keep your advice in mind for the future and I will continue to become a more successful and desirable person in the meantime. Thank you.
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SJW really ruined science.
I am a Applied Physics student at an university and because we have to be more "Socially aware" they replaced 11% of the entire Bachelor with some bullshit socialist propaganda subjects.
I have to write a 3800 words essay about how Detroit is in the gutter right now and formulate a plan on how to get it out of it. I need to bring it from a socialist perspective.
In order to make room for this they scraped a few math and physics subjects.
Thanks SJW for ruining everything.
I hope they die in a fire.
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i'm sorry
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>>17248841
Why?
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I just want to express whats on my mind. Photography only goes so far but i need words... I want to write poetry or rap or sing but i fall at the first hurdle, no self belief...
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>bf and I are recent college grads
>lots of student debt
>jobs don't pay that well
>he gets up for a highly competitive promotion
>looks like he's not going to get it
>go to office one day to cheer him up
>bosses eye me up
>later he brings up an idea
>wants me to sleep with his bosses to get him the promotion
>we argue
>talk about finances and how much the pay bump will help us get started
>says it'll be a one time thing
>I agree to it
>fuck his bosses after work
>he gets promoted
>says that he gets a bonus every week I come in and fuck his bosses
>it becomes a regular thing
>my boyfriend has been pimping me out to his employers for almost three months now
>one of them jokes that I'm cheaper than an escort
>too ashamed to leave and risk someone finding out
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>>17248935
This has to be bait. If not you need to make your own thread.
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just worked up the courage to add a girl I've been interested in on fb. she's in my fire academy class and we havent exchanged much other than basic conversation. never had a girlfriend before, and i'd really like one before I head off to college.
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Seems like my parents don't actually want me to leave and start living alone. Mother constantly says "I don't know if you're even going to survive there", she says I refuse to contact with her, although any attempt leads to bursts of passive-aggressive behaviour, blaming and trash-talking. I don't trust her, she will backstab. I've never developed the basic skills like cooking, cleaning, etc. "Oblomov" as it is. Everything I ever did, my attempts were marked as something that only retard would do, the only thing I received were endless yellings. I have got one in a million chance to start everything with a blank page, and feels that they want to take it away from me. The more I type, the more furious I become. How great would it be to cut her from my life, forgive and forget. You won't ever remember a stranger, will you? So the family member who is supposed to be closest feels like a stranger.
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>>17248841
Stop being sorry. It is what it is, just go be happy
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> Study vet med, have a ludicrous amount of content to cover for exams.
> 9 exams coming up in the next five days.
> Have spent 10+ hours everyday for the last two weeks studying (we get two weeks revision leave).
> Have desperately tried to cover everything but only just finished the content.
> Already feel stupidly thick- am surrounded by stupidly intelligent people.
> Got what I thought was a good score in Jan, turns out most of my friends got a good 10% higher than me.
> Do mock test tonight again- only just get a 'pass'.
> Am scared shitless that I will fail these exams in the next week. I have worked for the last five years to get into this course, I bloody love what I do- there's just SO much content that it's a struggle to even know where to begin to study.

I'm so scared, all my friends keep telling me I'll be fine, and they don't seem to be bricking it- but I'm trying desperately not to cry every night. I just want a pass /adv/, I don't want a stupidly high grade, I just want to pass and become a vet- I just worry I'm too stupid to do that.
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>>17248964
So far you've passed everything. Give it all you've got and don't look back. Passing is passing. It's likely that you'll split ways with many of your current friends, so it's unrealistic to worry about performing as well as them. If you're anything like me, you'll learn much more on the job then you will taking tests and studying.
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your hate and malice makes me strongerer
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>>17248977

> If you're anything like me, you'll learn much more on the job then you will taking tests and studying.

You've hit the nail on the head really, I'm dire with exams.

Thanks anon. I'm just trying not to be a shaky mess before tomorrow really.
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I'm not an insecure person. I'm not jealous in the least either. But I see this as a test with big risks. If they pass, they are both valuable people that are worth keeping around, like I thought they were. If not, then neither of them are worth having in my life. There are a number of reasons she could be doing this, but they're all irrelevant because the test still applies to judge her character. This test applies most to him though.

They can do whatever they want. I won't interfere. I won't influence anything. But I'm scared of losing my best friend of a decade, and not to mention the girl I love.
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>>17248988
Breathe in the nose, out the mouth. Honestly that helps me more than anything. Best of luck, you'll do fine.
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> I'm a faggot who looks straight and if I came out or got a boyfriend my family would probably hate me but with how few friends I have I don't really have to worry about that

from the previous thread...

anon why would your family hate you? why do you have so few friends?
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>>17248979
Sorry to disappoint you, but I only hate myself
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EA conference was disappointing.
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>>17248979
>strongerer
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>>17248990
What's the test anon? This just sounds really interesting and kinda like a situation I have.
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>it was e3
>it was ea
What were you expecting?
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>>17248935
I just feel sooo sorry for you. My god. It's horrible. You need to get away from that whole situation.
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Why do people call from fucking private numbers?
How the fuck am I supposed to call back?
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I had a dream about the accident. About coming out of the hospital at midnight pushing you to my car. After you got better we got in a fight and you sliced your jugular right in front of me. I got you to the hospital in time and you kept apologizing. And died anyway. I had to wheel you to the freezer. The whole dream was so vivid I woke up with the remains of tears on my face. Not cool. My cat dies and I have a dream about you instead.
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>>17248959
I understand you so well. Exact same thing happened to me, to the point that my mothers behaviour destroyed most of my relationships. "Nobody will love you as I do". Fucking narcicistic bitch.

I left home and for a time it was hard, I was fucking sisy, mommys boy. But after a while it started geting better. Real deal breaker was finding healthy relationship. I never knew what just simple love and acceptance is. It was like geting out of dusty, smelly room and tasting fresh air for the first time. Bitch(mother) never ever loved me, she treated me like property. Run boy! Run!
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I dont want to be with you
This isn't going to work
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>>17249020
To see if anything sexual happens between them.
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Man, what am I doing, surely dreaming of meeting the most beautiful girl there is half way around the world must be impossible, or is it? What else do I have to live for or strive for? I need emotional and physical connection and nobody here is willing to give it to me, I must look somewhere else, I must not give up.

I will do my very best to meet beautiful women and what ever is required, what.ever. but where should I start? That's the trillion dollar question.
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>>17249074
Initials?
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>>17249074
I know you do, but you are conflicted. The question is what is the conflict, its not about me, its about what you won't discuss.
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sup boys, it's a long one

>start hanging out with girl last year
>she's cool and fun, enjoy her company
>gf of a guy i know but they treat each other badly, weird relationship
>she and i spend time together regularly, i eat her out a few times and we have drunk sex once but i stop her pretty fast because i feel weird about it
>we hang out on valentines day, lol
>we make out for two hours, sober, like teenagers, she asks me what i'm doing next weekend
>after that don't hear from her again, i catch significant feels and get pretty down about it for a good month
>until last week, she randomly starts messaging me again
>we hang out yesterday (saturday night)
>me her and her male friend, we go drinking
>she spends the entire evening fawning over this guy and i'm confused / shocked by it, figure they haven't seen each other for however long so i should just give them space, not be bothered by it
>eventually becomes pretty intolerable so i leave, quite sure they could both tell how i felt about it
>they go home together
>she texts me this morning asking if i got home okay but is clearly not interested in conversation

why lads
how do i stop hoping for good things to happen? literally should have stayed at home and played overwatch with my friends
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I come from a privileged background and I disrespect my family who helps me. I've taken advantage of them for my own benefit and pleasure and I got called out on it on Friday. I've fucked up before but this time it was a matter of health.

