>>17231366
>Destroy my relationship with a woman that really loves me, just to have sex with the other girl?
Yes. You're already destroying your relationship, you might as well stop being a complete asshole and let your girlfriend go. You can bring up having an open relationship though it's something you should have done before you started fucking the other girl.

>>17231366
Nice dubs.Probably wasnt a good idea too cheat but at least it's made you take a hard look at your relationship.You're choices are thus:
1)Stay with your gf and give your best shot at helping her.After all,she's wife material and that isn't too common.
2)Have great sex.Problem is basing a relationship solely on sex is fragile.Castles made of sand dude.
Can you see yourself having a long loving relationship with option 2?Is she also wife material?

>>17231366
you sound like my ex. He cheated on me after 3yrs of relationship then after 3 mos he messaged me and wanted to get back together bec they didnt work out. He got depressed and shit bec he played himself and got nothing now. Idk son do you think it's worth it to throw away 5 yr relationship you're very comfortable with just bec you found a girl who can give you better sex? Do you connect with the side hoe or is it purely sex? Have you tried spicing up the sex with main chick by trying new stuff?

>>17231366
The strange thing is you talk about how your girlfriend really loves you, and you didn't mention once if you love her.

Assess if the second girl is wife material or not, and if she is dump her.

>>17231366
Actually, your current gf doesnt deserve that kind of bullshit. You might as well go with the 2nd option. It will probably not work out and you'll end up alone and depressed and nobody will pity you bec you fucking deserve it.

Thanks for the replies,

>>17231406

I do love her And I know that if I break up with her I'll ruin her life forever. But I also have a crush on the second girl. Don't know if she is wife material, but I kinda doubt it.

>>17231403

>Have you tried spicing up the sex with main chick by trying new stuff?

She refuses to see that our sex life is dead, and refuses to do something about it.

>>17231422
>she refuses to do something about it

Why don't YOU do something about it? But yeah whatever it is, you've already fucked up. Might as well tell her the truth and end the relationship, unless she forgives you.

>>17231434
>Why don't YOU do something about it?


I've tried. But you know, when the other person refuses to see the problem, then it can't be solved

>>17231366
Dude from the moment you cheated your relationship was over.

>>17231440
Well if you are gonna break it off with her and go for the "great sex gal" don't be surprised if it doesn't last.

>>17231440
Fuck the cheating for a minute, I know other folks are telling you to end it now, but it sounds like your not wife has some underlying issues that you're not telling us. How was sex in the beginning? When did it taper off? Why does she cry when you bring it up, what does she say while crying? Did she ever give head? These are all pertinent and more worth talking about right now than the other broad.

This is pretty much my marriage.

Never cheated on her, but very similar

Sex was good, not great, but good when we were dating. I was content. Fast forward to after the wedding... And now it's been 6 months since I have been laid.

I have approached her about it on numerous occasions, and so far, it's not gotten any better. She says it hurts and she doesn't like it. I'm not huge, but I am above average. Its not bad technique either, I used to be a sailor, and have had plenty of partners and wild stories from before her.

I don't know man... Some people just aren't into it.

>>17231455

Sex is pretty painful for her. I have a kinda huge penis (20 cm around 7.5 inches), and she has a very tight vagina. It really hurts her. The only thing she pretty much enjoys, is receving oral sex. But she never returned the favor. I got my first blowjob from the second girl, and it was perfect.

As you can see, sex life is pretty fucked up with my main girl, and I wouldn't mind if I was 35 or 40 years old. But I'm only 22, and I would like to enjoy sex while I can. But I know that I wont find another girl who will love me like that.

Shit fucking sucks

>>17231504

Dude, we have lot in common. What do you think your marriage is going to end up to?

>>17231623
Damn that really sucks man. Honestly I don't see you getting married to the broad. Marriage is emotional just as much as sexual attraction, and you're not getting the sexual factor from your not wife. If you get married to her you'll just end up having affair after affair until she finds out and you break it off. Either cut out your cheating and prolong the inevitable or cut her out of your life now and deal with it faster than later.

>>17231637

Good advice man, I appreciate it. Funny thing is, that she told me its okay to have sex every now and then with other girls, as long as she dosen't find out.

I'm really getting tired and depressed with this. If my sex life with her was healthy, I'd be happy forever.

>>17231623

Brutal honesty here.

I'm not going to cheat on her. She has numerous other redeeming qualities that makes it worth it. But at the same time I know every day I wake up I am going to have blue balls like nobody's business and will always wonder what if I had done things differently. Different women, different situations I mean.

Point being, you if you decide to stick with potential wife, you need to accept that this is how it's going to be, but she better be worth it. And if you so go this route, you better knock off that cheating bullshit, you will only get fucked in the end. No pun intended.

As for side slut, I have been here as well. I spent years with these types of women, and scarcely could I genuinely say that they were good wife material. Generally, if it did, it's because I was rationalizing the situation because she was gobbling my nuts 3 times a night and seemed like a pretty legit future.

I even fucked an Eskimo once when I was in Japan. Best sex I ever had. I would poke her in the whiskers multiple times a night. When we weren't pounding beef curtains, we would sit up and talk. We talked about moving to her vilage in Alaska and settling down up there. Then One night she told me she had a fiance back in the states. I still thought about Alaska with her. It didn't dawn on my dumb was until after circumstance we parted ways that HOLY TITTY FUCKING CHRIST that would have been a catastrophic mistake. But, that muff had my mind convinced for a short time that she would be a good idea.

Watch some YouTube on how sexual arousal can litteraly shut down the frontal cortex. Mens brains actually prohibit itself from processing logic. Something to ponder.

Oh one more thing

>but I also have crush on second girl

This doesn't mean shit. I have been married for several years and still get this. See hot girl in the office, think about how awesome she would be ect. When you get married to someone that's actually worth a shit, this kind of thing doesn't mean anything. You go home, and your wife makes you forget all about office sluts perfect tits and reminds you of what you do have

>>17231504
that is because women use sex to keep you around they don't actually need it. a servery was made on women and many of them prefer to do their nails then to have sex.she has you trap in marriage and that is why she doesn't need to give you sex anymore.

>>17231914

Oh there is no doubt about that. Its evolution. Prior to the past 100 years, men played the role of the providers, and women took care of the children and the home. Men were hunter gatherers and produced resources for the wife and children. Its not that the wife couldn't, but she would have a difficult time spearing a moose when she has a baby clinging to her tit. She needed the man for her survival. Likewise, the man could easily survive on his own, but also needs to propagate the species. Can't make babies whist watching pornhub. So, the woman basically traded ovaries for resources, and the man traded resources for ovaries. Not immoral, just biology.

In today's world woman can do the same work men can, but the fundamental instincts are still there. But that's not to say that Its entirely instinct either. There are obviously a tremendous amount of emotional factors that take place as well

In my case, having blue balls blows, but at the same time there are enough emotional positives to counterbalance it and in the end I say it's worth it