what's the best way to accomplish this?
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0t2soafg0af
craigslist
also hi i remember you
>>17232675
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0drHW2qplkk
>>17232681
hi. what do you remember about me? hopefully nothing bad
It's basically impossible OP, because having a bf requires you being able to talk to him and to get to know him.
So, you crave closeness but are too afraid?
>>17232667
omegle, though you'll still have to talk to someone.
>>17232697
>So, you crave closeness but are too afraid?
yeah pretty much. people frighten me.
>>17232683
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0vcXN7kLakU
Hey 5'6 bitch get at my dick
>>17232704
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0yLRiqu4XwJ
>>17232685
you made a thread a while ago and it was kind of confusing
>>17232702
Okay that's definitely an issue. I know you want to get a boyfriend too badly, but you should at least be able to have a friend. You're not going to make much progress otherwise. If people frighten you, how do you expect to cope with the level of closeness a boyfriend would demand? I mean if I was yours I'd demand a lot of closeness.
>>17232715
i'm really good at confusing threads. idk why you guys reply to these ones instead of like my super serious thread about my brother
>>17232585
>>17232714
http://vocaroo.com/i/s13wv4ECXT1J
>>17232724
Personally, because I've got no experience on that sort of issues, hence why I cannot give a word of advice.
>>17232724
yeah the board's kinda getting shitted up recently, most questions aren't really being paid much attention to unless they're ironic or they relate to sex
>>17232721
i'm fine with closeness once we get there. it's the initial part that seems impossible.
>>17232726
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0O60i0PnfnR
>>17232733
makes sense.
>>17232738
>it's the initial part that seems impossible.
I know what you're feeling... Maybe approaching people is scary as hell - and yes, it is.
Try getting to places where you will inevitably talk to someone. College, work, whatever. You will meet people this way and get forced to talk while keeping a safe distance. You can approach from there.
Protip: Internet feels very safe, but it's unfulfilling.
>>17232667
how old are you fampai?
>>17232749
i've been able to talk to people at work and kinda make friends with coworkers. but none of them are really bf material, at least not for me. mostly because they're kids and already in relationships. school is hard. the talking to people part. my therapist said that even if i couldn't say anything to them at first i might eventually but honestly it never really happens. like i can talk to lab partners barely every once in a while but mostly i sit quietly and hate myself.
extreme social anxiety is really blah to deal with.
and i agree on the internet thing. the last thing i need is an internet "boyfriend".
>>17232752
28
>>17232667
add people on soc until a qt one that likes you will come visit you himself.
true story.
>>17232738
>i'm fine with closeness once we get there. it's the initial part that seems impossible.
I feel the same to be honest. Sometimes I meet guys who are kinda cute and I'm always too scared to actually speak to them beyond occasional jokes and "how are you"s. Also being a dude myself makes it a bit more difficult. It's a bit discouraging when I hear about my friends (who aren't gay themselves) getting hit on by dudes all the time when I have to build up a shitton of courage to even talk to anyone I don't know.
>>17232773
yeah i know that feeling :(
my best and basically only real friend is literally a model, and she gets hit on constantly. it bothers me a little but i also kinda don't envy her because what she goes through would be pretty terrible. sexualized and never really respected by all these creepy guys
>>17232791
hang in there, I'm sure you'll find someone eventually unlike me
>>17232824
why unlike you? you probably have a better chance than i do lol. maybe we'll both find someone?
>>17232832
well I hope so
>>17232847
me too. sometimes it gets pretty lonely lol.
http://vocaroo.com/i/s12VyiiVo8VR
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0mYC0mLTT6K
this is bait
>>17232902
http://vocaroo.com/i/s03CMvA5Mps9
guess maybe i didn't know what to say even on vocaroo lol.
>>17232910
bait why.
>>17232922
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1XG4AACZUsm
http://vocaroo.com/i/s03CMvA5Mps9
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1mAjhcryVPg
>>17232954
http://vocaroo.com/i/s19Px0ODFQnu
>>17232960
http://vocaroo.com/i/s07iMXlGOxlo
for everyone:
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0DbzOQopAyn
The one thing I can say about vocaroo is that you're copying links and listening to audio, I don't even know which ones are mine when I actually record something lol.
