I really want to have a kid but my long term relationship (6 years) ended two months ago. I was really excited to have a lil girl or boy but now that has been thrown to the wind.
At the same time, I am torn as to whether or not bringing a child into this world is a good idea. I think it's time to forget about it and move on.
How can I turn off this desire to be a father? I know it's easy for some people by thinking about how much freedom you get or how much money you save, but I genuinely would like a kid to raise. This dream needs to die for the time being anyway.
>>17228619
I'm not sure.
Man who has desire to be a father > man who does not
>>17228619
Just wait for the right girl, anon. You will know when. Unless you're like 50, you've got some time.
>How can I turn off this desire to be a father?
Spend a couple of weeks taking care of a newborn 24/7
>>17228623
Is this actually a desirable trait that women consider?
>>17228626
I guess I'm going through that stage where I thought I had the right girl, then she fucked me up bad.
>>17228627
The thing is, I think I would enjoy looking after a newborn. The inherent potential of a child is a beautiful thing to me and having a positive impact on it during developmental stages would make me feel like I at least did something great with my life. Or maybe I'm just masochistic =/
>>17228627
It's not really that bad unless you're a breastfeeding mother. Then it's awful.
My maternity leave was the worst 8 weeks of my life.
