Is somebody a real friend if they never contact you to go out and you always contact them.
I have a few good friends who are pretty nice to me in real life and seem to like hanging out with me, but they never initiate going out, it's always me. Some weekends when I don't contact them they don't contact me either.
When I look at the people who contact me first, there's only like one or two people who actually do. Is this a problem?
these are the same people who will complain eventually when you stop contacting them.
>>17220039
Some people are afraid to talk first because they don't want to appear too needy or clingy. I've had this problem myself. It's not always the case, but it's a possibility. If they're really a good friend, ask them about it.
Ideally, there would be incentive to hang out on both ends, but in reality, this isn't always the case.
For whatever reason, people like to,"Tolerate" others to an extent and feign friendship for the sake of convenience.
I'd say if anybody doesn't express interest in hanging out with you of their own volition, then they probably can't be counted among your friends, but rather your acquaintances.
>>17220071
This.
Also, I always feel like I'm bothering someone when I text them. I just assume people want to be left alone unless they go out of the way to say they don't.
>>17220088
>>17220071
I agree. I mostly have the same problem. I don't want to appear needy or clingy and I am afraid that they will blow me off or wonder why the heck I am asking them to hang out.
But then again, it truly depends on how they are as persons, what is their personality? Would this fear suit them, or wouldn't you think so?