>>17233010
Yeah it could stand to be a little more user friendly somehow. Not sure how though
This thread angers me you want a bf but you don't want a bf too? Make up your fucking mind
Do you want online bf or offline (same city etc.) bf?
>>17233016
Welcome to my life I guess lol
>>17233018
RL bf. If he can't hold me he's not really my bf
Op
>>17233019
Ugh what if guys love you but you don't let them.. Im sorry but It's extremely selfish
>>17233024
How could they love me if I don't ever talk to them? The unrequited love thing happened once but that was more me wanting to be just friends than all this social anxiety stuff. He was a lot older and I wasn't really attracted to him. We had similar religious beliefs and talked a lot actually. But he only lives here in the summers and etc.
Find a therapist this is bait and autism incarnate
impossible , you must mingle. or it wont last. but I'm old.
>>17233014
Well the Vocaroo I had recorded has disappeared! I guess it's back to the old type type.
What I had elated to is that I give a lot of advice, irl and on 4chan, reddit etc. My friend has social anxiety, and I learned though giving him advice, that most advice is "common sense"/ known, to an extent. The problem however, is that there are always buts; nom not butts like seymore, but there are always exceptions. It is this process to where submitting to the person who is having the difficulties, to see it from their point of view, is extremely difficult. Generally most people can empathise, but rarely can they truly understand.
I do like the idea of baby steps, dipping ones foot into the water, letting their body adjust to the the decline in temperature. I believe for most trans people they do most of their meeting people online ( I would know because I used to meet up with people casually on CL, a couple of them were trans.) Just to chat, doing this gave me a wider perspective on people, and also improved my social skills, as pertaining to people who I know very little about.
>>17233022
true. well if you are on 4chan, you might as well go on /soc/ to find someone. there are /shut-in/ threads occasionally. maybe if lucky, you find a qt3.14 who lives near you.
I don't understand why you have problem like this, when girls your age post selfies on instagram every day outside.
2 questions, how is your relationship with your father and what made you this way?
>>17233046
i don't really understand /soc/. It's just kik threads and nude threads. ive never seen anything else in there.
>>17233036
This is bait how? And I've had lots of different therapists. I'm definitely not autistic just anxious and weird.
>>17233040
What?
>>17233042
Yes. I'm pretty good at advice a lot of the time too and it is mostly common sense stuff.
It's kinda weird that I have such a problem with this. My job is social by nature and in the one on one setting with people where I'm sort of in a position of authority (or something?) I do okay. And I made that friend after knowing her for a year. Getting that to translate into talking to boys I kinda like is hard. Maybe impossible? Idk.
>>17233046
Guess I'm not like the other girls? My dad's the best ever but he's like me. Very quiet and introverted. Idk what made me this way.
>>17233048
It's also people like OP who are shut-ins. I actually built a decent amount of self-confidence and the ability to talk to people with some semblance of charisma there.
>>17233053
I'm not a shut-in. At least not anymore. I work full time and do school and things.
>>17233052
Do they know you're trans? I know for some trans people they are so afraid of losing such a connection, (most people are like this in some regard for that matter) whether that be someone who they connect with emotionally or somebody they actually have a crush on. It is of the utmost important that everything goes perfectly, because we understand that one wrong move can cause a person once interested to disengage completely. It is heightened for people who are "different" trans, gay, even introverted in general because they understand that they will not have a lot of chances to truely connect with somebody. Knowing this, it generally leads to Generalized inaction.
>>17233052
Well then you took his genetics, nothing we can do here. If your therapist can't help you with your life, how can we even help you?
You are asking "how to meet local guys in my area without getting out of the house", you can't. go out with your friends. get hobbies. go to conventions. go to library/book store. people can't approach you when you are inside your house.
/adv/ can only give you general advice if you don't give any info about you or your life. I don't know your previous threads. I don't frequent /adv/.
>>17232667
I'll honestly give give you my opinion: it's worth the value you give it.
There are plenty of guys in a similar position.
They want to talk to girls, but they want to do it online, where they feel comfortable and confident.
You can try Tinder or some other dating site; if you feel self concussion about posting pictures of yourself/information about yourself then you're unnecessarily limiting yourself.
If you want an easy way to meet guys (or a guy) who is similar to you without leaving home or directly interacting with them initially, you need to put some info up-front.
I don't mean to assume that putting pictures/info online is something you're against, Ièm just throwing my 2 cents out there.
