My gf and I used to have some discussions about dick size in the beginning of our relationship since I watched too much porn prior to dating her, and I couldn't get aroused the first couple of times. Sometimes she will joke about it too, and whenever I can't take the bantz and get upset she just plays it off saying she only says it for fun and I should understand it's just humor and not true.
Whenever I asked, she always told me she thought my dick was fine and that everything was okay. Also, lately I've made progress, and sex appears to be great for both of us.
Anyway, this morning I spied on her phone, something I normally wouldn't do, but she told me not to look at it when I first grabbed it to play a game on it, and that just sounded like a huge red flag to me.
Anyway, as I was scrolling through her recent conversations I found one with her best friend, in which she was telling my gf how the guy she's with now "is packing" and has "girth of a yoghurt cup" and a "huuuuuge" one. As I said, I never cared about size before, but I still have an average dick, so I felt kind of uncomfortable reading that, specially because she answered "OMG" "marry him!".
After seeing that I just got REALLY upset at her, yelled at her, and stormed out of the house. Now we're on semi-good terms, but we got in a very heated fight over the phone, and the worst is she called the friend herself to talk about it, so now I've been ridiculed in front of her too. I've had fights with her about similar stuff in the past, that usually end with either me saying I'm going to kill myself or her saying she's going to leave me; luckily it hasn't gotten to that point yet.
I've talked to a friend about this, but he keeps telling me I'm just too paranoid and insecure, that I've got to calm down and let her be, otherwise she'll just drop me in the end.
My questions are: did I overreact? Does she think my dick is small? Is my friend right?
Any and all help appreciated.
Yes you did overreact
She was most likely just saying that shit to get her friend excited over this new guys she's blabbing on about
Just trying to be excited for her friend
Didn't sound like anything more
> since I watched too much porn prior to dating her, and I couldn't get aroused the first couple of times.
Does this really happen?
What has this world come too?
>>17226517
You're an idiot, and you overreacted.
She was trying to be excited for this friend. It didn't sound like anything more.
>After seeing that I just got REALLY upset at her, yelled at her, and stormed out of the house.
> I've had fights with her about similar stuff in the past, that usually end with either me saying I'm going to kill myself or her saying she's going to leave me
I would dump you for this kind of thing. You sound like a bitchy drama queen.
Tell her you're sorry, never read her conversations again and seek therapy if you're this unstable.
Your friend is very much right.
>>17226517
You overreacted, your dick IS small, your friend is absolutely correct, and your girlfriend would have left you a long time ago if dick size was a dealbreaker for her.
As another anon said, you are a fucking nightmare and you should be thrilled she hasn't dumped you so far.
yes you did overreact. that said, that kind of "banter" is always semi-serious and she does think you are a dicklet but she doesn't care and won't leave you because of it
>>17226517
Jesus you sound fucking awful. I would never put my gf through this shit, sometimes you need to actually trust people, take it from someone else with major insecurity issues that sometimes its better to just trust the person you're in a relationship with.
>>17226538
tfw no compulsion to even read shit on my crush's laptop when she casually lets me do whatever with it
>>17226638
Agreed, be trusting unless you have real reason not to be, in which case bring it up instead of doing underhanded shit.
Wow, so basically any time she's talking to anyone ever about sex she has to be careful what she says because you're so insecure about your dick you'll spin the world and make any unrelated sex thing about your personal penis envy. Your tiny dick is evident even when I've never seen you, you poor insecure dickless fuck.
There will ALWAYS be guys with bigger dicks, better jobs, more charisma, greater wealth, and bigger better whatever else you can think of. ALWAYS.
>>17226662
tfw virgin but not sexually insecure, only emotionally
>>17226517
Nice going op, you just proved to your soon to be Ex that you're insecure as fuck AND that you go through her shit. Expect to be dumped within a week
>>17226687
Nah, he already trapped her with the suicide threat. They're going to continue to fight until he decides to break up with her. She'll continue to get pissed off because she feels stuck, he'll continue to get pissed off because he knows she wants to leave.
What women talk like that?
>>17226694
My gf is Swedish, her friend is American...
>>17226517
Congrats on maker her simply being a good friend into something about you. Your insecurity is a huge red flag.
Also
>saying I'm going to kill myself
You are the WORST type of person. Seek therapy. She must have incredibly low standards or perhaps need therapy for herself if she's willing to put up with you.
