ask away and i will give you the answer you need, but not necessarily the answer you desire. Scrolling through /adv/ has shown me people who just come to ask questions dont deserve to be answered and if you are in this thread it means you are worthy because you took the time to read other peoples problems. Ask away anons. I will give you the best/realist answers and will stay in this thread until it dies.
Should I break away from my current ambition-less relatives and attempt to move in with a friend who shares the same thought process as me and eventually get my own place or should I continue going with them.
I'll basically have a vehicle to my name and some income to contribute to their place.
I resent the people I am currently with after being around them for too long I suppose. I like nothing about them and they basically rely on the government for their income while I go out and actually earn every dollar I get.
Yes they could actually get the means to not rely on the government by the way.
How do I get a girlfriend?
I've been alone my entire life, thirty fucking years, and I'm getting tired.
>>17190813
Get a job or hobby
be interesting/a person of interest (if you're a wizard, you're either pretty fucked in the head or severely unlucky/inept)
make friends
find grill that seems chill and intresting/interested in you
be friends and ask her if she wants to go get food or something
see where it goes from there
repeat steps 2-6 until gif is achieve
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profit
>>17190795
So basically you have two options. This could be a long answer but make sure you read all of it. There are many factors in deciding what to do for something like this because there are many perspectives to observe and the outcome of your decisions in your particular case will most likely set up the rest of your life. your relatives seem like they leech on things and are rather unmotivated. If you leave them they will most likely make you feel somewhat guilty for leaving. If you stay you will be around your family and have people who atleast love you. However, deep down you wont be happy because you know you should be around people with similar goals and interests. To put it shortly, if you stay with your family you will keep your family happy but throw yours and your friends potential out the window. If you leave you will most likely be more succussful because you are striving to do what you know youre meant for. Option 1 is keep your family happy by staying by their side but lose potential and opportunities.the only way to come back from feeling sad about being surrounded by your family is to make yourself like them or truly seperate from them. Option 2 is let your family know youre moving on and do what you know is right. They may make you feel guilty for leaving them. If they do, it means theyve been leeching off you and truly dont care about your future or your own interests. If they understand then you will have your family at your side while also being able to keep a distance from them so you can concentrate on things that matter to you and your friend. I would go with your friend. Telling your family your plan and then executing the plan will take more energy than staying with your family, but in the end you will be happier with your decision to leave when its over and done with. It is good to want better for yourself and anyone who tries to stop you from reaching your dreams doesnt deserve your love. Hope this helps anon
How do I make connections after college?
I didn't really build a network while I was in college, and now that I'm out and "free" I feel like I've made a big mistake...how do I meet people now? I can't just walk into a coffee shop and start chatting someone up without feeling like a creep, I don't really have any hobbies other than longboarding and anime...I have a few friends right now but at the rate we see each other we'll only become more and more distant.
How do I get a better grip on time?
I am really bad at keeping a track of it. I can play vidya/4chan/do shit for 10 hours and not notice it.
Like I'm floating somewhere beyond time.
>>17190813
OP here. The other anon who replied has some good points. My advice would be to go out with friends and socialize with new people or their friends. Optional: use outlets such as tinder and facebook to meet new people like you. You might not think tinder works but ive seen it do wonders. Go to a bar with friends, ask a friend to hook you up with someone. Im assuming you have a job considering we're talking +30 years. If you dont have coworkers you like enough to date then thats fine. If you dont have friends to socialize with to network and meet new people thats fine. However in this age most relationships are made with networking and meeting people through clubs, hobbies, work, or through other friends. Can you be more specific about your surroundings, friends, age, or job?
>>17190733
How big is your dick?
>>17190835
Do you have a job? If so how are your coworkers? Do you live alone or with your parents? I understand its usually pretty hard to go out for the sole purpose of searching for someone to approach. Its actually pretty creepy. Instead i would use the time youre out and about to do as much socializing as possible. If you are in college, talk to your classmates if they seem cool. If youre at work talk to coworkers and if they seem cool hangout. But id like to give you a more concrete answer. Can you be more specific about your daily life? Im certain i get where you are coming from i just need more info.
>>17190839
not OP
That's not a bad thing though, is it? It's good that you can get so immersed into something. I become hyper aware of the time when I try to do something for more than like an hour. I feel like I'm wasting time and it stops me from enjoying it.
Give yourself time frames for what you do if it's an issue. Maybe set an alarm for 2 hours for the game you're playing. Or have a clock somewhere visible. It's pretty important to get up and refresh yourself if you're just going to be sitting down and watching anime/playing vidya.
>>17190839
You have too much time on your hands anon. Since you have up to 10 hours on your hands during the summer it seems to me youre either fairly young and still in high school without many friends or you just dont do a lot outside of work. More details please?
>>17190847
7 inches length i think. I dont pay too much attention to it anymore because its pointless. As long as you know how to pleasure yourself and others size is meaningless. That is if you are interested in girls/guys that arent shallow and judge you based on physical attributes
>>17190851
I just got out of college. Currently not working but might be getting a job in the near future (got lucky with a connection).
That's pretty much it, honestly. I stay home most of my days and I live with my mom. My city has a big night life but I'm not much for parties - I like music (I have a guitar and a piano which I try to play but ultimately am terrible at) and I like comics/reading.
We had our first baby 9 months ago and wanted another one right away. We've been trying for 9 months and just last week I was diagnosed with PCOS and fertility problems. I want another baby so bad but the idea of going through the heartache of fertility treatment and never getting pregnant again is terrifying. I don't know what to do.
>>17190868
Not OP, and certainly not in an offensive way, but why do you want a second baby?
>>17190854
I have first exam on Tuesday, college freshman, dropped out last year.
>>17190863
Find a job which alligns with your interests even if its only a summer job for pocket money. When you find a job that has attributes that allign with your interests (in your case id suggest working at somewhere like gamestop, movie theatre, comic book store, or somewhere thats generally interesting to you) you will find other people like you. People who are like you are most likely in the same boat as you and wont be attending those parties either so dont waste your time going to them.
>>17190834
This helps a whole lot actually.
>>17190871
There's quite a big age gap between my husband and myself. I come from a large family and my husband was a foster kid. He's always wanted that huge family he never had and I want the huge family I do have. With him getting older we want to pop 5-6 out within the next 10 years and then snip him. It's better for us to do everything right now since I'm young. The longer we wait the harder it's going to be.
Today I hit an old lady with my car.
Not hard; it was in a parking lot, as I was backing out of my space. But I didn't see her, and I hit her, and she was REALLY old and looked to be in a lot of pain.
I tried my very best to give her my information, offered to help her any way I could, but she just told me to fuck off and hobbled away (doubled over in apparent agony).
..... is there anything more I should have done? Am I going to get nailed for hit-and-run because she wouldn't take my information?
>>17190890
Mm...well I would definitely get a second opinion, there very well could be more options you could pursue to help with fertility.
If worse comes to worst, you can adopt? I don't know how important it is that it's exactly...your baby, but you can save a child and give them a life they deserve.
I've texting this girl for 5 months now. How do you know when to back off? I'm pretty sure she doesn't like me. I just need to know for future reference.
I've always been able to help people around me with what I can. Im a good listener and can tranquilize people or at least help them get rid of their frustration. I've been doing this for years, especially with one person. But around last week something snapped. I feel constantly nervous and I dread picking up the phone from the people I used to help with this kind of stuff. I even feel physically sick sometimes thinking about the potential new conversations that I might end up having.
