I need some advice on something that's really making me uncomfortable.
So, a friend and I hang out constantly at his place. He's a stay at home dad with a newborn baby, and he gets pretty bored and calls me over. I work night shifts and have nothing to do so I just go over. It's cool chilling at his place, but the problem is his 12 year old daughter. She's too flirty around me, and very touchy when my friend is out on the room doing something else or checking on the baby. Two weeks ago he ran out for a bit to run some errand, and his daughter jumped on me and sat on my lap. I gently pushed her off and explained to her that what she was doing was not okay and was really inappropriate and that it made me uncomfortable. At 12 I would've thought she'd understand, but I was wrong, she kept doing shit like this.
I talked to my friend about this and he gave her a talk, and that pretty much settled it. Now the problem is that she sent me a friend request and a chat request on facebook. I blocked her. Now I just try to avoid going over as much as possible, it's just so awkward and uncomfortable. But this is like the only friend I still have contact with and I don't want to fuck it up.
I would just keep him updated cause he is aware of the situation so you shouldn't have anything to worry about. You can even say it's uncomfortable for you but obviously don't want to insult his daughter so you are looking for him to help you out. Also, I imagine this is also uncomfortable and embarrassing for him to so don't feel like it's just you.
Sorry you are in this weird situation.
>>17224163
ha
I feel bad for guys who eventually have to go through this. Hopefully she wont resort to blackmail or anything.
Try to explain what could happen to you if she doesnt stop. Hopefully she wont use that against you.
>>17224205
Hopefully. This shit is kinda scary.
>>17224163
Most likely she's just trying to be your friend you dumbass. 12 year olds generally don't pay any mind to sexuality, and if they sit on your lap it doesn't mean anything other than "I wanna sit on your lap". This is most likely just a case of insecurity on your part.
>>17224235
So her jumping on me like this is just trying to be friends? Yeah, sure.
>>17224250
She's 12 years old you retard
>>17224235
My girlfriend has a single mom friend with a 9 year old daughter. One time, we were out celebrating a friend's birthday who lives a few hours away. We all checked into different hotel rooms and the kid was with us.
From the get-go, she was very clingy, grabbing my hand and pushing my gf away, exclaiming I was her boyfriend for the weekend. She played games on my phone and drew some pictures. All good and well.
Later that night, she demanded my gf to apply make up to her and her mom, before dinner.
My gf and the mom were in the bathroom and the kid finished first. When she was done, I was lying on the bed, playing some game and she asked if she was pretty. Awkwardly, I said yes, because she had that clingy vibe going on.
Promptly, she started getting handsy, pushing her face into my face and then jumped on the bed and jumped up down on my crotch. That fucking her and was extremly fucking weird. I yelled out for my gf because I was terrified that her mom would see us like that.
Turns out she started masturbating at a very young age, has some mental problems and is in therapy. She was very sexually adventurous and curious and doesn't know her bounds. Apparently a typical thing for children with a single parent.
>>17224267
Of course, things like these happens. That's why I prefaced with "most likely". I sitll see no reason to believe that the girl in OP's post has any sexual intention.
as long as you are not planning to do anything with that kid, its just awkward, but not threatening.
I want to say, that especially girls seem to have crushes very soon and very deeply. my GF told me she once had a crush when she was 14 on a 28yo guy and it never happened which broke her heart at that time
>>17224260
12 year olds aren't innocent as you imagine them to be. It's a mixture of curiosity, puberty and probably some mental instability.
Source: I was a 12 year old girl
>>17224260
I was sexually interested (but not actively trying to have sex) by the age of 7. Children aren't innocent of attempting this shit. Understanding it, that's a bigger issue, most don't understand it is inappropriate.
>>17224369
I've been fapping since I was like 6, to actual porn. I don't know if it's different for girls.
>>17224438
I wouldn't know, I was too busy being dumb and humping my teddy bear (thing was basically the same size as me.)
It was fucking awkward when my parents had to take me to get a cream for my irritated dick.
Moral of the story? I didn't fucking learn this the first time around, but don't hump furry things, it gives you rug burn on your dick.
>>17224235
Yeah, and that girl wanted that guy to simply "walk her home gently" as well.
Fuck off pedo.
>>17224260
The Internet, man.
Kids can easily find anything and be easily influenced by it at that age. Especially by their peers who probably learned off someone older...
>>17224163
Since you were upfront and honest with your friend, you should still be able to hang out with him. You did what a trustworthy friend would do.
It will be a little awkward seeing his daughter at first, but just don't make a big deal of it and it should pass. Be nice to her though, don't ignore her or avoid talking to her or anything like that... if she does anything out of hand just make it clear again that this kind of behavior is not appropriate.
>>17224438
You must have a really fucked up mind
>>17224438
Not normal. Did uncle Jimmy play with you?
>>17225624
I wouldn't think so. I wasn't left alone much as a kid so I never really watched it a lot. But once a week or so my mom would make a 20 minute trip to the grocery store, which is when I watch and fap.
>>17225638
Nope
I lost my virginity at age 12. She's def not just innocent anymore. She knows exactly what she's doing. She has a crush on you and wants to get a response out of you. That's a really shitty situation. Buy you did the right thing to tell your friend and maybe the only solution would be to tell her that you will have to stop coming over for a while if she doesn't start to behave appropriately. It's only a matter of time till she stops. Most likely till she gets a bf to direct her sexual energy on. Also tell your friend to talk about bc with her and possibly go get her the pill or even an iud, cause young girls aren't very responsible and dependable.
>>17225648
It only took your mom 20 minutes to get to the grocery store, find everything she needs, check out, and get back to the house?
>>17225648
So uncle Jimmy just touched me. He put a sizzler sausage up ma bum.
>>17225656
20-30 minutes. The grocery store was just a couple blocks away.