>>17226695
Look, I'm not some relationship counselor or anything, but threatening to kill yourself over any person is fucking pathetic.
Things you're doing that you shouldn't be
1) Spying on your girlfriends phone
2) Overreacting about her conversation
3) Allowing insecurities to rule your life
4) Yelling at your girlfriend
5) Allowing paranoia to take hold without recognizing that your thoughts are distorted
6) Threatening to kill yourself
7) Not being in therapy right now
OP, you need professional help, and I say that with love, and because I want you to be happy. You're having a lot of thoughts that are not really congruent with reality, and you'd be a lot happier if you learned to confront them.
I think you are justified in the way you feel, but the way you've gone about it is wrong. No guy wants to hear his girl basically gushing over the size of another mans cock, I mean that's just fucked man. No girl here no matter how secure they try to act would like to know that their partner is doing some form of equivalent. I don't know if I'm some kind of unique special snowflake but I do not entertain these sort of thoughts while in my relationship, nor do I talk to guy friends about other women in this manner. To me that is showing respect and to me it seems that she doesn't fully respect you by her actions.
Also the "banter" about your dysfunction is pretty cruel of her, you know that if some girl came on here saying that her boyfriend makes fun of her because she has some form of vaginal problem, everyone would be up in arms over the guy.
Anyway OP I really do not know what you should do from this point on, you should not be threatening suicide nor should you be showing your insecurties towrads this girl, because this is only going to drive her away if it isn't already. I mean you are just getting yourself in situations where you are being emasculated. At the end of the day it's obvious that she doesn't respect you and you have done things unfortunately to solidify that.
You either make a clean slate and cut that shit out to see what happens, or if she continues to disrespect you, you walk. A girl should be there to make you feel good and vice versa, not make you feel inadequate and insecure. Also snooping is never a good idea while also being wrong, but I can understand why you felt the need to do it. At the end of the day there is no trust in this relationship, there is a lack of respect going on, and I don't really see this as a healthy relationship for you because these actions of yours may have had a permanent affect, on top of that you have some work to do on your confidence which takes time.
Yeah, you overreacted. If my friend texted me excitedly that their new guy had [whatever], I would be happy for them and tell them to lock it down, regardless of my own feelings on it, because that's not the main point. The main point is that her friend is pleased with the guy.
It's no different than a guy saying something like she's a keeper in response to an "omg she had some huge Es under there" text, even though he personally prefers perky As. What the sender likes or does not like is just not relevant, you're not going to say "oh nice for you, haha that would not be my thing, but good for you I guess". Only someone lame and self centered would bother bringing their own opinion into it.
However, this
>whenever I can't take the bantz and get upset she just plays it off saying she only says it for fun and I should understand it's just humor and not true.
is not very sensitive. She should take your feelings seriously and if she thinks your response is out of control, she should focus on that and not just blow you off saying you can't take a joke.
But more important than anything else, threatening to kill yourself, seriously?
Thank you all for your replies so far. I'm reading each and every one of them. I just don't feel like responding, since I'm just being showered with truth and have nothing to add to your statements. Thanks again for this, anons.
>>17226763
Np man, at least you're open to criticism, that makes you a better man capable of correcting himself.
>>17226531
I fucking jerk it to porn three or four times a day and still get up around my GF(whomever she is at the time). You weren't getting aroused because you were nervous, not because of porn.
>>17226517
what you should not have done is look at her phone. what the fuck makes people think they can invade someone's privacy like that?
If she is fucking you she doesn't think your dick is too small.
>>17226791
What girl would want a guy that wacks off three times a day? By chance, are you a lying fuckwad anon?
>>17226796
no. I'm not lying.
>>17226517
Well if you had a big dick she would say to you "OMG I love your big cock".
If you had a small dick she would say "nope it's average size and I like it."
If you had an average dick she would say "It's not too big, not too small, it's perfect".
Your gf is just along with what she is given. Same of you she was insecure about her tits you'd say the versions of them. Also the way some guys out there drool over a big round butt or big round tits, she (your gf) like some girls out there drool over a big dick and was feeling girly with her friends chatting about it.
Your gf liking big dick is not an indicator of being a cheating slut much like a guy liking a big round joocy butt is no indicator of him being a man slut.
Fair enough that you were upset by this but grow the fuck up anon.
>>17226544
Why is making fun of someone's dick size okay? I wouldn't go and tell her her boobs are too small or she had some toast beef down there.