I've never adequately shown them gratitude because I've always done things "for them" because it's what was "expected of me." But now I feel I have betrayed them.

Now I don't know what to say to them.
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>>17249132
>gf of a guy i know but they treat each other badly, weird relationship
>gf of a guy

Found your fucking problem, dumbass. Find some nice single girl instead of geting drama. I don't even know what you thought was supposed to happen if you make out with a slut.
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>>17249122
I won't discuss it with you because there isn't anything to discuss. I can't offer you anything in return for your feelings except that I will make my entire life about you and simultaneously destroy anything good about yours.
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fuck you, asian whore
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>>17249216
Are you the guy that's going after a Thai prostitute in another thread on this board?
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In going to do it.
As tasteless and disrespectful as it may be, I have to know what she wrote down that day.
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>>17248854

for not getting it work as we planned..
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>nigerian guy has been aggressively courting me
>first it was nice and gentlemanly
>now he calls me every night
>sends me long texts about how he wants to get to know me better
>comes to my job to ask me personal questions like when the last time i was with a man
>kind of creeped out now
>everybody tells me i'm being paranoid and i should just go out with him because i "need" a man

The fuck
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In the last 6 months

Mom gets cancer and starts going through chemo but gets better

Break up with gf

Got fired from a long term job

Brother and his wife are apparently heroin addicts and lose their kids, mom and dad now take care of them but need help

I find a job but need to commute about 60 miles everyday, job is in my parents town

Trying to find a house in that town but rent is super high and the housing market sells everything before I can even look at it.


Uhgg I am just so tired of dealing with anything and want to go into a cocoon and wake up when its all over
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>>17249293
Wow. There is much of /pol/ in me. Don't go with him. It will end badly.
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>>17249178
what?
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>>17249309
>>17249309
Since I got out of a bad relationship 4 years ago, I've just been looking for all the bad signs in men from the beginning. I'm honestly just getting tired of people telling me to jump on every Tom's hairy dick because they haven't seen me with anybody in a long time. But the kind of guys who hit on me are ones looking for a quiet, low-maint. girl who will give them a steady fuck. Never anyone who wants a serious relationship.

So what does the /pol/ in you say about all of this?
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I've been having the urge the ask a random stranger to kiss me, just to see how it feels, I feel so empty.
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>>17249339
First question would be, are you looking/want serious relationship. Secondly I would like to tell you, that I kind of agree with you looking for red flags from the begining. Thirdly I would advice you (if you are indeed looking for someone) to consider that you may broaden your search for guys that have potential to grow, (almost all of us just look for someone already built who will instantly just enchance our lifes, but 90% of such people are already in happy relationsips, so I would say that it is good for our chances to look for someone that show promise to grow into successful human being).

Also you say about guys hiting on you. Did you even tried actively to look for someone?
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>>17249340
do it, just be confident and probably would be better to do it in a party like setting... not just some random on the street..
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>>17249339
not the /pol/ guy but maybe try church? lately it seems like some of the most genuine people I have been meeting are church going types... which is weird for me to say because I feel like most religions are bullshit and filled with hypocrites
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>>17249359
I am at the point where I am dating for a serious relationship. Except I keep meeting these guys who don't want a partner but want sex, dinner, a beard, another income.... I am not looking for perfection but I am tired of wasting my time with guys who lie and tell me what I want to hear to get me to stick around longer for their convenience.

And yes, I have tried dating. Half of the time guys get freaked out when I express some interest. When I say "serious", they think I want to trap them into marriage. Otherwise, they're waiting for the sex. The other time, I'm nice but not a perfect 10/10 so I'll be on hold until they've run out of options.

Kind of a shitty feeling to have someone call me up to say, "Well, there's no one else so I guess you'll have to do..."

>>17249376
I'm the same way about religious types. I feel like they're bullshit too. Most of the time they want you to have the same religion as them but at the most I can only respect it but not join them.
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>>17248804

You know spy/intelligence agencies often actually recruit people while they are in higher education?

Now, here's the thing...
Intelligence agencies also tend to need propagandists. Journalists.

So, they're already pretty in tight with the education administration. They push for SJW professors, who'll indoctrinate students into SJWism who'll then print things for leftist SJW governments.

But wait, there is more?

Ever notice how the military has a more right-wing, ideology? How soldiers can be stubborn, to the point. Hard to influence (unless you're their superior) and can get the job done?

Notice how the army also talks about "breaking people down" before "building them up again".

We're raised, trained and indoctrinated to be SJW because it makes us more malleable. Easier to influence. We're taught as things SHOULD BE, not as THEY ARE.

That rapists can be taught not to rape, perhaps they don't know that they are wrong.
The idea that perhaps they just don't give a fuck about morality goes right over a SJWs head.

And it makes them easier targets. 'I SHOULD have to learn to defend myself, carry mace, call the police, wear clothes or not pass out in the street. I SHOULD do all of those things that makes me an easier target then hope a predator doesn't do anything".

We're raised to be controlled. Weak, easy targets, taught not to fight back when bullied (because 'fighting means you're both in the wrong'), taught not to speak up ('sexism is wrong. Also, the girls can go for their break, but the guys have to stay behind because they're bad' Speak up against hypocrisy and it's detention).

I'm using school examples to show how deeply this shit gets ingrained from a young age.
There is how things SHOULD BE = SJW.
Then there is how things ARE = right wing.

Taking Darwinism into account, who'd you think would survive if shit hit the fan tomorrow?
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>>17249488
'I SHOULD NOT have to learn to defend myself, carry mace, call the police, wear clothes or not pass out in the street. I SHOULD do all of those things that makes me an easier target then hope a predator doesn't do anything".

fixed.
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My family is about to go through a big change soon, if things go wrong we will have to move and I do not know what will happen to my future. It has been very stressful.
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If you smiled more, maybe you wouldn't look like such a witch.
I'm sure your smile would bring out your golden eyes, and vice versa. I admire your work, but frankly, you're a bitch. We should get married?
Go Fuck yourself. I thought maybe you just need a little sugar in your bowl, but you need to take the tampon out. Next time I see you, I hope to be in a position to tell you to go Fuck yourself. You kinda shat on my night. Fuck you and that condescending ass. If he called my daughter"sweetheart" I'd kick him in the balls. Fucking Richard Gere looking Fuck.

Fucking stick bitch, you resemble the broom you probably fly on
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I made the girl I like cry.I was joking around in class about one of her secrets.Like talking indirectly about that topic without properly mentioning it.SUddenly, she snapped and RIP
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>>17249716

So why exactly would you joke about a secret? It's a secret for a reason bro. Seems like she has full reason to be mad about that, I don't blame her.
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>>17249728
i fucked up
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>>17249735

I'd say your best bet is to talk with her in private and tell her the truth; say what you have to say but actually mean it. This may lead into something more if you end up being genuine.
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i had a weird dream about you and I never dreamt of you before. You just kind of walked in and I was like Oh. I was screaming because my rock was not red or orange idk which but it was really weird. You showed up and played tennis and idk why you were playing tennis but I joined then you got a negative point for touching a wall.
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>>17249488
>sjws sjws sjws sjw sjw sjw

Man, I can't believe this fucking place is my respite from the world.
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Hey Y, we've been in a relationship for a month short of two years, but you could still only come up with a few brief interests of mine when I asked you today. It's okay, I know we really don't talk about me much. I know so much about you, but I guess I don't share as much... or I don't feel welcome to share that much. I've seen the way you blankly stare at me when I try to talk about anime. I heard you call marching band, the silly little hobby I dedicated so much of my life to, unintellectual and uninteresting.