But I feel I have to continue.
What the fuck happened to me? What should I do? Am I being a pussy?
>>17190868
OP here. If you want another one this much it is most likely because you loved having your child and its only natural to want more. If the heartache of treatment is this powerful, then it is okay. Being pregnant isnt necessary in order to raise and love a child. You already have a child straight from your belly but have you considered adopting? If you have thought about it and the idea of raising someone elses child makes you feel uneasy, id suggest looking more into it. Saving a child and raising it as your own not only doesnt require being fertile, but it would also teach your child to live with and love someone who isnt of their own blood. This builds character for your child and will also most likely teach your kid the value of patience and understanding. I dont believe things are meant to be, but your situation seems like its straight from a movie. Dont be so worried about having another child of your blood and save another child from their unfortunate circumstance of having to live without loving parents. Its also more natural than fertility treatment. I dont know much about your specific case other than what youve told me, but i know people who have gotten pregnant even though they were told by doctors it couldnt happen
>>17190895
It sounds like you did all you could, some people are just grumpy and stubborn. Don't fret about it too much, anon.
>>17190899
Do you see any signs she doesn't like you? If you feel like you have nothing to lose you could be upfront about it and ask how she feels about you. You'll get the answer you want, and if she likes you it'll only help you get closer with her, not having this paranoia in the back of your mind.
>>17190874
Since you have a lot of time on your hands this could open the opportunity of either 1. Getting a job which lets you earn money, gain experience, and meet new people or 2. Focus more on your school work and find motivation towards being the best you can be scholarly. Thoughts?
>>17190889
Glad to have helped anon. Be the person you know you were meant to be. With hard work comes success
>>17190896
>>17190906
Thank you both for the replies. I am seeing a fertility specialist next week just to go over options and we've considered adopting. I loved being pregnant and carrying my baby but if it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be.
It will all work itself out. Thank you for the reassurance <3
>>17190895
OP here. First you must realize mistakes happen and it wasnt your fault. However this doesnt dismiss the action of hurting the lady. The only thing that matters is that you tried to help. Its good that you feel bad and that you offered assistance. But to answer you worries about getting charged with anything dont worry because she was the one that declined your help. So if you get taken to court or something (which, btw, wont happen) youre innocent. Use this as a lesson and dont worry about it further than that
OP here. Im grateful to have other anons helping out answering questions. Please be patient while waiting for an answer i will get to you. If you would like, help another anon in the thread out if they also havent recieved help yet. Thanks everyone
>>17190917
Thanks, anon, i guess i am pathetic.
One more hour of adv.
8 hours total.
>>17190936
Hey man, just want you to know that you're doing a good thing by helping others here. Some of us don't have anyone to vent to at all so it feels really good to be able to talk to another human sometimes.
Keep fighting the good fight.
>>17190844
I'm 30, unemployed living on my family's money. I dont have close friends but see people everyday due to some activities. Here's what I believe to be the main problem: I'm ugly. Any way around that?
>>17190899
OP here.Explain to her your situation without making it seem like a situation. Ik that sounds weird but girls (and fellas) sometimes get scared when a guy or girl asks them the (so what are we) question. Ask her out anon. If she likes you she WILL make time or make other plans to hangout on a different occasion if she doesnt have the time. If she doesnt like you in a romantic way then she will most likely decline in some way. Either way, dont make her feel bad if she declines to hangout. In her defence youve waited a very long time to ask her about her feelings towards you. In the future, try to know where you stand with a woman earlier on so she doesnt get tired of waiting
>>17190900
OP here. First you need to realize what youve done and assess the situation from there. Youre actually doing something similar to what ive done with this thread (open it to help others). You have offered to help your friends and they are now coming to you because you most likely either 1. Give good advice or 2. Reassure them with your friendly ways or 3. Both. Either way, they keep coming back for more help. So far we essentially have you being a good person and trying to help others out. Youre not a pussy for helping others. In fact it makes you quite valiant and caring (quite like a knight or a protector of sorts). You might know this deep down, and as youre reading this i hope you can agree. You seem very humble and rather modest which is why youd associate yourself with being a pussy before associating yourself with being a good friend. Or maybe you have a lack in confidence and achieve purpose by helping others. Either way, you have shown that you have a strong heart ( not literally but you get what i mean). Now for the begging question: what do i do now that i have attracted all of these other peoples problems into my own life? Well anon, first you need to realize that this can become rather draining and exhausting. Why do you think therapists and doctors get paid so much? Anyways, you have opened yourself up to these friends and now they expect you to help. Kind of like a deer in your backyard that wont go away because you kept feeding it because of how cute it was. Well anon, these friends deserve an explanation if you need a break from giving advice. Tell them you dont know how to help if you know their problems cant be answered with your knowledge. You could suggest to them to get professional help by a therapist.or, Tell them "hey sorry if it takes awhile to get back to you. Im just really exhausted lately." They will most likely understand. Bottom line anon- you are a good person
>>17190939
No, youre strong enough to realize the problem. Be strong enough to fix it. If there is no problem, then be happy with doing what you love and continue to surf the web lol.
>>17190941
Thank you anon i appreciate it
>>17190943
I dont need to see a picture to know youre not ugly but i will get to that soon. First, i need to know why you arent currently employed
>>17190995
I dont really need one so I only look for work half assed and get very picky.
>>17191033
Well if you and your parents are happy with living together and you dont mind living off of their money them i suppose we should focus on what you believe to be the problem. But first i need to know why its a problem. Is it a problem because it just generally destroys confidence or is it because you want romance and youre afraid youll be declined? If its the second one and you want romance your first steps should be to get a job and aim to finding a place of your own. If its the confidence deal then work youre heart out to fix it or accept it. What i mean by this is if you are overweight then make it your first priority to fix your diet and start working out. If its a skin problem and you have acne then 1. Stop picking 2. Eat better ( i can tell you a good diet if you want) 3. Drink water and stay away from sodas 4. See a professional. I listed seeing a professional last on purpose. In my experience theyre rather unhelpful and only give medicines that last as long as you take them. If its your haircut then get a haircut. If its your style let me know because i can help you with that as well. If its something you can fix then wear your ugliness like armor and it will never be used to hurt you. If someone doesnt like you because of your appearance to begin with then fuck them. But again it would help if i knew more about why you think youre "ugly"
I have a dilemma here.. I graduated from college recently and I feel that I have ben doing nothing around the house (despite already applying for grad schools and internships). What else can I do besides playing video games, watching TV, and surfing the Web? I even attempt to hit the gym but it's not helping. Plus, I don't even have a girlfriend.
I know someone asked a similar question above but I would appreciate some clarity in a different approach.
>>17190975
Sorry for the delayed advice. I received a call of the nature I described. Thank you for your advice and for your kind words, even if I think some of them might be too kind.
Maybe you're right and I just need a break from time to time.
Thank you for your time.
I teach middle-school age kids for a living. If I can put humility aside for a moment, I'm extremely good at working with kids. Almost every kid I work with and all of their parents tell me I'm the best teacher they've ever had or seen. Parents tell me I inspire and motivate their kids. Kids I used to coach (who are now adults) tell me that I changed their lives.
.... but I hate them all. I absolutely hate children. I hate their voices, I hate their attitudes, I hate their sense of humor, I hate their music, I hate their personalities, I hate absolutely everything about them.
