So, I'm in a serios relationship now, 4 years down the road. I want to hear your point of view on the following:
How open should you be about your past/current activities? I have a policy of being very secretive and keep everything to myself because there is too much potential to end up in prison. However this is my first long term relationship and I am not sure if it's wrong to keep big secrets.
If the roles were switched, would you want to know?
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Probably, but I'm biased because I'm in certain situation in which I could emphatize and not freak out about it. Still irrelevant though, what you guys think?
No one cares to weigh in?
Depends on what the secret is if I'd be supportive. So spill the beans.
>too much potential to end up in prison
...should we even ask why??
Depends on what you've done and who you're dating, and how much you value the relationship.
I haven't done very much truly illegal stuff, but I'm still selective about who I tell things to. Is it nice to be able to be totally open with someone, oh totally. Do I always do so? No. I might tell someone stuff I really don't think they'll react well to if it's important to MY side of the relationship. I like being able to not have secrets.
That said, how long you wait matters, especially if it's something touchy. A person's affection for you won't always trump their prejudice about certain actions, and if you've waited a long time, they may feel deceived rather than happy you've opened up.