But it's okay, I think. I see now that you never really liked me for who I was. You wanted me as a slate you could project your hopes and desires for a girlfriend onto. You text me with emoticons and call me pet names like "baby", even though I've told you that neither of those things are what I like. You criticise me for not being feminine enough and being clumsy - you think I don't move deliberately through crowds, you think I have autism, you think I have ADD.

I really don't have ADD, you know. I just can't stand in the movie section of Best Buy for hours at a time, listening to you read the backs of DVDs and monologue about your favourite films. I don't even like films! But you want a girl who shares your interests, so you talk about them constantly and we go to movies, anyway.

Like I said, I understand. You don't want me. You want a perfect girl, and I'm just the warm body you can push those desires onto. It's sad that it's taken me so long to realise all of this.

My biggest regret is that I broke up with him, someone who truly wanted me for who I was and someone who could accept me with all my flaws, to be with you.
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>>17249773
and please, for the love of everything that is good in this world, clean your apartment. Now that its summer, I can smell its stench from your building's hallway. You have standing water in your sink and your tub was clogged up to the point of overflowing for four months straight. I've never seen so many plastic bags in a single room, either.

I get it that as your girlfriend, I should be cleaning it for you, but at this point, you couldn't pay me enough.

also, I've dated you for two years and I've never seen you wear anything other than a baggy white shirt and baggy khaki pants. Never. Not once. What the fuck.
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I can't stand my girlfriend, she's the most cringiest chick, I've ever seen in my entire life. At first, I dated her because I felt bad for her but now, fuck that. I can't stand her sometimes. Btw guys, do not ever date a person who's balls deep the otaku culture, makes ships of characters, who makes oc's. Plus, we're not even happy together anyways.
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guys this really cute waiter was flirting with me,problem is my two family members were like bees on honey & stuck to me the entire time through the meal

I could only ask her name which she smiled and gave me in the past I've caught her looking at me before even seen her smile while severing others what should I do to interact with her?

I should mention there's a massive age difference between us I'm 29 I'd wager she's late 30s at least

TL:DR milf waiter says funny jokes while you eat with family and motions for your response
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I feel like I just got chewed the fuck out on a forum after I tried to offer a mild opinion on something that was apparently really unpopular. I can't specify but now I feel like shit, all for trying to be more a part of a community. Between this and all the really depressing news clogging up the sites I visit, today is really shaping up to be a sad one.
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I've texted this girl for over a year now but the signals are just so mixed i don't know whether to back off or move forward so it becomes weird times where i text her almost every day to waiting months in between, I asked her out a year ago (worded it terribly) and she said she didn't want a relationship until later. so ive just been texting her on and off ever since, should i try something?
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Why won't you respond? Do you like me or what?For fuck's sake, I'm losing my mind. You text me every day for practically a fucking month... I just want to know what this is.
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I'm too drunk to write it in english so, fuck it.
Não sei mais o que fazer. Já fui atrás de estudar minha personalidade, meus hábitos, tudo. Nada funciona, eu sempre continuo no mesmo lugar, por mais que organize agenda, divida as coisas em metas menores. Nada parece me fazer avançar nessa merda de vida. Nem motivação pra tentar eu não consigo mais ter ao ver que o mundo só piora a cada dia com esse progressismo retardado que quer impor as coisas e censurar todo mundo. Eu estou puto, cada dia mais puto. Frustrado, cada dia mais frustrado, e honestamente não sei quanto tempo mais vou conseguir aguentar.

There you go.
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>>17248935
Give us a body pic with a time stanp, love, or you are trolling with this b-list porn plot.
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There is a ton of shit going on that is incredibly hard to put into words, but basically....

I've always had low self esteem. I'm heavily introverted, live a sedentary and unhealthy lifestyle, and was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid that I do not take medication for.

Ever since graduating university and getting a job, I don't really see my friends much. Our lives are busy. Work friends are nice but I find myself going home to be alone 95% of the time.

I am lazy, and feel like collapsing into my desk chair after work is all I can do. I have genuinely tried to make lifestyle changes to be healthy, such as cooking, working out, and counting calories, but have given them all up after a couple weeks.

To make things worse, the last week or so I have been having constant thoughts and fears of my own mortality and that I am going to die one day. That my parents are going to die. I do not and would never wish for my own death, but the thought of it looming is crippling.

I don't feel like putting the effort into doing many things at all. I feel lonely, but don't want to put the effort into finding a companion. I know there's probably something wrong with me, but day in day out I don't do anything about it. I just go home and lock myself in my apartment.

I have so many things going for me but I feel that I'm wasting away. I shouldn't be like this, should I?
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>>17250355
You should probably see a psychiatrist.
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ANDDDDD I RAAAAAAN
I RAN SOOO FARRR AWAAAYYYY
I JUST RAAAAANNNN
I RAN ALLL NIGHT AND DAYYYYY
[spoiler]I couldn't get away[/spoiler]
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I am deathly afraid of failing at anything I do and showing even the smallest of weaknesses to anyone around me
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I occasionally say things when I'm drunk that I don't actually mean, but I feel sober people would take too seriously.

Example, I run out of smokes, then say I need a hot gf to run and buy me more.

Drunk me sees the humor in saying that, kind of how older women say they need a man.

Then I pass out, wake up sobered up, and think about the ridiculous retarded shit I said.
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>>17250614
I don't speak any differently while drunk and i suspect it's because i'm just honest while sober too.
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Six days without alcohol or nicotine

but still no money for food, medicine or slutty clothes

I feel very unwell
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>>17247992
My brother tried to kill him self yesterday. I don't know what to do
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>>17248979
Apparently you're also an idiot.
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>>17249178
You wont destroy my life any more than I already have. What I need from you is to work with me, inspire and trust.
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>>17247992
I'm determined, compassionate, honest, creative, optimistic, just, enthusiastic, flexible, an amazing nurturer, a great cook, well-read, and knowledgeable. I'm definitely not ugly and only just a little socially awkward. Any man would be so lucky to have me as their partner so why am I somehow just attracted to assholes and married guys?
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>>17250678
>slutty clothing
>broke
>feeling off

Are you a female, and looking to earn some cash?

Cam for me.

If you are interested, take a swimsuit-esque pic for me; your face is not necessary, but a time stamp us. I'll give you an e-mail address.

I pay well, have done this with numerous women from 4chan, and this is a legitimate offer.
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Black person name because I have no idea how to spell your fucking name.


I've always loved you, every time I look at you you've always looked so great. I know this may be quite selfish of me, but I want to be yours. I thought of you being with someone else sickens me. I really hope every time you take the slightest glance at me, that you realize the guy that is willing to do anything for you, is the right person you should be with.

Hue, I just had to get that off my chest.
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life is a worthless thing that can be taken away from you at any moment just because of bad luck. Yet everyone still makes a big fuzz about a famous chick getting shot.
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>>17250821
Her life wasn't worthless though.
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It's always been difficult cutting people off all my life. I treasure my relationships that I make, and its difficult not to care about their well being after knowing them for some time.


but now i stumbled into an awkward fwb relationship and lines are being blurred with more involvement in each others life. It's been going on 5 months now and I'm not sure if my heart can take much more of this.
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straight guy not attracted to males,curious to suck dick (what have traps done to my head?!)
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I will fix my erectile dysfunction, I can do this. I want to have a sex life.
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You confessed to me that you were a loser and then you loved me at 3am. How you appreciate me because I have the biggest tits and give the best head. I didn't believe you for one second.