I honestly and truly believe that by teaching these kids, I am making a positive difference in their lives, and in the world, but I am utterly miserable for 7 hours per day.
And at the end of those 7 hours, I want to go home to my own space. I want to get naked, have a shot of liquor and a bowl of weed, and not see or another human being.
BUT NO.
This shitty do-gooder job doesn't make enough fucking money to live alone, and thus I live in a house with three other people.
..... I suppose I don't really have a question, I just wanted to get all of that off my chest.
>>17191070
It is both the first and the second case. Of course that thinking myself ugly lowers my confidence. But the second case is the most important. Yes, I am overweight, although only slightly, about 10 pounds so its not an issue. I'm short, that's a biggie, cant really fix it. I do have acne and would love to hear your diet advice for this one.
And I guess getting a job and a place of my own would go a long way when trying to romance girls, and even more so if they are in my age range and expect to meet independent men already.
>>17191200
Actually, fuck it, I do have a question.
I'm really good with people in general and kids in particular. I also absolutely despite people in general and kids in particular.
So do I stick with my current job working with kids, which I hate but am really good at, or do I try to find some other line of work (and fucked if I know what)?
>>17191269
*DESPISE people in general.
>>17190733
Okay OP, So there's this girl I like, and she says she likes me and she's interested in me, and she was in a relationship with another guy but they recently broke up, and now she's really flirty with me and shit but I just heard that she's trying to get with some other guy. The thing is though, I asked her if it didn't work out with the guy she was dating if she'd want to date me. I dunno man, it seems like she's playing games and I'm getting tired and I'm starting to not care anymore. She told me to wait and I waited, now she's doing this bullshit. Should I give up on her?
>>17191285
Btw she said yes to my question.
>>17191167
First dont worry about the girlfriend thing. You need to be content with your own life before you seek someone else to care for and worry about. The whole gym thing is a good time sucker and its not the worst way to spend your time because its atleast productive. However my first suggestion is that you get a summer job. Trust me when i say your future employers will care how much work history you have and where you started. As well as work experience, you gain money and you get to interact with new people and maybe get a friend or two out of it. Hell, maybe youll kill two birds with one stone and find a girlfriend in that job. Im sure you parents will also respect that youre working since a lot of younger kids nowadays are too caught up in hanging out with friends and jerking off instead of creating a legacy. Also how long were you doing the gym thing? Because i hear a lot of people say "it doesnt work" but yeah nothing works unless you put in WORK. Real work and dedication. Not just stopping eating candy and sugars and hitting the weights every once in awhile. Id suggest cut the gaming down as well and spend it working out. Lets face it life is all about doing what you enjoy but 10 years from now will you be glad you beat some game on the hardest difficulty or glad you beat life when difficulty seemed hardest and you couldnt get those gains in the gym at first?
I have two questions.
How do I deal with being ghosted?
And
How do I make new friends?
>>17191203
http://www.annmariegianni.com/5-foods-that-reduce-breakouts/
Check this out for the acne thing. Trust me cutting down and dairy and everything else does help. Drink lots of fucking water and whatever you do DO NOT PICK YOUR FACE. Whether you know it or not a lot of acne problems are caused by what comes in contact with your skin. Make sure youre washing your clothes, bed and pillow sheets, face, and hands. When you pick at your face youre only spreading bacteria and irritating your already sensitive skin. Dont pick for 3 days and youll be surprised how much your acne can go down. When you see a white head itll have to go but do it cleanly with a tissue or clean surface. White heads dont just go away and can actually stay there for two weeks. So get those big guys but like i said dont be picking at every little spot you see. Dont worry about the weight thing too much but since youre also short like you said working out and gaining muscle will kill two birds with one stone. Gaining muscle will make your fat go away and make being short not as bad. And im not talking lifting weights every once in awhile. Do your research and put in that work man. And yes work on getting the job and getting your own source of income. Being indepent is a very important factor to consider before getting a girlfriend. Youll want to be able to take care of yourself to show women you can also take care of them. I know this is a lot of information but you will make it if you WORK for it. Nothing comes easy my friend. You dont need to workout get a job and girl all at once either. Make priorities and tackle your problems one step at a time.
>>17191269
Well this tricky for sure but its good youve atleast realized you hate your job. But honestly anon the answer is right infront of you. You hate your job and you hate your place. By what youve told me you dont like people and you use things like weed to give you an alternate reality. Your body is telling you to escape your current situation. Weed and getting naked is temporary. Finding something youre truly happy with will last forever. Find a job you enjoy and that will allow you to live independently. You dont have to, but id only smoke and drink at night. If you smoke in the morning or afternoon your day is essentially consumed by you eating from the munchies or staring at a wall. Use this time (and money saved from not buying drugs and drinks) to find a better job. Maybe youll have to go to school yourself to educate yourself on a job you know youve always wanted.
>>17191314
Alright man, thanks for the advice.
>>17191285
Anon there are so many red flags. Read what you said and pretend youre reading someone elses situation. We have 1. A girl who is notorious for talking to other guys while in relationships which makes her untrustworthy 2. A girl notorious for shit relationships 3. A girl who doesnt respect you enough to tell you that shes using you as plan B. I could go on to 4 5 and 6 but do i need to? you have 3 red flags and youre not even dating her yet. Usually the problems come AFTER youve gotten to know her in a girlfriend boyfriend way
>>17191313
Every situation is different my friend. If you were in high school or college id tell you to start talking to your classmates and get a job to meet new people. can you give me more details? Also an example of when you were ghosted? I can tell you how it could have been prevented or how you can prevent it from happening again. Thanks anon
>>17191336
Yeah, thanks anon. I guess I didn't want to see cause she is the first girl I've been interested in since my ex 3 years ago. Guess I'm giving up on her. Again, thank you.
I want to get better at meditation. How might I do this?
Also, does tripping on acid take your mind to a different dimension? Does it have profound effects on your mind?
>>17191352
No problem. Youre a good guy for being willing to wait, but she'll most likely take advantage of that. Find yourself a woman that doesnt play games with you or other people. Good luck anon
>>17190733
Working on getting my life together after years of just dragging my feet, I'd like to get a part time job but I'm 26 with no work history, have a partially completed computer science degree, don't know how to drive, sociable but insecure about performance like I'd probably just waste people's time with incompetence.
Wtf do I do?
Are no money / walking dates tacky?
[insert "imetagirl.txt" here] fairly sure shes into me, but I'm currently unemployed, can't really afford a restaurant date. The best I could do is a cinema.
She loves stars, so I'm leaning towards a beachwalk or something, but Im feeling that a walk by itself wouldn't really register as a date.
>>17190733
I am going on a summertrip to England. It's a bit like summer school. How do i get to be friends with the other ones?
It's been almost 3 months since my ex girlfriend of almost 1 year broke up with me. This was due to a lot of struggles we had before, in our home country. This did not get better when she left for her exchange semester to Taiwan in February. She broke up with me in March. I went to visit Taiwan in May (had my flight tickets booked already). We met up there, in a normal and respected fashion. I thought that I was over her afterwards, but it's not the case. Probably had the best holiday ever, on my own, with meeting new people and trying out new things on my own.
Sometimes I still feel this storm of emotions coming over me, whenever I think of our good times. I try not to check her FB or ask mutual friends (which we have a lot) how she is doing. Trying to move on, but it's tough. I go to the gym more often, I'm busy with 2 side jobs, moving to a new apartment and finishing my Master's whil generally thinking about what I want to do when I graduate. And honestly, I don't know the answer, yet.
