Hey
I'm 24 and virgin, duh. I've never had sex though I did have a girlfriend sometime in the past, whatever.
Tomorrow I plan to get an escort. I'm not some depressed schmuck who thinks sex will change my life, I'm not terribly ugly but I don't feel good about myself. I don't feel adequate. I don't want to, when eventually get a girlfriend, embarrass myself by being a virgin at 24/25/whatever age. It's just not alright and I don't expect any girl to actually understand me and my life and decisions.
So I'm doing this to sorta just shove it out of my way and take my mind off at least 1 thing.
Anyone else did this? Am I in for a lifetime of self pity and crippling depression? Or am I just gonna have a chill time, get my virginity out of the way and continue living my life, feeling a little better?
If anyone wonders, Ima get me a nice, plump, petite redhead with glasses. If I'm paying for sex, I might as well get exactly the girl I dream of fucking.
>>17212202
>plump
>petite
pick one.
that being said, you have to remember that virgin does have some 'spiritual' aspect to it. or perhaps more of a 'cultural' aspect to it.
while you will get off, its not much different than using a fleshlight. i mean she may be active and mamke it great, but thats just a robotic fleshlight.
it doesnt prove anything and you will walk away feeling worse after awhile, cuz you felt like you lost it 'wrong'. like imagine everyone in town hunts, and you want to hunt to so you pay someone to bring out a deer they caught and hold it down while you shoot it.
imagine someone challenged you to a fight and you pay someone to beat em up for you. imagine you asked a girl on a date, she said no, and then you paid her to go on a date wtih you.
thats what that is. yes you wlil experience a penis in a vagina (though with a condom whats the fucking point?) but you will still be a virgin in any way that matters and when you do get with that girl you are waiting or, you will think You are even more pathetic than before cuz you had to pay to lose it.
im sure you are capable of getting a real girl.
>>17212202
I know your feels, OP. I'm a 28 year old virgin and I consider hiring a woman all the time. Except that I'm ugly and depressed unlike you. Anyways, you should consider the risk of getting a disease when hiring an escort. Also, for me, I'm not sure how bad it would fuck me up mentally for the rest of my romantic career of I hired a whore.
Best of luck, OP. If you do go through with it I hope it is a good experience
>>17212221
>28 year old virgin
>my romantic career
my absolute sides
>>17212221
Well, I plan to change every aspect of my life because doing and I've been doing for 24 years obviously doesn't work.
Getting virginity / firsthand sex experience out of my fucking way is one of those things and I happen to have money and time right now, so why not. I considered this for at least 3 months now.
>it would fuck me up mentally for the rest of my romantic career of I hired a whore.
Well, I basically have no "romantic career" so there's nothing breaking there. Just that right now I won't be embarrassed if a girl suggests we "meet up and watch a movie" and refuse. I just want to get this out of my fucking way, firstly to get firsthand experience that no fleshlight and fapping would offer, and secondly I want to nofap, or at least reduce fapping. Right now, twice a day is the norm, and it fucking sucks.
>>17212230
I was implying that there could be one in the future, friend.
>>17212241
you still need to release so fap twice a week. three times max. no porn. fox only. final destination.
just do it right before bed two to three times a week.
that being said ask yourself this
>do you plan on ever getting a girl?
if yes, dont get a prostitute. this will only make oyu feel shittier there. a girl doesnt know you are a virgin until shes already taken it from you. no girl asks or thinks 'are youa virgin' to someone in their mid twenties.
if you want tochange your life, getting a hooker is not the way to go. go out there and get a real girl
>>17212248
that was the funny part
Hey OP, I'm a 23 year old virgin and I'm strongly considering doing the same thing.
I'm very nervous around girls I'm attracted to, thats why I'm still a virgin obviously. And I feel like that anxiety will reduce once I get the virgin stigma out of my head. Then I can just relax when talking to girls without worrying so much about getting them to take my v-card. And sex will come more naturally.
Plus, I would hate to meet a really great girl and then have absolutely no clue what I'm doing in bed the first time and scare her off.