But jesus how could you play it off as a joke later on in the morning? You don't know this, but that's how my heart was broken last time. I was in pain and then now when I recalled those events. You're so horrible.
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I resign from everything. Why can't you just fucking leave me be?
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>>17250959
show us dem tit-TAYS an' give us sad, ol' wizards jus' a bit'o happiness n' light in our lifes

prease...?
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>>17250705
If you want to help, if you love him, just fucking go to him and spend every fucking free minute you can with him. Try to understand him and just fucking listen. Listen. If you don't know what to do it's most likely non of your fucking, bullshit, useless advices would help anyway. So just listen and try to understand. Chances are he doesn't understand it fully. But you can try to figure it out together.

Jeez. Then again, if you don't care, let him do it again.
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>Watching The Conjuring 2
>woman police constable shows up briefly
>girl scoffs "yeah, I don't think they let women be police back then (~1977)"
>the police officer who investigated and gave the statement in the actual story in 1977 was in fact a woman

What the fuck is wrong with women today? It's like they're their own worst enemies.
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Is it okay to be in a relationship with your cousin?
[spoiler]Because I'm in this situation right now[/spoiler]
[spoiler]I can't help it, we've always been together whenever we meet ever since childhood and there's something just pulling us closer no matter how fucked up it is[/spoiler]
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>>17251073
We agreed to go our own way, but do you realise we need each other in some fucked up sort of way?
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The default response to everything on /adv/ always seems to be "leave her or him/let go/move on" it's all people say to anything, despite the situation or despite not knowing enough about the sitaution.

I was told that a lot. But there was one response from one person that really stood out to me. The only one I remember or that's even worth mentioning.

It was my first girlfriend. They told me "Let go, even if you were to get back together, it wouldn't be the same. I say this from experience."

I couldn't get over that. Couldn't forget it because it made such an impact. I just wanted to say, you were wrong.
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>>17251148
No, it isn't. Love and be loved. That's all that matters. Enjoy it. You two have something special.
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>>17251320
Enjoy having retarded kids.
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>>17251353
I don't want any children
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>be fucked up on several sleep medications
>send some texts to a friend
>take daytime meds
>massively regret it, she's busy and shouldn't have to deal with my insanity right now
>berate myself, study and work out all day as penitence
>beep-buh-beep
goddammit, she should have just not replied
the worst part about having friends is that i always feel like i'm dragging them down with me
guess i gotta go read and reply though

y'all ever get that feeling when you know you've done something wrong somehow and your phone feels like a primed grenade or a lit stick of dynamite in your pocket?
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I'm trying, really hard. I'm not sure how you perceive me and I guess that's what the issue is. I know, I shouldn't care but I do. Especially with you. If it even is you. I don't know what's what or who's who. I'm just going. I do love you. This isn't a cry for help or attention. I just want to be clear. I know most people think I'm transparent. Which I am for the most part. Is it pessimistic thinking? My depression? Or is it just so obvious? Basically, if it's just to keep me from suicide or going "dark side" I don't need the pity. I know you know more than you let on. I'm not afraid to ask questions I just don't know which questions to ask. If you do love me then great because I love you more than anyone else. But if not, fuck it just let me be sad. Anyways, back to life.
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>>17248162
Liltle Jacob?
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>>17248946
Well, you actually did the hardest part. She accepted your fb request, so, as little as it might be, it is a signal that she wouldnt mind knowing you.

So, having said that, talk to her, just be you, relax and if shes the right one for you, things will get interesting. If not then, keep on hunting, theres too many women in this world, never forget that.

Remember, be you. You wont regret it later.
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>>17248964

Good luck bro.
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Fuck. I still have a gut feeling that I will somehow end up going out with the girl I am interested in. Though she already "rejected" me by not responding to when I asked her out.

Though we are still decent friends. We only really text, and she always finds a reason to not hang out even as friends.

I know that logically we won't end up as a couple, but my gut says differently.
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I can talk to girls only if I'm a bit drunk, and when I'm a bit drunk I say gay things.
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>>17249488
I know it is just the entire Western civilization breaking down around me.
But it really bothers me that they try to bring personal opinion into something like science where everything has to be proven.
I am going to finish my essay and I am going to get my credits for this subject and after I get my grade I am going to file a complaint about the subject. Not before because these tolerant teachers have a tendency to fail student who think their classes are wrong or should be taught different.
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>>17249782
How in the fuck do people like that get their dicks sucked?

Fuck dude, I'm just a spicy taking care of his mom and bitches avoid me like the plague. Enjoy your dirty, smelly, hick dick.
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>>17249821
You should've jerk it into a sock, Faggot
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bank acount sut down

great , thakns woopeeee

we'll get that picture done now no problem

eh ?
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I might act like it's no big deal, but I love you.
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>>17250805
Would you be interested in sucking my dick on camera?
Just take a picture of your lips down. Face not necessary, but a timestamp is.
As long as you can swallow, this is a legitimate offer
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>>17247992
I have no self doubt, the first step to success is to not doubt that you can achieve it
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>>17251771
no doubt what so ever, not a shred, I WILL eat this bagel before 2 o clock and I will NOT vomit 100%, I'm not bullshiting you no way no fucking around
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>>17251777
no doubt about it baby no fucking doubt no fucking bull shit my stomach will not contract, there is space and it is humanly possible
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I'm crushing hard for a young one. AOC is on my side. My knob is telling me yes. My mind is telling me not much.
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I request that you do something we both know would hurt me, but for my own good. M, show that you've moved on and have a crush, or more, on someone else. Show it, so that I'm forced to let go of the sliver of hope I have in the back of my mind that gives me some joy before it proceeds to hurt. Get it over with, and show that my fears are correct, so that I can feel that pain for a while and at least prevent any more false hope. Go ahead, M, even if you'll never read this. Show it so I can kill the false hope.

You aren't in the wrong for moving on, I've always said that and always will. The only one in the wrong is me for ending it. Just hurry up and kill the false hope and wish that I have
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Sent D a long-ass monologue with like 15 messages and probably 2000 chars+.
We're friends now. Real friends.
Felt goddamn good.
I feel bad for feeling good though, she's struggling with some issues and i badly, deeply, want to help somehow since i've been there.
To hell and fucking back.
And I don't want to see anyone else go down that road.
At least not alone.
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I'm sick of my job. I'm sick of my fence sitting or worse "friends". I'm sick of my father who always expects the truth from others but will lie/omit truth for years on end. I'm sick of this world and am nothing but bewildered that no one sees it for the dystopia I do. I'm sick of people who are actually stupid as hell but have an ego that tells them that their feces don't stink. I'm sick of my obsessive ex and all her lies that she makes truths because if I'm going to be blamed for something than I might as well do it. I haven't been checking any of her social media but i saw her pop up as viewing my profile on one of mine. Kinda funny coming from a person who has exclaimed she "wants nothing to do with me". Stupid cunt. Damned if I do, Damned if I don't. I should have never came back to this shit hole.

I ain't gonna kill myself, at least not before I take the lot of you soul sucking asshole with me.
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Calm down, your obsessive ex doesn't give two shits about you and only checks your profile to laugh at your pathetic wagecuck life.
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My first serious relationship ended 3 months ago. She straight up told me she didn't have feelings for me anymore, but didn't want to break up. After about a month of this torture I break up with her and all she could say was "I'm not 100% against breaking up" and "I no longer have romantic feelings for you" I just couldn't take it. She was my first love, but she never loved me back and never will.