So my question is twofold, I guess.
1) Since this is my first breakup, I would generally like to know whether I am doing okay, things the right way, etc. I still get confused about it all a lot of times.
2) How to know what you really want in life? One of the things that always drives me is helping people, and I study HR. So, something in development or coaching would be nice. I just don't know how to get there.
>>17191356
ill answer the acid thing first. Recently (as in like three months ago) i used acid off and on as an experiment of sorts. I heard about all of these success stories of people who did lsd to gain insight on their life and answer questions theyve been thinking on for awhile. Its funny you asked about the whole meditation thing because honestly its the only time i think acid should be used. Acid does not take you to another dimension, but instead give you a whole new perspective on life. However ill warn you, keep the usage of acid down. If you take acid once every week your tolerance will become so high that you will no longer feel the effects. I suggest take 1-2 every three weeks and never under 2 weeks apart. If you want to trip the fuck out and smell things youve never smelled or see distortions like youve never seen then take 3-5 tabs (im talkin 100mg each tab). 1-2 will for sure help out with meditation so long as you are in a calm and safe setting. I suggest you look more into acid as well. Like how where and when to take it and what to expect. It basically takes your emotions and magnifies them x100. When i took it i became very emotional and i couldnt eat or sleep. It did help me meditate though. something i wish someone told me before i took acid: dont take it down with water. I wasted a few bucks the first time i took a tab because i drank it down with water like medicine. Water destroys the chemical. However drink water throughout your trip to stay hydrated. To discuss meditating without acid, you can literally do anything and have it be meditating. Do something that takes you away from stress. You dont need to sit in a dark corner of your room in silence to meditate. In my opinion, the best way to meditate is to smoke a little weed, and take a long hike. If you get paranoid on weed then dont take it. If you dont have any trails around you jog around your neighborhood. I use weed because it helps me calm down and takes focus off of everything.
>>17191228
Dear starlord, I hope the answer will be a convicing one because it is really a great deal to me.
>>17191346 I'm 23, not in college, currently unemployed. It happened 9 days ago when I was sure, probably about 13 days ago if you ask her. Everything was going good as far as I could tell, I had a job working night shift at McDonald's she was the manager. We usually talked at least once a day even if it was just stupid shit. On our mutual days off we'd usually talk most of the day/evening. Every time we tried to hang out or go on a date there was a schedule conflict. She quit about a month ago and deleted all her social media accounts(I didn't have a phone at this point in time) 4 days later she reactivated fb to "talk to me". We spent almost everyday talking after that.
>>17190733
How do i become better at sales? I work woth a company a d we mainly do life insurance, but the people we client thru request benefits through their unions and are often very suspicious of me when i call them and i have no idea what to say to break them out of this ultra suspicious state of mind. How so i make people trust me when they only just met me?
>>17191363
you need structure and motivation and something to build your skills. Getting a job will help with all three. A full time job employer will usually never hire someone with no work history. Some jobs for the summer at your age could be roofing ore construction. When you get a job you will become more confident with yourself and learn not to be incompetent. You will also give yourself structure and discipline while getting money and experience as well. Have you considered military? Theyll knock you in shape and pay to finish that college education as well. My brother was in a similar situation as you. He joined the army as an airborne ranger, served 4 years, went to college for free and now lives in his new house that hes paid for with the computer science degree and job he got as network security and met his current wife in college.
>>17191369
Tell me about yourself and her anon. Youre thinking about it too hard. Picking a date should come naturally. If shes fit and likes excercise maybe that beach walk would be fun, but if shes overweight it could be a disaster and youll end up sitting at the beach getting sand up your asshole and freezing to death. Also how old are you? If youre under 18 its cool idgaf just tell me 18. Why no job anon?
>>17191370
Lucky dog. I liked england when i went. Friendly enough people (atleast in wales and london). But literally go up to someone introduce yourself. It might not seem like it but imagine if someone came up to you on the trip and they introduced themselves to you. How would you feel? Welcomed right? I know it can be hard to muster the confidence to talk to new people but introducing yourself to someone sitting by themselves makes all the difference. Literally no one is going to think any less of you if you socialize, they will only respect you. " hey im felix,*shake hand if you want* is this your first time going to england?" Boom you have yourself an introduction, youve broken the ice, and now started a convo.
>>17191399
You are so fucking wise. I try to be that too. But yeah, i will definetly do that :D
>>17191372
Whew youve got your plate full dont you? First thing is try not to stress the girl too much. Breakups are always hard. Did you go to tawain just to visit her? It seems to me you still have feelings for her. Honestly anon contacting her wouldnt be bad. It certainly wouldnt damage your relationship considering you dont talk as much anymore. Talk to her and see if she still likes you. If she does, then youre in business. If not, atleast you know the truth and you can focus on other things. if contacting her is out of the question then youre doing fine. Getting over a one year relationship will take time. Ik how you feel, trust me. I didnt think my heart could actually physically hurt in an extreme way until i went through a breakup like that. It gets better as time goes on. The second question is a bit more difficult because i only know what youve told me so far. Dont rush yourself to find something you truly want. My dad didnt know he wanted to join the navy until he went to a parade and saw a navy float. You know you want to help people and i think youre studying in the right field. Research jobs that connect to the field of study youre in and look at the reasons why youd want to and not want to work at certain places. Take your ideal attributes for a job and pick the one that alligns with them best.
>>17191378
Your account is fake and so is his. If his isnt then hes bluffing. He isnt legally allowed to blackmail you with information. If he caught you and you pissed him off and he didnt charge you then hes full of shit. No law enforcer would go out of all that way to find someone on some dating site and then not file charges when he found someone doing something illegal. Hes full of shit and you should stop all communications with him.
>>17191385
My main concern with military is I've been taking care of my dad since he had a stroke last year and while he can be okay by himself for half a day, whole days/weeks/etc would be an issue and I don't have anyone able or willing to help with that.
Thanks for your advice though.
>>17191382
Sorry anon but isnt ghosting when you stop talking to someone? She clearly likes you if she redownloaded fb for the purpose of talking to you
>>17191415
First, and foremost I went to Taiwan in order to just go ahead and try to ENJOY. Enjoy everything that I came to, without thinking too much of 'we could have been here together'. Eventually, it was one of the best holidays I had, on my own. But, secondly, yeah, I needed the closure so for me, meeting up was kind of essential. Yes, I still have feelings for her.
Why, if ever, would I try and contact her again without any direct reason? Why would I be "in business" if she still likes me? I don't care, I just want to move on and cherish the things we had without clinging too much to it. Thanks for your feedback, though, but I think that, at some point, the contact would just be like 'Yeah I'm ok, you?' 'I'm okay, too.' 'Okay, cool' '...' '...' and I don't want that forced thing. If I do feel the sudden urge to contact her and see how she is doing, then I will.
Thanks for your tips on the second part, that will help me a bit. Although I generally do still need experience, which requires jobs that might be less interesting at first.
>>17191383
Introduce yourself, be genuine, practice what youre going to say before you do, pick clients that allign with the people who usually buy what youre selling. Dont be short, dont let them do all the talking youre the one who called them.
>>17191404
Awesome anon, have fun in england
>>17191435
Thanks dude.
