So...I need some advice...I have a problem with hos, escorts, prostitutes whatever you want to call them. I wasn't always this bad, but I now work a 70-100 hour job, all my friends have moved to other states, my family is distant, and I don't feel like, outside of work, I have anything. So every weekend I invite hos over and either have them spend the night, fuck them, or just watch netflix. It's not even sex driven...I'm just lonely.
I've been on dates with regular girls and they've all ended horribly, when they don't end bad, girls get mad at how much I work, and sometimes I can't even make it to the date. I workout regularly, I always get complimented on my smile and personality, and I'm generally trying to be a better person,( I'm not handsome, but I'm not ugly either, I normally get called cute so I believe I'm pretty average) but it seems all personal relationships are running away from me. I don't know what I can do, and working less is not an option. So I spend like 1k a month on women who care nothing about me... at the very least I want to stop spending so much money on people who don't give af about me.
tl'dr: Lonely and need to save money.
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Why do you work so much if it requires you to be away from your family, and generally has destroyed your social life completely? As it sounds, you don't even make THAT much money to make up for it? Why is your work/career so important to you that you out it above everything else? What do you want to achieve by that? Getting respect? What for? Impressing girls? Why? To lock down a good one? How has that worked out so far? Have you taken into consideration that girls might actually not be THAT superficial and choose a guy who they can spend time with over one with a perfect career and lots of money?
>>17247044
>70-100 hour job
No sorry, you will have to look for a job where you don't get treated as a slave. Working less should be your priority right now.
Would you rather be rich, or happy?
I mak a good bit of money, it's just that I wanted to work for a maximum of 5-years before I started working at my own business and the job I have now is the only one I know of where I can make the money to support that dream. But that's thrown to shit if I spend a quarter of it on hoes.
>>17247052
But you're right. The longer I work the more I realize I would rather have one really good one than realize my ambitions, but those ambitions are pretty important, so idk I'm here for advice.
>>17247053
Why can't I have both?
>>17247090
>Why can't I have both?
Right now you can't as they are coming to odds. If being rich drains you from your life, where's your happiness?
>>17247090
How old are you and what is the goalyou want to achieve?
You can have both. But i think in order to really be happy, the better way of action is to have a good social life to build your success up on. You know, a good partner, having your back takes LOADS off from the strenuous journey of trying and failing till you actually make it
>>17247101
You're right..., but I still can't see quitting my job as an option...because then what?
>>17247107
I'm turning 24 soon. I've really wanted to own a successful start up for as long as I can remember, maybe not be the next steve jobs or mark zuckerburg but at least respectably successful, and it seems there is an age requirement where after 30 no one takes you seriously. So I need some money to start up my start up.
>>17247131
>because then what?
Get a job that pays less but lets you have a life.
A friend of mine got a degree as a pharmaceutical chemist and works in a drugstore. He's told me how the work schedule is basically killing him (he only has 2 free saturdays every month and works long shifts) and how he'd rather be working in a job that pays less but lets him have a life.
You should do the same.
You have to choose between working a ton and being able to have a normal social life. I was friends with this psych student who did her undergrad thesis whatever on prostitution, and she ended up becoming one because she got exposed to the culture and figured she could make a ton of money. Her customers were almost always the same as you, OP, but most were much older. They all were very wealthy, had awesome jobs, and some were even mildly famous in their industries. But each and every one of them was a lonely bastard. Even if they were married, they worked so often that they felt awkward around their families and/or didn't get along. Most were just straight-up lone wolf types like how you sound.
So, if you don't want this to continue the rest of your life, make a change. You'll have to sacrifice the promises of a grand career, but you could very well end up with something you value much more. There's a reason the majority of people prioritize family over working a ton to get ahead.