We still text every now and then and it's starting to hurt less and less, but she just told me she has been dating a new guy. I don't want to get back together or anything, but this is breaking my heart all over again. I'm just trying to play it cool and be happy for her and it's killing me.
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>>17252196
Funny you only focused on that part.

You must be her then.
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>>17252196
Also, if she doesn't give 2 shits then why is she obsessed?

I've come to understand that almost anything that spews out of her mouth is just projection on her own part, or should I say yours.
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You are such a fucking joke of a human being.
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You gonna go tell my dad now you fucking child?
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>>17251148
Im with you anon. My cousin is a bit younger than me which makes it even worse, but god I want her so badly.

It helps that she's adopted, so there's no biological concerns, only ethical/legal ones... She's not interested though. I know more than enough to know that much.
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>>17252205
I've had TWO girls do this to me.
Women are bitches, just realize that and that she wasnt worth your time or emotions because she wasnt interested in them in the first place.
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I 30. Truck driver. Have kids and a wife. I want out... I want to leave. Dont want to be stuck. Broke... Get paid weekly but she manages the money....... <_<. Go fuck yourself. I dont give a fuck. There how meny fucking people living there life just fine without you or a fuxking wife to tell them what to do... I think i might fuxking kill myself.
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>>17252442
Thats sad you want to abandon your family. Is it because you feel like you are poor?
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>cheated on in both long term relationships
>insecure with low self esteem, but decent in looks, stay in shape
>easygoing personality, surprisingly not clingy or paranoid despite being cheated on
>have different hobbies, lots of disposable income
>almost capped out on vacation hours at work, need to take time off soon

Just booked a vacation to L.A. over the 4th of July weekend and am going to party it out with good friends so I get the shitty sadness out of my system.

After coming back I may take more time off, who knows. What I really want to do is just step up getting in shape to a whole new level and boost my physical attractiveness and confidence. Like i want to do Insanity workout everyday on top of lifting 3-4 times a week, or something similar just to keep my mind distracted from it all. After I get to that point where i am ripped and in the greatest shape ive ever been, I'll pray to God that things will work out for me and I can turn it all around.

If not, next I'll just do my best to meet and lead a bunch of women on to the point where I can fuck them and throw them away afterwards so I can feel better about myself. I have had a shitty mental attitude about everything for a while, but I can easily fake it to everyone else that I'm the shit and everything is fine. If I don't break any hearts and minds of women, then I didn't do my job.

This sounds sociopathic but I'm at the point where I'm too tired to deal with other people as equals anymore, I've been chewed up and left to dry a bit too much and I have fucking had it. Godspeed on my path to self destruction.
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>>17252418
I don't understand it either
Like she's had a boyfriend before, but every time we get together it's like we're married or some shit
My entire body overheats thinking about it, it's the strangest feeling I've ever felt
Like I've been in love before, but this is like some next-level shit
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>>17252325
>17252325
ok fat fuck
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I am fresh out of high school Adam really looking to get out of the house as soon as possible because I need my privacy otherwise I sacrifice alot of time I could be spending on vidya. So whY would like to know and hear from some of you is how long does it take the average Joe to become independent? Any of you got some tips or experiences with this. Keep in mind I have never worked but I am applying for jobs atm and am only now aiming to get a drivers license.
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>>17252102
dump it all man. if it's not helping you or progressing your life, fucking cut that cancer out.

list your problems out, find 3 solutions for each and move toward solutions every single day.

fuck killing yourself. fuck spending the energy to take those already nosediving with you, you'll only end up going down with them as you get entangled with their path.
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>>17251310
>The default response to everything on /adv/ always seems to be "leave her or him/let go/move on" it's all people say to anything, despite the situation or despite not knowing enough about the sitaution.

The default problem on /adv/ice always seems to be "I'm not happy in my relationship and I've already tried to resolve it reasonably".

There are only three ways to solve it then;
>Be unhappy and learn to live with it.
>Put a gun to the SOs head and force them to make changes in the relationship that'd make you happy.
>Accept that it aint gonna work out and leave.

I like to think /adv/ice is giving you the most reasonable of those options.

>despite the situation or despite not knowing enough about the sitaution.

We like to assume that all obvious points, such as talking it out, compromising or counselling have been suggested or attempted by the advisee. If that's not the case, why are you on /adv/ice instead of actually fixing your relationshit?

>I couldn't get over that. Couldn't forget it because it made such an impact. I just wanted to say, you were wrong.

Cool, so your relationshits going good. Great.
A little early to say "you're wrong" though.
Then again, one way or another, ALL relationshits end.

Tell you what, if you're still with her a decade from now, or shit, even a year from now, post in on here. give us a yearly reminder "you're wrong".
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*laughs uncontrollably internally*

I can't even describe. and if I did I'd just sound pretentious, so I'll say nothing and smile.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H854SpiDq34

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ee0395Q4GZQ
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I hate you i hate you so fucking much
Why aren't you attracted to me you fuck
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hi dad, am i married to your wife or are you??
this fucking woman starts all these projects and we end up having to finish them
her kids coming over and she wants the house cleaned for them? she just fucking leaves and shops for "groceries" for like 4 hours straight while i gotta sweep, mop, put laundry away, vacuum, clean bathrooms etc
she wants to paint the fence? na, i gotta stand out there in 95F weather and paint it
she wants some bedframe and a mattress upstairs? who gotta move all that shit upstairs? dad and me
then she makes up all these fake ass problems like "what are we gonna do with all the clothes in that room on the floor :((" what the fuck do u think? we are gonna pick them up and put them away.
nigga i feel like cinderella
why do some women think being useless is cute? who the fuck is u? do something with ur life. get a hobby.
u think crying cuz u gotta lift something that's barely heavy is cute? it isn't. learn how to not be a pussy bitch. it's annoying i hate seeing women always needing a man to hold their hand like im not a feminist or anything but its fucking pathetic like why do u enjoy being useless? what are u gonna do when ur single and all alone and there isn't any guy to baby ur weak ass? are u just gonna sit there in ur sundress and cry about imaginary issues??? stop
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I spent my whole life surrounded by people telling me they are going to do things for me and "help" me with certain things, but never do. Yet I believe them every time somebody promises something to me.
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>>17252736
are you helping yourself?
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You fucked up my whole mind. I don't even want to think about you anymore, but I know that my insecurities in any relationship I make are from you. I can't get close to a girl without thinking she'll run around on me like you did. Treat me like shit like you did. You always were a selfish cunt.
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I might start smoking cigarettes
I don't want to but it's so easy to
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I want something genuine. I've spent many years searching for it and I will probably spent the rest of my life trying to fulfil that goal.
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>>17252376
I think he gives less of a shit than I do
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>>17251148
Go for it! Genuine love is only what matters here - fuck the society and their retarded opinion.
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My OCD is killing me.
These intrusive thoughts are the worst!
It's slowly getting better though.
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EVERY ART FORM IS SUBJECTIVE
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I've met a femdom girl at my age (22 she's 20) and I'm loving it. She came last night over the phone.
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>>17252771
As much as I can. I have a shitty "wagecuck" job. I live in my own and pay for everything, but my phone. A few times I had to have my dad help me with my car. Which is a beat up PoS. I've offerent to pay for the repairs.
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ugh
ugh
ugh
UGH
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>>17248134
>>>/pol/ my brother
it is wear dreams cum true
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>>17252559
Hahaha haha!

You weigh about the same as I do, and as I recall your then one who was so insecure about their weight they would have many episodes where they broke down in tears exclaiming that they were fat.