>>17191428
Not just stop talking but basically doing your best to completely disappear to them. If she liked me why would she do that?
Why do mountains exist?
>>17191425
Im sorry anon you do have a full plate. Id focus on getting that job though for sure. Perhaps consult with your dad about everything. Parents are pretty wise man.
>>17191431
So you went to taiwan where your ex was staying to take your mind of your ex? Thats more confusing then checking up on her through messaging but its your choice. Since you dont want to contact her id just keep doing what youre doing then. I get where youre comimg from though. You dont want to be that guy that pops back into peoples lives unannounced. For the second part youll for sure need to build up your credibility which may require working at different places. Good luck anon
>>17190733
I have a gay friend. He keeps telling me, that he is in love with me, and wants to kiss me, but i don't want that.
We were bestfriends once, then one weekend it all ended, and we became more distanced every day that passed, since then. I can't ecen look him in the eyes without being afraid. What to do anon?
>>17191439
Just because she deleted her social medias doesnt mean she wants to escape you. There are so many other factors or reasons as to why someome would want to escape. And if she wanted to escape you then shes doing a terrible job by doing all that just to contact you again through a fb she made for the sole purpose of talking to you. I dont think she ghosted you at all, she probably just needed a breath of fresh air. If anything it should show you that she cares about you. She seperated herself from all of her friends online but is still talking to you
>>17191450
I was not going to Taiwan to take my mind off my ex.. I knew that I was going to think about her, there. I went to Taiwan in order to enjoy and explore new things, to check whether travelling on my own is still a good thing for me and to -pfererably- meet new people. That all worked out. She was definitely on the last place in there. Sorry for the miscommunication there.
>that person that pops bank into peoples lives unannounced
True, and I'd like that 'important' people don't do the same, to be honest. I know when she is coming back to the Netherlands, and I know that, at some point, we will get in touch once again. Where we are at that point, we'll just see.
Thank you for your reflection, OP.
>>17191455
That sounds like a pretty toxic relationship. You shouldnt fear your friends. Id tell him straight up how you feel. If he continues to talk to you sexually it could mean that you need to take a break. When you talk now, how does he speak to you? Why are you no longer best friends?
>>17191440
That magic dude in the sky pinched the ground... Right?
>>17191460
She was up until 9(13) days ago. She's since reactivated fb and blocked me.
>>17191469
Did you get into an argument before she blocked you? That seems pretty random man. I dont think she'd do that without a reason of some sort. You never got her number?
>>17191460
She was up until 9(13) days ago. She's since reactivated fb and blocked me.
>>17191464
We aren't speaking much, we are beginning to hate each other, and all that because he thought he saw signs. He acts awkward (at least he says) when he is nearby, and he is so uncormfortable to be nearby.
He keeps looking at my private parts too, i mean. My ass and dick, and i feel so insecure when i am near him. We both want to have a friendship like before, but i doubt that is ever going to happen. And he has the worst double standards. He says, that i should stop being childish, because i spoke my mind, but everyday you can hear him scream "MOTHER!!!" at my bestfriend (who is also his bestfriend and shes a girl btw). And yells "This is rape" because we were playing dodgeball.
>>17191472
Sorry for the double post. I got her number but she hung up after I told her it was me and blocked my number, I've tried using other people's phones and she won't answer. I've also tried using a text free app and after my 8th number on the 7th day since being ghosted all I got was "leave me the fuck alone anon Please jesus". We hadn't had any sort of fight recently and the everyone we have was resolved as far as I know. She was never a very affectionate/clingy person and I kind of am, if that'll help you with your advice giving.
Thank you wise anon.
>>17191489
So you say youre more clingy and i think that could be the source. She probably felt like she was being suffocated with affection and is now trying to get you away. Its pretty fucked up that she gave you no reasoning whatsoever. Its surreal when someone you care about does that to you. The only thing i want you to do is to not beat yourself up about it. You are not at fault and you deserve better. But since your original question was how to prevent being ghosted is to be less "clingy." While you only did it because you liked her, being "clingy" is usually very "cringy". Again, you didnt do anything wrong, but most people need space and if you get too close too quickly then you could scare the person away. In the future, take things slower. When youre friends with someone you both live your own lives and both parties shouldnt feel like their life is being intruded upon. If you want to show affection simply take her out on a date. Affection is better shown in person rather than texting or calling. One reason is because texting something can be interpreted very differently. For example sarcasm will sometimes go unnoticed and something you werent serious about could be taken seriously. To answer the how to get friends question, be yourself man. Dont try too hard and just be yourself. Socialize with as many people as you can. It doesnt need to be a full blown convo. Just some quick banter among coworkers works. After time, you will become more comfortable with them and you can start up longer convos
How can I unleash my full intellectual potential?
How do I concentrate more at my crappy fastfood job? I was either slow or messed up some stuff today, and I don't want to lose my job.
>>17191517
Some people will tell you to read books. Some people will tell you to go out into the world and experience shit for yourself. 1. Reading books are sometimes pretty draining and time consuming. Nothing wrong with reading, just dont rely on it for your primary source of enlightenment. 2. Going out in the world is also time consuming, sometimes accomplishes nothing, and costs money. If you want to unlock your full potential you must first become more aware of your surroundings. By this i dont mean pay attention at the details in the room youre in. Dont over analyze shit. Simply be aware of current news, events, etc. this doesnt mean keeping up with the kardashians. Keep up on things like whats happening globally like our presidency, terrorists in foreign countries, etc. why? Because you need to know how the world works before you can pick it apart and explore every meaning. whats the point of learning the physics behind a rocket if you dont know the purpose of the rocket? (Just an example). accept you will never know everything and focus on the things that matter to you most.
I asked a girl out after talking to her and getting on pretty well for a while, but she was busy. She started talking to me a lot more after that though so I asked her out again and she said yes- I can honestly say it went pretty good and I got some good vibes from it. After that she just hasnt really talked to me at all and just isnt the same as she was before (used to snapchat me a lot and always used to respond but now just doesnt even open them or respond) but said yes to going out again. Im honestly so confused now and just have no idea whats going on with her. Is this salvageable or should I just move on now?
>>17191520
Get enough sleep and stop drinking alcohol or doing drugs. Take things one step at a time and dont rush yourself. Plan what youre going to do before you do it and then you will learn to take on tasks as theyre happening. Also its pretty important that you ask your coworkers what works for them. Youre not alone in the restaurant so get inside info
>>17191529
Well if she says shes busy she probably either was or didnt want to talk. Since she keeps agreeing to hangout its safe to say she was busy. Take out the "if she likes me shell make time for me" bullshit because some people genuinely have stuff going on in their life. If you think it went well, it probably did. If youre asking stuff like "did i do something wrong when we hungout" youll freak her the fuck out. Be mellow anon. Be chill. Is she a chill gal? If so, dont over analyze things. You know why you shouldnt? Because she isnt and itll freak her out when you create a problem from nothing. If shes agreeing to hangout again then she probably digs you. Also with the snapchat thing, you could just be sending too many and she only likes the occasional snapchats. If youre sending stuff you post to your story to her as well that gets pretty annoying and unless your face is in the snap i wouldnt send it. Nothing is more annoying than snapchatting someone who takes a picture of a black surface them types what they want to say. it gets tiresome and you might as well be texting
I feel so empty inside. I have thought seriously about suicide pretty much every day since I was 15. I lead a pretty good life but I can never be happy. Tried a couple of times in the past. Should I just try again tonight?