>>17225654
I've gave her many comments telling her to stop. And one serious talk after she jumped on my lap and started semi grinding on me, that one she didn't listen to either.
It's just so damn awkward. Went over today and she pretty much ignored my presence so I think things are okay now.
>>17224235
lmao what. How fucking disconnected from reality are some people on this website? That is not okay and any 12 year old knows that it's inappropriate especially 12 year olds of today.
>>17225673
As it sounds, you only told her that it's not appropriate and she needs to stop. Have you told her that you don't WANT it? She seems to think that she can wrap you around her finger with being sexual. If she comprehends that you don't like this behaviour and that it makes you very uncomfortable and that you will never respond in a sexual way to it, she will stop. She just discovered that she is a sexual being and that she can get loads of attention by being sexual. Your friend needs to be on high alert because you are whitnessing the birth of a slut. She is learning that ahe can get whatever she wants from guys by being sexual with them. It will teach her a prizeless lesson if you turn her down and tell her it's not working/doing anything with/to/for you. It might be the single even that prevents her from becoming a slut. She needs to focus her energy on something else asap! Does she do any sports or has other engaging hobbies that give her a sense of achievement? She desperately needs that right now or she will start using her body and sexuality as her only source for validation.
>>17225673
She could feel hurt or rejected in some way, so it's not completely okay, OP.
You should be nice to her and forgiving... you will probably be around her a lot after all since you're still friends with her dad.
Just don't act fucking weird and it will make things better if you can make things cool between the two of you.
>>17225711
Give her some non-sexual attention. Teach her something! She needs to feel able without sex involved and she needs attention. The good form of attention...
>>17225707
> Have you told her that you don't WANT it?
I did. Told her it was making me feel very uncomfortable.
>Your friend needs to be on high alert because you are whitnessing the birth of a slut.
This made me laugh hahaha, but I agree.
>Does she do any sports or has other engaging hobbies that give her a sense of achievement?
She does gymnastics but other than that she just spends her time on her phone, taking photos like every other kid
>>17225711
>>17225716
I mean, we were still cool with each other until she saw that I blocked her on facebook. Tbh I'm enjoying not having to deal with her.
>>17225707
It's possible that you're on to something, anon... but that is a shit ton of projecting, holy fuck.
Her having a little crush on OP and having some sexual energy doesn't automatically make Slutty McSlutVille her destiny.
>>17225723
Well, yes, it IS projecting. But then again, i went trough the steps and that was the destintation. It's still early, so not impossible to prevent. But that's not op's thing. That's her dad's job. Maybe op can give some pointers though
>>17225723
And to add, it's not just me who went trough the steps. I observed the same pattern with my sister and all my friends who ended up being sluts vs the friends that where different and ended up with actually having interests and selfworth
>>17225717
Well, uncomfortable might indicate that you think it's inapropriate, but deep down you still want it. You need to make it clear that it does NOTHING for you. Maybe go to extremes and show disgust with her behaviour. Don't make her feel like you are disgusted with HER. but definitely with her actions.
How involved is she in gymnastics? Is she good at it? Does she do it competitive?
>>17224163
>weeaboo fantasies
Kys
>>17224267
>pedophile fantasies
4chan never ceases to amaze me
>>17225742
I think I made myself very clear but idk how else to say it without sounding mean. She's pretty involved yeah, goes to state competitions and shit
How many times have you put it in her butt
>>17225761
Maybe you HAVE to be mean. You blocking her was a good move. It showed that you clearly are NOT interested in looking at bikini pics of her or writing pm's. It might already be enough.
That's good. But maybe she also needs something where there's a clearer end-product. Something creative maybe. But again, that's dad territory. Maybe just involve her in activities. Go make a bonfire with your friend & kids or something. Where's the mom in that whole picture? Maybe get her into the boat aswell
>>17225736
Never understood the connection between being a slut and having lots of sex. I love banging chicks, and when I couldn't find an interesting yet trustworthy girl, I just banged my way through. Not because I deem myself of low worth, quite the opposite. But just because I love banging girls.
>>17225771
I mean, she seems pretty upset and ignoring my presence completely because I blocked her. That is totally fine with me. Perfect, in fact. I don't think I have to do anything anymore. Mom works all day, makes fat bank though
>>17225773
I never said my definiton of a slut is simply someone who has loads of sex... The girls i mean are girl that clearly only get their attention and validation by being sexual.
>>17225777
Then she should def have a talk with her daughter. Has dad told his wife about all that?
>>17225788
No idea, I usually dip before she gets home hahahaha, but my friend hasn't told me anything
>>17225707
>typical /r9k/ redpill tier shit
>durr slutty mcslutface
>hurr I'm a grill I know
>implying you're a grill
Tits or GTFO. Unless tits and timestamp provided, you're genderless and no one cares. Stop trying to make a point with the claim of female gender.
>robot spreading his fairy tales
>implying that grill isn't just experimenting with people's attention
>implying she didn't just find out that a certain kind of behaviour gets her attention
She most likely doesn't even know what she's doing.
fug her OP it's what she wants
>>17226251
Do it OP. She wants it.
>>17224163
I'd maybe talk with the friend. That sort of behaviour isn't quite normal for 12-year olds, most likely she's seen it done in some tv show or whatever and is sort of experimenting with femininity and the way she's seen adult women depicted behaving, without realising all of the innuendo and the possible consequences (sex) of flirting with men. So she'd need a parent to have a talk with her about sex and flirting and innuendo and consent and all that.
If she's looking for validation from adult men, if it's not you, it'll be someone else. It's good to level with the parents about what's going on
>>17224260
Jessi Slaughter should be a well-known case of 12yo whoring.
>>17224163
She definitely knows what she's doing. I was once a 12 year old girl too.