So yup, more projection on your part.
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>>17250724
Yeah, it's sad seeing this guy trying to be a cosmic superpower and failing miserably. I used to be like that, too, but then I started believing in myself and realized that I deserve better than being the universe's foil (which is an unrealistic concept in the first place).
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>>17252848
What's your IQ? 12?
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I'm finally getting over you and it fucking feels great.
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>>17247992
Guys, I suck at making friends. I'm too shy and self conscious to engage in any of your discussions, and I've lived a very unfulfilled childhood. I never got around to being expressive for so many reasons that they don't matter anymore.
Because of all this I'm very reserved and the complete opposite of social.
I'm clumsy and akward when it comes down to carrying out conversation, and it's to the point where I feel like I can't connect with people that I've know since childhood.

I want to get better. I'm trying to find my equilibrium when it comes to seeing people. Please don't mind my awkwardness so much, it makes getting better difficult especially when I'm so insecure and lacking in self confidence.

Also please tell me when I'm being weird. I'm not always aware of that fact.

Also why am I ranting like this? Doing this won't help at all. Yay self defeating habits!

I guess I might as well continue since I haven't reached character limit and I'm bored as hell.(and also want to not give in to cravings for smokes)

I wonder who'll read this far into my post. If they can relate to what I'm typing at all.
While I'm here I might as well pretend that I'm telling people this. I'm bisexual, okay? Hate people who like dick all you want. I'm happy loving boys and girls equally. I find them attractive, and you'll never understand why that is, because you've filled your own lives with hatred towards people over small things that are literally inconsequential to your mortality.

Also coming off my chest is my love for learning things that are meaningless. I love trivia. I love discussing what the ideal dinosaur is, and who's the most generous person based on their morality, and I fucking love talking about sex. Even if it makes me a little uncomfortable I really enjoy learning about the different fantasies and fetish people have.

God. I've got a lot of baggage. :/
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>>17253028
the fuck are you talking about? lol like, we've gone from some dude saying that someone elses hate makes him stronger (and mispelling that, dunno how) to you trying to say he's trying to be a cosmic superpower? and talking about how believing in yourself means that you deserve better than enhancing the universe around you? not to mention, being the universe's foil is completely subjective. if that's what you're trying to be and i consider the universe to be beautiful and you are trying to enhance that by being contradictory then you have to be shit. or vice versa. of course it's an unrealistic concept.

this thread sometimes.
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Why would I ever have liked you in the first place if this is how you act?
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man you've got straight up stormtrooper level aim.
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>>17252648
>I like to think /adv/ice is giving you the most reasonable of those options.
No because those are not often the options. A lot of time I find people telling them to leave for no fucking reason at all. For the dumbest little inconvenience.

Let me correct you, actually.

"There is a problem in my relationship. I don't like it, I want it gone" So is then one option for /adv/ people:
>The relationship isn't perfect? Leave
That's really what it comes down to. People see that there is a problem or something wrong, and they tell them to leave. It's very often stupid advice with such a drastic course of action that is uneeded.
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>>17247992
I know this guy who could be a potential friend. He also said that video games are supposed to be fun and not overwhelming, which I'd never considered before.

But JOVE BEHOLD, he seems to be just like the rest of those senseless shitheads who will obsess over anything under the pretense of it being a joke (lel).

Specifically he was making a joke about a woman that we both know when I asked about her boyfriend. I met her boyfriend once in school before they got together: I don't know him too much but I do have respect for his occupation as an African American minister.

But this guy, this VILLAIN was taking this lady's promiscuity (which he had invented) as a FUCKING JOKE in order to generate a discomfort and an abundance of some fake crap called "lulz".

I personally am asexual but not aromantic, and sexuality in general really creeps me the fuck out. Honestly, my sexual discomfort was probably due to my only experience with the matter generated as some kind of reactionary bullshit that my guardians allowed to foster by believing that I'd learn on my own or some garbage, and that essentially allowed me to be terrified of the youth culture that absolutely ESPOUSES this nonsense as the means for generating a mere joke in the first place! My sexuality (or lack thereof) is a living tool! I'm a cyborg, and my genitals are a mechanical process invented by mankind!
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Every fucking time.

Huge page-long messages back and forth for days, I think I'm making a real connection.

And then they just ghost me. Disappear, without a trace.

I don't know what's real anymore, I just want connection, I just want love, is that too much to fucking ask?
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>>17252648
>why are you on /adv/ice instead of actually fixing your relationshit?
Are you joking? Maybe because they know there's a fix but don't know what it is? Why the fuck would anyone come here when they've tried everything and have no other options JUST to hear someone tell them to leave? That's not fucking advice. You almost literally just said that people are supposed to come here when there's no other option other than leaving for people to hear that they should leave. No. They come here for help on a matter they don't know how to deal with. The problem is that the "answer" always seems to be "ditch it". That's ridiculous.

>A little early to say "you're wrong" though.
I think it is. Anon was claiming that the feelings you had before that you want back wouldn't be there. Regardless of whether it works or not, anon was wrong because they are still there.

>give us a yearly reminder "you're wrong".
How about this: assuming you actually stick around these threads, I promise I'll even come by and post if it actually doesn't last. A year? Fuck, yeah, I'll do that. I've made a yearly promise on another part of 4chan and followed through with it. I'll do it here too. I know I'll stick around because these threads have helped me tremendously in venting/getting better and just hearing out/helping with other peoples' situations.
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>>17253061
Educate me about your euphemism, is stormtroopers aim good or bad?

In the movies they seem to be bad shots, probably because of those helmets.
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>>17253055
You are mostly spot-on my friend. Honestly my behaviors in the past (IRL) were mostly a response to my situation. I believed that if the universe (now I realize that it's just mainstream society) was garbage, then by being a bigger piece of shit I could actually change society for the better at the expense of throwing my life away by not doing anything at all with it. As a secondary goal, I could also get Jove to kill himself in order to stop this BS, if you ascribe to the philosophy of 'pantheism', as in, Jove is everything, and thus his death would provoke the end of all things. However, after reading this (Googe --> 90th base) later, I realized that if Jove does exist, then he would simply put an end to the world and then create a new one. Even then, it would have to be something as bad as described in the page above.
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>>17253096
In this boat as well. They make you feel special, like you couldn't be replaced, then suddenly they just...go.
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>>17253120
It's really fucking with my head man. I don't think I can do this anymore, I'm getting borderline suicidal
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I wish my friends would invite me to stuff. I don't mean to be that guy but I feel like it's because I'm their only black friend. Even the ones I consider the tiniest bit close only talk to me when we are at the same place like class. I wish some new people would enter my life. I feel like I say the wrong thing all the time but I'm starting to let go and not give any fucks. I cannot wait until I give absolutely none.
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> left ex gf 3 weeks ago
> see her again at a small festival
> holy shit shes beautiful
> think about her all evening
> see each other 3-4 times
> texts me and asks if i wanna talk
> meet her at picnic table
> we make out
> end up having sex with her 3 times in my car
> she sleeps in my arms from 3 to 5
>she already had another man in her life and didnt tell me
>i dont give a fuck, was the best sex we both had in our entire lives
>get breakfast at some restaurant
>we both make clear that whats between us is only physical

We ended up renting a motel room 1 hour away from the village we live in. We fucked a 4th time and passed the whole day together. I dont even know what to do with her anymore desu brehs
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I like my alone time, I do, but lately, it gets kind of old. Everyone around me is in a relationship of some sort and I feel like I just missed the boat. The thing is, I have my own things I'm focusing on. I know a relationship isn't something you can force, nor should you, but man, sometimes being alone sucks. I don't know what to do really. People say "oh, go out and meet people." I'm not social, I'm pretty damn introverted, and the only place I go to besides the store is to work.