How can I shock myself into a complete change? I want to improve but I'm depressed and no ammount of medicine, therapy or self-discipline can help me get in touch with myself and my motivation for anythibg. Im not dead but not living either. I feel like a shock to the system could be my last hope
>>17191557
First of all suicide is never the answer. There are african children who make their food by pouring eggs into the hot dirt in their desert to heat them and then eat the dirt covered eggs. Why do you think you are upset anon? Why is it worth dying over?
>>17191560
What are you unsatisfied with in life other than your lack of motivation?
Boring crush stuff here, but well, I got my life together otherwise (besides of maybe wanting a better job but I'll think about that after I finish uni, and I know I gotta do networking and improve skills)
So, a girl I like has told me numerous times she doesn't want a relationship with anybody. She knows I got a crush on her unless she treated it as a joke since I said it half-jokingly each of the few times I said it. We've became close friends pretty fast, we only know each other for 4 months or so. Apparently I'm one of the very few people whom she invited to her place and allow to meet her grandma (who's intimidating as fuck but said I seem like a fine young man). She says she's always a dick to guys who get crushes on her so they stop, but she's actually really nice to me, about as much as I'm nice to her. When I talked about her to a female friend, the friend said it's likely that she has a crush on me, but the friend may not be objective as, well, she had a crush on me herself. Still, I'm willing to bet on it and ask her out some time. The question is, what would be a right moment? Considering she was talking about how she doesn't want any relationships at all just a month ago, I don't want to disrespect that and ask her if she wants to be my gf. I'm also afraid this may make things awkward and I don't want to lose the friendship since it's not that easy for me to find friends like that (specific hobbies, humor sense, tastes, all that jazz).
Also, how do you even ask a girl out? I only ever had casual sex, never had a gf even though I'm almost 23 ;-;
>>17191553
Thank you anon, this has helped a lot. I have no intention of asking her any questions like that or getting into any talks abour feelings and havent done anything like that yet. I know for sure i didnt do anything wrong during the hangout, ive just been a bit disheartened by her change in behaviour because we did most of our talking through snapchat and did snap a lot now she just wont reply or straight up ignores them (like she opened it in front of me yesterday and one I sent was halfway down the list unopened) I never post anything to my story mostly just individual snaps to the people i actually want to talk to. I just feel like shes not interested but is saying yes to not hurt my feelings or am I genuinely just being a bitch about it?
>>17191570
Simply put I do not enjoy anything, really. I am mostly sad and feel like laying or sleeping all day. I resent my parents for bringing me to life. I feel like I should have never been born. I see everyone be so happy, but more than anything that they want to do things. They have desire. They connect with others. I do not. I have never.
>>17191577
Well since shes bringing you home and introducing you to family youre certainly special. I wont pretend to know how all girls work because theyre all different but in my experience if she hangs out with you that much and likes you enough to introduce you to her mean grandma youre either in the friendzone or shes changed her mind about the dating thing. When was the last time she said she didnt want a relationship? If it was recently and you care this much about her i would ask her to come with you somewhere to hangout. A park would be nice, or a beach, even going to a concert together. I wouldnt worry about getting friendzoned for another guy so you have time. If youve already been friendzoned then it wont matter. I would wait it out anon. Dont ask her questions like "what are we" but tell her sweet things like "i really liked hanging out with you today thanks for coming with me." What kind of girl is she like anon? Shy? Outgoing? Athletic? A lot of friends?
>>17191581
Youre not being a bitch. Women are confusing and you, me, and every other heterosexual guy as delt with a situation like this. Your great great great great great grandfather was probably wondering why >insert your great freat great great great grandmothers name< didnt allow him to take her on a carraige ride when the day before they had the best time fishing on the river. Women are unpredictable. She could be going through some stuff. Its pretty uncommom that a girl would let another guy take her out just because she felt bad for him. I think shes into you, but just dont get worked up about it. Be a gentlemen and dont be dumb and ask for nudes. Theres a lot of things that can scare a girl off but i think youre fine anon
>>17191593
You a teenager? The whole parents thing shows me youre still living with them, otherwise they wouldnt be in the equation. You seeing a lot of people tells me youre either abnormaly sociable or youre just around people a lot. Im guessing youre in school and you hate everyone there and you know you dont fit in. Is this the case? If so, you just matured before everyone else and youre probably tired of playing games. Hormones are killer man, but youll make it.
>>17191575
With myself and everything Ive Done and havent done, safe to say I often despise myself and do not have a healthy, stable self image. Im terribly envious of others lives and personalitatea and how their mind isnt their worst enemy.
I finished college in a field I dont like and will not work in, still live with my family or whats left of it, have rejected dozens of jobs because the idea of being confined to a schedule that will rob precious hours from my already wasted life is driving me nuts. No friends, no nothing because this world is boring and tiresome.
I know how edgy and cliche this sounds, but I just want to rest and sleep forever.
Should I try drugs?i heard about people having their perspective changed and broadened. Was thinking of NDEs too but would probably die or end up disabled
>>17191618
22, last year of undergrad. Live at parents during the summers. I do go out a lot, I feel better when I am drunk or drugged. Even have a girlfriend of two years. I thought I loved her for a while, maybe I did.
I have some heroin stashed up for when I want to end it. Enough to get a horse. I've always known that when I died it would be on my own terms. I just have never known when.
>>17190733
Please explain the Albigensenist Heresy.
>>17191621
Nah, a lot of people are going through what you are. To me it seems like you envy people not because of their mental status but because theyve found something they like doing and you want that. You dont want anyone else to have it because youre not happy with the choices youve mad. Honestly, i think its our school systems fault. Its pretty fucked up how people nowadays are forced to learn these unhelpful things like how to find the radius of a circle but not how to find jobs you want, deal with common life issues etc. its never too late to start over anon. Just because you think youve wasted time doesnt mean you cant start over. Im not going to bullshit you though anon, get yourself a job somewhere. No employer later down the road will hire you if youre someone without work experience. You dont need to be in school right now. Plenty of people go to school in their 40s. If you don KNOW what you want to go to school for dont bother wasting your time and money. Get yourself a job. Just because a lot of starting jobs suck doesnt mean theyre "robbing" you of your time. You learn lessons, gain experience and money, meet new people, and find what you like and dislike in jobs. When you find a starting job you will begin to see where you belong and what direction you want to go in. Being "confined" to a schedule is actually good. It teaches you responsibility and punctuality, both will increase your confidence levels.
>>17191611
Thanks for the reply anon. The last time she told me that was 3-4 weeks ago, I think, but I may be wrong because we hang out a lot. Usually it's in a bigger group but sometimes it's just in two - I'm too shy/afraid I will annoy her to offer that, actually she was the one to initiate it each time (I think it was 3 times. one time we left her sisters place and she asked if I wanna grab another beer in the park, another she asked if I wanna see a movie I wanted to see with her, and another she said she's actually near my place and bored so I asked if she wanna come to hang out).
As for what kind of person she is, well. I think she is rather shy, but at the same time she's got a bunch of friends and sometimes goes to parties, gets along with coworkers well etc. Similar to me I guess. We're both artistic, although I only draw and play some drums while she draws and is really good at music (used to attend a music school).
Maybe the thing about telling her nice things like that is a right way to go indeed
>>17191613
Thanks anon, this is some genuinely reassuring shit to hear, I appreciate it. And don't worry, I'm definitely not stupid enough to ask for nudes
>>17190733
What is the half-life of Strontium 90?
