I first thought honesty would be best, so I told my last girlfriend. But after that I think she always saw me differently. She pitied me, especially around sex. I've never really liked sex that much, so I guess it has probably effected me, but I can fake it so its not a huge issue.
Things might be happening with a new girl. I'm not sure... I want her to tell me everything'll be okay and all that pussy shit... But people don't always understand this shit...
(I'm male btw, if not clear)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oBjAEpwbIac
>>17229724
No, you should not. You will taint the relationship if you unload that kind of burden on your woman. Women gossip, talk about their emotional issues and sympathize with other women, if you join in she will subconsciously see you as "one of the girls." In a healthy traditional relationship emotions flow one way; off of the women and onto the man. She unloads her emotional baggage onto you, and in exchange she lets you put your dick inside her. If you have any pent up emotions, you get to "unload" it into her pussy, ya' know?
>>17229740
This is clearly coming from someone without any successful relationships under their belt.
Just be honest. Always. The more secrets you keep the less likely you are to keep any woman.
Thats not to say you should burst into tears and tell her every dark thing that you have ever thought in your life, just parcel out the damaged parts of you when you feel it is appropriate.
Anyone who can't handle you when knowing that is not worth being with.
>>17229740
wow you have a sad attitude about women
yeah you should tell her. my bf told me he was raped before we started dating, and im glad he did. it helped me understand him better, be kinder, and more sensitive (not touching his butt unexpectedly)
she will probably kiss you on the forehead and give snuggli
>>17229724
were you buttraped?
>>17229724
i'm in the same bag OP.
How did you handle it? I just found out recently (I'm 23 yo), and I thought it was kind of a meme but I really did feel like a piece of meat for the next few days, as if I was just an objectd used by another person at some point in my life and discarded. Kind of an odd feeling actually.
ps i'm a man
>men being raped
How does this even happen?
>>17230553
>>17230553
I was a child
I don't even have memories of the thing, just a "it happened"
it explained a lot of things for me though desu
>>17230553
Please tell me you aren't so narrow minded that you can't imagine a scenario where it would happen.
Boys get molested and raped all the time by both genders, you just hear about it less.
Men also rape men often
Women can rape men with either some sort of weapon, or blackmail
>>17230571
Don't forget drugging. Men can be drugged and forced to take viagra (this is probably harder to do since you have to get your hands on all the different drugs.)
Men aren't immune to rape from either gender.
>>17230561
if you werent raped by a man it doesnt count.
>>17229724
I don't think I'd let someone new know something so personal, but if you're with a girl for a while and you want to explain some of your issues with sex to her if you're both having problems it might be something to talk about. She might not be sure how to react to something like that so it could create some awkward air for a bit.
>>17230553
generally it happens when they're kids, or from other guys. it's usually male on male, but there's been female teachers molesting young male students or female baby sitters. it's just very under reported due to social stigma.
>>17230782
Why wouldn't it count? Forced sex is still traumatic, no matter which gender gave/received. It is an act of violence. It is emotionally damaging.
>>17230430
>>17229740
> She unloads her emotional baggage onto you, and in exchange she lets you put your dick inside her
Nah, I think this guy has it right. Men and women are different. I care more about being able to share my feelings and be loved with my partner and I can go weeks without fucking, but fucking are his needs so it's a fair trade.
>>17230571
Let's not forget the rape stare. Many men feel violated when women sexually assault them with their eyes and the fact this is not considered rape shows how biased against men our whole legal system is.
>>17230536
This is how casual sex feels like to me.
>>17230793
>It is an act of violence
I highly doubt a woman violently raped a young boy who cant even get an erection. Like did she take a massive strapon or something.
>>17230797
Yeah, nope. I couldn't handle being in a relationship with double the emotional baggage. HEALTHY people share both ways.
>>17230799
Yeah, as much as I think men can be raped, neither gender can be "rape stare'd". They can be fucking uncomfortable, but it isn't like that is enough to press charges.
>>17230811
Does a crime have to be violent to be damaging? Emotional trauma is the biggest factor in sexual abuse, and that is what makes the crime violent, not an actual violent act of sex.
Although most male on female rape is indeed both, which could be where the confusion lies.
After all, sexual assault doesn't require actual assualt, just inappropriate groping. Same thing applies here.
>>17229724
>getting rectally raided
>telling anyone, ever
pick one and only one
>>17230536
>i'm in the same bag OP.
> just found out recently
How the fuck do you "just find out" that you got ring-raided? Did you not notice the 400lb black man hanging out the back of you?
>>17230811
At this point I think you're b& and too young to be here. Like this is actually one of the dumbest posts I've read on 4chan in 8 years.