I'm not saying I necessarily need a relationship, but sometimes I find myself wondering if it would be good for me. I have these constant inner battles. Part of me is scared of commitment and being tied down, the other parts wants to experience the joys of being with someone. I feel so conflicted.
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My cousin just passed and, it's really upsetting me. I feel something akin to survivor's guilt. I love you, Kelly!
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I feel actual heartbreak. This time I'm sure of it.

I started smoking again.
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>>17253161
Hmm.. Your best medicine is to go out and meet people. Doesn't matter how you meet them or what becomes of your encounters.
Just be that person who goes out for walks and talks to strangers.

Sounds like pathetic advice if you don't apply it. The reason for applying it will be clear after the first few times you do this.
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I'm erasing you and I'm happy!! THIS IS WHAT YOU WANTED
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>>17253199

I wouldn't even know where to go out to and just talk to people. I stumble over my words so I'd feel like an idiot.
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>>17247992
I'm not doing too well. I really need to cut my throat open soon.
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>>17253193
>>17253215
you alright anon?
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>>17253149
Wait so why did she cheat on the guy? Not satisfied or just slutty? Do you not care that you just cucked a guy? Don't you have empathy at all?

Just curious.
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>>17253217
Cities. Ones with people from around the world.
Usually city folk are nice to people. As long as you're polite and behaved. (which isn't a hard thing to do)

The focus is small talk, and not full on conversation. Lie if you don't have anything to break the ice with. You're not making friends or lining up potential partners here, you're just engaging in small talk.

I cheat sometimes and ask people for a lighter for my smoke. Then I usually ask them if they're from around the area and that I'm not from here. I ask questions about the city, like where are some good clubs, or libraries, or theatres, or something else that's in my interests(books, movies, coffee, etc).

If I'm lucky I'll encounter another smoker and we'll chat about the common struggle with quitting, and move that discussion over slowly by talking about triggers, then onto how the workplace makes quitting an ordeal, and so on. I think you get the point.

Remember that by doing this with strangers it becomes easier, because you will likely never see those people again.


I'm ranting here, but only because I want to get key points across, like using small talk to relate with people(smoking and work struggles, possible common interests, keeping the small talk dynamic and innocuous.
(I just learned the word innocuous today and I'm already using it!(irrelevant I know, I ain't perfect either))

Lastly, just chit chat about things that might interest you and the other person too. Things like the city, or travelling tips.

(this is why travelling builds character)
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How the fuck do you text with people

like how do you avoid getting short cold responses

I can do it IRL but jesus christ why is everyone such an asshole

even my friends do it
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>Not satisfied or just slutty?
She isnt satisfied with the other guy, she literally told me that im twice his size, which makes me think shes also being slutty.


>Do you not care that you just cucked a guy? Don't you have empathy at all?
She tried to cheat on me with that guy.
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>>17253255
Was meant for >>17253244
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>>17253130
Yeah man, same here. I guess it's just some chicks' personalities. Take what they can get at an expense then move on.
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>>17253255
Dude coming from someone who experienced this.....she is playing both of you. Don't play her game. literally drop her. Heck I would warn the other guy as well and then let him decide what he wants to do.

I know you won't believe me because she might be your oneitis, but SHE HAS ISSUES.
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>I'm 26
>No job
>Still at home
>Don't want to work since all jobs seem to be shit
>Wasted money going to school for a career that I've had no luck finding work in since 2011 and I did it to please my parents by going to college in all honesty
>Owe $36,000 in student loans
>Still feel not fully over my ex from 2008
>Want a gf but what woman will want to date 26 year old that still lives at home with no job no money that's average looking at best :(
>Hair is slowly thinning out
>Don't want to date women that have had lots of sex due high chance of STDs and cheating so I would prefer a virgin women...if they even exist anymore
>Have few friends and not sure if they're true friends since only 2 people know who I really am and still talk to me but even they seem to be getting distant from me
>Haven't had real sexual contact with a woman since 2008
>Feels like I'm slowly getting more introverted everyday that goes by
>Feel lonely and sexually frustrated half the time
>Feel like nothing in my life is going to improve

I really don't know what to do /adv/
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>>17253265
I told him because i saw her like a week ago, would have had sex and all but she was in her period. He told her that i had a fucking problem and asked her to cut contact with me. She did for a while but couldnt resist when she saw me at the festival. Also im not trying to get her back, just want sex desu
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>>17253254
Welcome to 2016 where people are become more anti-social by the day since text is become the preferred method of communication sadly.
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i'm scared he'll kill himself if i leave, but his depression is rubbing off on me and i don't know how much longer i can put up with it
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Is it normal to get anxious whenever you do something you expect to enjoy? I have this a lot now.
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>>17253254
>How the fuck do you text with people
>like how do you avoid getting short cold responses
This, holy shit.
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This is the best place to put it I guess

So about a month ago I had a dream that I was skyping with this guy and we were laughing and smiling and you could tell there was chemistry.

Two weeks after I had that dream I meet a guy on here and we talk for hours on voice chat.

Well when we finally cam I recognize him but can't place in until a bit later when I realize he's the guy in my dream. I mean I had really hard deja vu.

He also lives half way across the globe so I couldn't have seen him before. I'm really starting to fall hard for him since I'm an r9k Autist and I don't want to mess this up. Could he be my soulmate?
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Am I really unimportant to you?

Why do I treat you the way I want to be treated?
Why don't I treat you like you treat me?
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I think almost all my coworkers use this website.
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So basically i really loved this girl and i was with her for a while probably 3 months on and off but the last time she just broke my heart and i was devastated. Since then she and i stopped talking completely. I tried talking to her once but she didnt respond kindly. She isnt really super pretty and she isnt really smart there is just something about her... The problem is i dont care about her at all, I dont want to talk to her, i dont want to be with her but (this is the part i need advice about) every time i see her or think of her i get a huge pang of sadness and guilt and it just feels horrible. It happens like twice a day. I would never get back with her and i could care less about her i just dont get why i feel this way every time i think of her.
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>>17251889
boy or girl?
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>>17253849
Boy
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>>17251668
it's okay, i did the same thing with a guy i liked. i get drunk and came across as totally unfeminine. i knew nothing could've happened anyway but i was happy to be in the friendzone, that didn't work out either, because guys orbit, they don't have girl friends
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I think about it almost every day. In the past 4 years I've had maybe 2 days a month where it doesn't go through my head. I just feel overwhelmed by so much and that I'm a piece of shit. I'm glad my parents never had a gun in the house. But my sisters friend left his here not too long ago.
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>>17253593
I know the feels dude
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>>17249773
You sound like a horrible person and I hope you never find happiness.
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>>17253096
I'm scared my gf will do this to me one day. We've only been together for a month so it's entirely possible.
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I am severely depressed inside, I feel misty empty and spend most of my days trying to distract myself from that fact. I can't keep distracting myself forever though, and the depression keeps getting worse. Most of my happiness is faked
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I just want to starve to death. It seems passive enough.
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i feel like this world is just not for someone like me, that doesn't mean i think this world is bad, this world is actually kinda nice even with all the problems it has, there are a lot of things that people can enjoy,and i have really tried to go out and enjoy those thing, while i can see why people enjoy them, they never make me feel alive, in the best case scenario they manage to make me smile a little, then i tried to look at life from another perspective, and i asked myself "what things do people usually want to have?"and the mayority of the thing that i want do not fit there, i don't want money , fame power or any material object,,what i really want in my life is adventure, freedom to go to whatever place i want without restrictions conditions or fear, and also i always feel the need to use my energy to fight or punch things, i want to find someone that is worth protecting
i also want friends that sare the feelings i have so we could fight and have adventures together