I've been giving it a lot of thought lately and I really think it's a good idea for a lot of virgins who are over the age of 20.
>>17212284
I get you bro. I'm not sexist, I'm quite a chill dude, I have a job, I have buddies. I'm what you'd call a normal person but let's be fucking honest here, most (if not all) girls will get creeped out if they meet a 24+ years old virgin guy, in this hyper-sexualized society. I don't blame anyone but myself, so I'll just get this shit out of my way and forget about this virginity bullshit.
I'm not prince charming, I'm never getting a kind and understanding girl who will vibrate on the same level as me, and who will get who I am. It doesn't work that way. I'm sure I'll find a good girl in the future, hell I might even get a great girl sometime and I would hate for my virginity issue to scare them off, directly or indirectly because of my behaviour.
>>17212314
>girls will be creeped out if they find out you are a virgin
>but if you tell them you lost it to a hooker, they'll love it!
this is retard logic. just do what everyone else does and dont tell them. by the time they realize you are a virgin it will be too late.
considering getting a hooker wont teach you how to actually get a girl, you have nothing to gain from getting a hooker.
Dude, I understand where you are coming from, I have too been tempted to just hire an escort and get what I want. Normal girls don't want sex, they want they go through some romantic movie scene first, wined and dined, and either way you look at it.... you are still paying for sex..... in order to have and keep a girlfriend in the first place.... you need a job.... Just f4cking go for it and do it, she is getting what she wants (money) and you are getting what you want (sex), and in the end, nobody is getting hurt. Society cannot stop the oldest profession in history, because it's just something women naturally do, women lust quick easy money, they don't give a sh1t about the guy or the sex. Afterwards, you are going to realize that sex is just a 15 minute over-rated temporary escape. The girl should be the one ashamed for choosing the work she does, NOT you. She willingly chose her profession, she could have easily waited tables at a restaurant but no, she chose this instead. Some girls actually enjoy being an escort and enjoy pleasing a man. Why not take advantage of it???
>>17212323
It's not like I ever plan to tell a girl Hey I'm 24 and still a virgin, or hey I'm 24 and lost it to a hooker.
But if we get to have sex, they'll notice that I've never seen a pussy in my entire life, so yeah. Getting a hooker won't teach me how to get girls, but it will get rid of this anxiety of mine, that I pass every opportunity with every girl I meet because I'll screw up in bed.
>>17212330
>it will ge trid of this anxiety of mine
no, it wont. it will add anxiety. you dont nkow cuz you've never been there. as someone who lost his fucking virginity to a hooker DONT DO IT. and ive only had sex once since then.
NOT WORTH IT.
just do it. you only have to mess up with one girl to figure out how to do it right with the others.
>>17212323
I wouldn't tell them I lost it to a hooker.
>getting a hooker wont teach you how to actually get a girl
You're right. But my goal right now isn't even to get a girl. I have to become less nervous around girls first, thats step one. I've never even had a friend who's a girl. And I feel like getting the virgin stigma out of my head will make me more relaxed around them and it may also help me stop putting sex on a pedestal.
Not the guy you responded to btw, I'm the guy who posted just before him.
>>17212202
It's a double edged sword.
I was in your boat, did the same, and it's the least satisfying feeling ever. Granted, I didn't do much of the foreplay or anything like that because I don't trust how "clean" these gals say they are. You'll get the benchmark of saying you lost your virginity, but not the real experience of becoming a good lover. You'll still be inexperienced there.
I'm probably just bitter since I got addicted to finding that feeling through escorts and blew threw my savings but...meh.
I considered it. But honestly... I think I would panic anyway cause I didn't fuck a girl but a whore. She would be there for it, the girls are a different thing. Maybe the only thing that could help me... Is a surgeon... A little bit of fimosis it's a problem, first mentally... And physically... I do not know it yet
Does having sex with a stripper count as losing it to a whore? The one I see frequently keeps hinting at me to "meet up" and that I should give her my phone number. She hasn't mentioned anything about paying for our meet up, though, which is unusual for a job that's all about prices.