>>17191631
Throw out the drugs and stop taking them. If you want to leave the world then thats that. If you try and succeed then you will have accomplished something that will motivate you to keep going. I know its cliche but if you end your life you will have only fixed your problem and started so many others for other people. Be fucking strong anon. Call your parents and tell them how you feel. Theyve probably seen it all. Im being serious. Tell them you are lost and you dont know where youre going and that you need their help.
>>17191634
>i will answer your questions
>tell me about so and so event
Give me a question and i will answer
>>17190733
Who promoted Peress?
How do I commit to things? Since college I've flitted from job to job, woman to woman. I get comfortable with someone or something, then the novelty wears off and I progress very quickly to no giving a fuck. The spark dies out and I just think about the next big thing.
furthermore, how do I get more energy? My friends are sick of me, Friday night rolls around and I just want to stay in and chill because I'm tired. Going out drinking after work just doesn't do it for me anymore.
>>17191636
If shes inviting you places then telling her nice things is definitley a good thing. You two have an awesome friendship and seem to get along very well and have a lot in common. You both like art so if theres a cool museum ask her if she'd want to go with you. also, if youre specific she'll be really impressed. For example if she liked a certain artist and you were to say "hey i know you like >artist< and i think theres some works similar to his at >name of a museum near you<. Not only would she appreciate that you thought about her and how she specifically liked someone, she'll also probably feel flattered to be asked out. It doesnt have to be a date either and you dont need to use my example. Mix it up and be spontaneous. You seem like a good guy anon and she'll be lucky to have you. You just need to make it happen! If you hit a dead end in the future and im not here to give advice id suggest find out why she doesnt want a boyfriend. Good luck m8
>>17191641
Np anon good luck
>>>17191393
I'm 19 shes 18. No job because parents wouldn't let me get one while I was studying, shes pretty fit but not a junkie.
>>17191646
28.8
>>17191657
A true believer
>>17191661
You could be questioning the wrong people. You wonder why YOU are going from woman to woman but could it be that these women just werent for you? Could it be that these jobs just werent for you? You become committed to something after you know you like them enough to. I think your only problem is that youre not seeking what you know will make you truly happy.
Sometimes when I talk to a friend or family member I'm close with, I tend to resort to lowbrow humor (telling my mom if anyone attacks her I'd shove my thumbs into their eye sockets and rape them, asking my friend if he'd be willing to slowly eat a banana and record it, ect ect)
The thing is, I'm almost 20 and there's a high female population in my workplace. I feel though it's harmless jesting, I'm unsure if it's too immature or not.
>>17191667
Buy som nice food and take her on a picnic one summer day. "Hey, this saturday if youre not busy do you want to hangout? I heard the weather was supposed to be nice and i wanted to know if you wanted to have lunch in the afternoon at the park?" Affordable, spontaneous, memorable, kind, and romantic but still friendly
>>17191686
Really depends on the women. If theyre playful then it could be okay. Id take out the rape shit though, a lot of people can get "triggered" by it. To play it safe it stick with clean humor until you know for sure. Test the waters i suppose. In my experience women like gentlemen before jokesters
>>17191694
I'd never use such humor around someone I didn't know very well. What I'm basically asking is if I use such humor with certain people, could ot give the wrong impression?
>>17190733
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck would chuck wood?
>>17191712
Yes. a lot of people in the workforce dread coming to work and are there because they need money. Id chill with the jokes in the workplace. Not worth getting backfire if someome takes a joke the wrong way
>>17191717
the volume of dirt in a typical 25–30-foot (7.6–9.1 m) long woodchuck burrow, and so if the woodchuck had moved an equivalent volume of wood, it could move about 711 pounds (323 kg) on a good day, with the wind at his back
>>17191635
Thank you for the kind advice, anon
I did apply for those jobs having all this in mind but I bailed out as soon as I had to actually start working. I can´t shake off the feeling that whenever I get myself into something like this, long-term, that it´s wrong and it´s not where I should be although at the age of 27 I still don´t know what I want and where I belong. Nothing seems right or worth pursuing long enough and am plagued by this sense of urgency that I have to do the right, important, meaningful thing now because time is running out.
I did manage to hold a job for about a year and hated every second of it. Acted immaturely by slacking off or leaving work earlier because of the thought that I may die anytime and I didn´t enjoy the beautiful sunsets I love so much or didn´t get to do this or that.
I still think I need to slap myself real hard back into the ´waking state´and start do some living. Just wonder how....but thank you anon
>>17191664
Thanks for the support anon! I need to look into stuff we can do together like that, although there's another problem altogether... I'm really good friends with her sister as well, and they're close to each other, plus she also has the same hobbies, although her temperament is different. We often hang out in three, two times we hanged out in two happened just recently, in May. Before that (from February to April) it was only one time and otherwise we hanged out in three or more. The sister would feel left out if we went to an event like that just in two. Actually, she was really down and moody the last time we hanged out just in two; the last time I was even thinking about talking her up to come too and I bet the girl thought about it also, but I selfishly wanted to spend time with her alone, and she didn't suggest that either so I assumed it's fine.
I'm also afraid that even if somehow we end up together, the sister will be sort of jealous, not in romantic/sexual way (although she implied somewhat hard she's sexually attracted to me one time when we were drunk af and just in two), but, like... her sister and one of her best buds start going out together, I imagine it'd feel a bit meh.
As for why she doesn't want a boyfriend - she implied it's because her first and only boyfriend ended up cheating on her after 6 months relationship, but another time she also told me she wasn't even interested in him at first, he just asked her out so she went for it, but she admitted they ended up liking each other a lot. I dunno why he cheated, perhaps because she didn't want to have sex, but that's just a wild guess. I'm pretty asexual so I wouldn't mind her not wanting to have sex if that happened to me.
>>17191726
I don't really use them in the workplace, just with those people. But my concern basically was the people I make the jokes with raising alarm with my coworkers.
But thank you.
>>17191739
I hope i helped atleast a little. Dont feel so urgent about doing things. Do what makes you happy. Ive never given advice like this before, but maybe even consider living off grid in the wilderness. No one to answer to, no politics, asshole employer. Get yourself a friend or two, a dog, and some camping gear and find yourself in the wilderness.
OP here guys. Its 6:37 AM and i have work at 5pm and its the opening night of alice and wonderland so itll be busy as fuck. I work at a theatre. Ive been in this thread for 7 hours and some change and i hope i helped some of you. I know i said id stay until the thread died but i guess i wasnt expecting to be up until 7AM. Ill stay for a few more minutes to reply to anyone ive given advice to already but i want be answering any new questions. Its been a pleasure
>>17191746
Reassure her when youve decided its time to ask her to be your girlfriend youd never hurt her like the fucker who cheated on her. I think the sister will live, try not to worry about her unless the girl you like is worrying.
>>17191747
Then i think youre fine
>>17191762
>>17191756
Yep, gonna do that - I believe I seem like an earnest guy, but she might have gotten wrong ideas about me as I admit pretty easily I've had casual sex, browse Tinder and laugh at girls saying they like my description etc. This might have been a mistake. I gotta stop using it, lol.
Thanks for all the advices, anon! You seem like a wise guy, and I'm sure you helped a whole bunch of people in those few hours, me among them. Have a good night sleep and a good time at work afterwards!