i just really wish i could live in a world that lets me accomplish all these strange dreams i have about adventures exploring unkown places,and fighting monsters or enemies, even if it is dangerous and i die trying, a day living like that wold make me feel more alive than all the years i have lived here

my life is not bad , i can't complain, i have even started writing and drawing a lot of the things that pop up in my imagination, but it just doesn't make me feel alive, i tried to see if maybe getting into online games would help but they don't feel at all like the real thing, sometimes movies and cartoons make me feel happy and envious at the same time because i see the characters doing all the things that i'll probably never be able to do

sorry i know this can be considered very autistic but i just had to get it off my chest
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>>17254097
I feel the exact same way.
And no it doesn't sound autistic, many men feel and have felt this way.
We just aren't cut out for the daily grind.
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>>17254097
>>17254122
ADVENTURE!? BAH! don't you want the latest and greatest Iphone? but remember to start saving for the next one! that one will suck your dick too! what! you don't want that?! YOU DEVIANT HEATHEN MAY YOU BE OSTRACIZED FOREVER *SCREECHING NOISES*

yeah idk man, there's not a whole lot of adventure to be had. wish nasa would hurry the fuck up with that warp drive they've been testing on a micro scale. I saw the readout, it fucking works, scale that bitch up, I'll test it. scale up those quantum thrusters as well, put em in a semi circle, put em on a saucer body, give me a millenium falcon. LETS GO PEOPLE I'M BORED AS FUCK WITH YOUR SAFETY SHIT.

just gonna have to wait till the next scientific explosion in the field of space travel anons.
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Im still dying to message you even though i shouldn't. Its been 2 months. Why am i still pathetically depressing over you. I just feel like you moved on without me even though i was the one who let you go. Im still hurting and i still love you.
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>>17253268
>>17253268

>>Don't want to date women ....
No you don't... I just finished my dating marathon and I have to say...they are cruel, heartless and superficial monsters
>"wow anon, you are super sweet, romantic, a family person and so lovely...but.....
>you don't have blond hairs and blue eyes, that's a deal breaker for me. bye-bye"
>i only want to date men who are 2m tall, you're only 1,95m, sorry."
>oh my god, i can totally imagine us marrying tomorrow!" cuts off all contact. a week later "haha, sorry anon, but i met such a hot guy in a bar haha"
>you had only sex with one girl before, but i like rape-role play. sorry, i will have to go for someone who is more experienced"
>you totally don't fit in my lifestyle right now, i want to travel around the world and you can't pay me that trip. but i will come back to you in 2 years!"
>you're too slim and im too fat for you (only 7kg "overweight"), i don't want to have a relationship with you because i think you will cheat on me"
>basically, i only do this to piss my ex-off, but i actually want to get together with him again. so be prepared that i can break up with you at any moment"
>you don't want to convert to my religion/sect/etc."
>wow,.. you have a dog! i can't because im a cat person, i don't date people with dogs."
>you don't vote for the same party as i do - so you're a fucking racist and nazi!"
plus a few extras everyone knows .. aka. "you earn less than 50.000€ a month? sorry, but i don't date poor people" etc.

just
fucking
kill
me

they can't love

i give up on the female gender, fuck that shit
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>>17254143

why are you mad ahaha, you dodged a bullet on those bitches.
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>>17254143

why are you mad ahaha, you dodged a bullet on those bitches, they sound like insecure unstable little girls.
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>>17252595
Best adv I've read here
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>>17254159
because there is not a single normal girl out there
only crazy bitches
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So my husband saw that stupid tendies meme and decided he wanted to give me good wife points because i'm a SAHM.

He conveniently made it so that i would have to give him a blowjob to get enough points to earn myself a strong beer. I told him that's prostitution and I won't stand for it. He wouldn't back down. I think it's that filthy reddit he's been going to. Turning my beloved beta doormat husband into some kind of "red pilled" (aka instruction manual for being the optimal manchild) mutant wannabe quasi-alpha.

But I don't know guys. I really want that beer.
Should I whore myself for beer on the point system?
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>>17254127
I've been trying to message you...but I'm blocked. Hate myself for never telling you how I feel. Was sad you kept me blocked after we started getting close again. Two months since we said bye. I thought it was just us parting ways till next time as usual.
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Having sex makes me sad, anxious, and uneasy.
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I wish I could get laid
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I've squandered my youth. I'm 24. I was a loser in high school, college, got bullied in both and never really had the experience of having a group of friends that respected me and that I felt connected with. I feel down about it. I dropped out of college and got addicted to heroin and then cleaned up. I'm a loser through and through and I have nothing but sorrow as youthful memories.
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I cheated on my wife with an extremely hot woman sex with her is awesome I felt alive again. I don't know what to do ?
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Knowing that you are seriously seeing someone has... changed things for me. I am not going to be able to do this, not any longer, as I cannot be that man, the one that waits.

I wonder if all of those years together mattered. I wonder if we share the same memories. I wonder if we share this connection. If so, could it truly have come to this?

Perhaps I should take a chance on one of the women that has entered my life; I never keep them around long, but something needs to change. At the least, maybe I can lie to myself, and not think of what could be.
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all the memories are awesome but I feel alive again I felt desire and lust things that my wife cannot give me
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I don't know why shit I thought I spent enough time worrying about and I thought I got over are now coming back to make me feel awful.
Lately I've been thinking of self harm a lot, but I dont think I could do it because of her. We've always been there for each other and I know I've stopped her from hurting herself, or worse, so I can't let her down now.
Our relationship is fine, and it's probably just because we're both busy with exams, and me feeling like this, but lately it's been hard to find the time to have a good conversation, especially about how I'm feeling. I love her more than ever, but I feel like communication has broken down a little bit lately, again likely just because of exams, but it sucks. I hope it gets better in a weeks time when exams are done. We used to talk about personal stuff every night, even before we started dating, but now you go to sleep early because you're burnt out from studying. I'm a bit of a night owl, so I just feel lonely at night, and think too much. I just want the chance to sit down and talk to each other.
Admittedly, partly I'm worried about how you react when I'm upset. It's not really optimal, and I feel like sometimes it just makes me feel bad when I open up or am honest to you. Again, that's likely just in my head.

My home life is kinda shit at the moment too, and I'm sick of having to hold out for the future when I get the degree and get a job and can move out, and move in with her. I've been having to deal with being unhappy at home and waiting till I can leave for over 18 years now.
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>>17254457
Do you know why?

I'm in the same boat kinda, references to sexual things online and in media makes me feel anxious. Especially if my friends talk about it.
I have a steady relationship, which includes sex. So it's not like i'm insecure about my own experience.
>>17254701
Move on from your wife. I cheated on my ex with my current girlfriend (we were kind of on a break anyway, and the relationship was crumbling), and I'm so much happier with her. The fact you cheated on her means that it was never going to work.
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>>17254701
keep having sex with her?
i sure wish my husband would cheat so i could rightfully divorce him and get alimony bux
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>>17254823
let me amend that
i sure wish my husband would cheat so i could not only rightfully divorce him and get wifebux
but so i could also rightfully fuck his friend
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>>17253951
I'm ready to just kms honestly. This happens every time.
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