Farewell anons its been a pleasure answering your questions. I now pass on the mantle of responsibility to anyone who would claim it. If you want to answer other peoples questions comment that you will so people know theres still someone to talk to
>>17191772
Thank you. All i ask in return is that you help others when you can
I'm an aspiring commercial pilot. It's been a dream of mine since I've been a little shit (cliché I know) but the feeling I get when flying is just so.... Peaceful, calming. I'm afraid that I can't quite articulate the feelings I experience wen flying. I live in Sweden so I live in a country where I have an oppourtunity to pursue my dream. Here's the catch though. I, myself am not ethnically Swedish and am from the middle east. I'm born here and believe it or not I speak swedish as good as any other swede. In some cases even better. I have no criminal record whatsoever. Is it still possible form me to pursue my dream? I can imagine that this would turn a few heads around when they hear a middle eastern guy wants to become an commercial pilot (reason for commercial is because of da big planes) and that It could be a reason for me to not be admitted. I would pay and attend a private school but sadly I don't have 120K$ to my name...
/adv/, what is up with people dipping out of problems when there's the slightest bit of difficulty? Are we not social creatures who need each other? Are people just unwilling to stick together and problem solve together and communicate?
I'm engaged to my highschool sweet heart but I'm longer in love due go things falling apart and found someone I want to date. Only relationship we've ever been in. Fiances are tangled together
>>17190733
Last year I made one of the best friends I have ever had. It ended suddenly. I still do not know why. Everything was going so well and the next time we had plans to do something...silence. He eventually told me he needed to be alone for a while. So, I let him be.
After a few months he reached out to me. I responded and we have been texting each other for months. He says he wants to meet up again. He says he wants to catch up. He says he misses me and considers me a friend.
Every time we make plans, he backs out. He gives some excuse to not be there. Twice, it was helping his sister move, then it was anxiety (he has ADHD & an anxiety disorder). I said I understand and didn't want to make things worse. I wanted to treat him to lunch for his birthday. He asked me if we were still on for the same time and place as planned the day before. I said yes. I showed up, he said he thought we cancelled and was elsewhere with family.
He was a great friend. He made 2015 one of the best years of my life. While I have moved on, I still hope to reconnect. I still think he is a good person. He says he doesn't have many people in his life. I just want to be that friend that doesn't ditch him. When I stay quiet for a while, he eventually reaches out again.
Am I being strung along? Should I bother trying to reconnect? Should I cut him from my life and give up on him like everyone else?
My ADHD is affecting my life too much and I can't seem to get rid of it. I've tried concerta, Adderall, meditation and I still find it extremely hard to focus on thing that I don't find entertaining. I can focus on movies, videogames, areas of interest, etc but when I'm listening to someone talking vout incredibly dense subjects like thermodynamics or calculus I daydream, my mind wanders off and it's literally like post UFO abduction lost time syndrome.
I also have incredibly low willpower, I can't seem to make an effort on things that I dislike. I admit I lack discipline because I've been pampered throughout my childhood but at least I recognize my faults and want to change. I've gone from shrinks to shamans and I got to get through with this shit because I'm about to inherit my fathers company and im going to start studying industrial mechatronics and I can't flunk it.
>>17191289
Thanks, that helped tremendously.
>>17190733
I went out with a grill on Thursday. I didn't consider it a date, but the outing went really well. How should I tell her I have feelings for her? I want to strike while the iron is hot, but I don't want to rush it in case I haven't built enough attraction with her. I kept her entertained and made her laugh a lot. She even lost track of time!
From my experience, girls need to be led to the romantic feelings. I don't want to do it over text, but I don't think I can afford the time to wait until I see her again.
What are the numbers for Eurojackpot drawing (04. June 2016)?
>>17190733
A girl in this board completely fell for me but the thread got archived before i got any contact info, who was her? pls find her..
Update on this, I talked to them about it and at first they were a bit hesitant, but they eventually said ok and now I'll be on my own path. Planning everything out and I'm going to start the rest of my life soon
>>17193485
was meant for
>>17190834
Thanks op
Is this thread still going? I was working til late. Could I please ask you something, too?
>>17190949
Thanks for the help. You're the best :^)
>>17190733
Who's on first?
Hey there :^)
So, i met this girl at a party a few months ago, she was looking at me a lot and laughing at my shit, so i added her on fb and we talked a lot, it quickly became pretty flirty and she clearly showed interest.
I asked her out, she wasn't available. But we kept talking and she asked me out.
Everything felt good, but a day before the date she told me out of the blue she asked if her boyfriend could come. Her BOYFRIEND. I was pretty confused and i expressed it. She said it was complicated and that he won't come if i'm still ok.
So i went anyway and fuck, it was great. Like a perfect first date, except she has a bf. She made strong eye contacts, laughed, and touched me a few times, was close to me.
She explained that he's her ex that she left bc he was a lazy junkie, but he came back 2 weeks ago and she said ok because "everyone deserves a second chance", but she said they still fight and he stays all day at home. She didn't seem convinced.
Now i'm seeing her again in a few days (going to the museum) and i don't know what to think of it. I know i'll try to make a move but idk if i have a chance or if i'm just deep into friendzone.
So what do you think I should do ?
I know i won't feel bad for "stealing" her from that guy if something happens, he already had his chance.
And i'm sure she's genuine, not playing with me or some stuff. She seems to put effort into keeping contact and all
>>17192881
Oh sweet
>>17193995
*met her a few weeks ago, not months
A childhood friend of mine is in a shitty relationship of 2 years. She said she sees me as a brother but makes sexual jokes all the time and goes out of her way to make physical contact. My mom says she is just very affectionate but I'm not sure what to make of it. I'm not really attracted to her physically but she is being such a tease I can hardly control myself, it's nice having someone admire me so much too. We spooned last night but I have no idea how to initiate sex in this situation. She's told me about her incest fantasies and how much she hates her bf. I've never initiated sex myself without being thoroughly liquored up. Any advice?
Also, when to bring up something like a foot fetish? She always wears socks or hose so I don't even know how they look.
>>17191647
I got really messed up tonight
at least I didnt kill myself right??
surprise the thread is still up
>>17190733
I've been in love with a girl for six years now, but we haven't talked in three. Met online, had a LDR for two years and I've regret calling it off ever since I did. I just want to talk to her again. I don't have any way of contacting her though, and it's been killing me recently. What do?
>>17190733
Is there a way to get antidepressants without a prescription? I was diagnosed, but got the diagnosis rescinded to not deal with the stigma of having a mental illness (You're blacklisted from certain jobs). I can't be on record as taking them.
How does one gain self confidence again after so many bad relationships? Current girl said I'm not ready yet, I'm still figuring myself out. I've hurt her feelings many times and she's forgiven me everytime, this is the last straw. I didn't get laid, nerves got to me, and it hurt my confidence as well... any tips on self confidence?
>>17194050
>childhood friend
>in a shitty relationship and bitches to you about it
>thinks of you as a brother, and has expressed her incest
>fucking spooned you, touchy-feely all around, and your mom just disregards it as normal behavior to boot
If this was like one of my chinese cartoons, this would be the point where she finally cracks and slips drugs into your food so she can finally have her way with you. But seriously, unless this is somehow my virginity seeing things that aren't there, she's clearly interested in you. The only real question is if you're feeling like you want to be in a relationship with her, and care about risking your current relationship together.
